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>know a girl on net for years
>Introduce her to guy I know who lives near her
>Fast forward 4-5 months all 3 of us pretty much become "best friends"
>Develop oneitis crush on girl outta nowhere
>Realise it's nearly inevitable that they're gonna start dating because of how close they are emotionally (cause of the friendship) and physically
I keep getting very jealous and depressed about this, but I don't know what to do. I can't stop talking to them but the more I talk to them the worse it gets. I feel like we all have so much in common that I don't have with anyone near me and i feel so lonely over here
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firstly, idiot, only betas introduce girls to other guy friends unless you're already banging them
secondly, idiot, read what I just wrote
learn from this mistake
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>>18410219
Fuck this i hate this alpha beta rules for living shit I just wanted someone to like me that's why I liked these people because they seemed out of the norm in terms of what they deem acceptable for a person and now it's back to this mathematical calculating every step in my life which I'm so horrible at doing constructively. The only people capable of accepting me hurt me the most
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So here's a recap of the last ~30 days:
>girl #1 who I had been talking to for the last six months and gone on dates with finally gets back in town from university
>reveals she actually hooked up with some random guy two weeks ago and we can't actually date now that she's back
>whatever, I'll see who else is out there
>meet girl #2 and go out on a couple dates
>turns out she was just using multiple guys to get free drugs and alcohol because she's not 21 yet
>meet girl #3
>seems nice enough, go out on several dates over a few weeks
>really insistent that I drive an hour through heavy traffic to hang out with her friends
>help her with all of her piss-easy classes that she would be failing if it weren't for preferential grading, thanks to her "lol I don't have to work hard" attitude
>don't mind too much because relationships involve some amount of give and take
>today she randomly hooks up with some dude out of the blue and starts ghosting me
I'm not looking for advice, just here to rant about how shitty the current generation of women have gotten.
>inb4 they're not all like that or it's just your fault
Lol...
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Yes blame the girls, not your skills of selection
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>>18410217
See, this is just what I'm talking about. The epidemic of terrible women is being caused by the fact that every shitty thing they do is deflected back onto the guy somehow. If a man were doing those things you would rightfully call them an asshole.
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>>18410225
I would say the woman had bad choice in men
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How to deal with guilt caused by ruining someone's life?
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I've been with my ex gf for a year, and friends with her 3 months before that. It's been more of a long distance relationship than anything, but plane flights were taken sometimes so that we saw each other. Over time, I became more and more bored of our relationship... I became toxic, but I stayed loyal. I would call her out on the smallest things, and all she really wanted was love. I was on and off, but I blamed my fucked up past for that. Fast forward to the breakup, I realized I messed up and decided to try and get back with her two days afterward. It was too late by then apparently, she has wanted to break up since a certain event at a club.
Here's the thing, she has always had a drug use history. Though that's not so bad sometimes, she wanted to before a school teacher and would have been in community college for 6 MORE years to even reach her degree based on her academic standing and fidelity. I tried helping her getting off drugs, doing better in school, and feeling better in life since she suffered through depression. I turned controlling and simply stressed her out, as she put it.
After the break-up, a week or two passed with us talking here and there, but it wasn't so friendly as it used to be. She wanted to try and stay friends, but that was becoming less and less of a reality as she had less time for me, and started going out to clubs every Saturday, and staying for the after party until 7 or 8AM in the morning (she is surrounded by drugs at this point). She was having fun, but I personally felt this was destroying her future.
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Is there more to this story? I'm confused by how you ruined her life. It seems to me that she has done a great job at that by herself.
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Here comes the part where I destroy her life:
since we weren't going to talk anymore, ever, I told her mother about her drug use history before and after we met, what she has taken, and relatively how often she does so. I wanted her to help her and possibly send her to rehab as a last "please get better soon" message... unfortunately, her mother's course of action is to kick her out of the house. This achieved two things... she no longer has a valid way to become a teacher at a young age (which will ultimately stop her from becoming one in the end), and she will now be stuck in a dead-end job for the rest of her life, if not homeless and abused on the streets. Or, if not dead by her own hands due to her depression and circumstances.
I only recently found out since I messaged her, hoping she was doing better.
I've been feeling crushed that I've destroyed the life of someone I truly care about, and I can't seem to get my mind off it when I'm alone with my thoughts (which happens fairly often despite how much I have to go on to occupy my time).
>TL;DR: Made ex-gf, whom I only wanted the best for, lose her home, her schooling opportunity, and her possibly her life/or future.
>How do I cope with the guilt?
>And, have you ever ruined someone's life yourself?
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>>18410050
yes, I'm sorry. I kept getting a connection error when I tried to post the second half
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So.
I'm 29 and i never slept with a woman, however there's this girl that i may have chance with. She's 31, and gives me excuse that i'm too young for her. Anyways, i understand this because she knows what kind of man she wants and i respect that, and i'm trying to be the man that she wants.
I finished school, and i haven't got a professional career (yet, anyway) and obviously i dont want a low tier shit job. I keep looking for it and my confidence still hurts. I mean, i'm also hard of hearing which does add some difficulty in my life but ya i dont know what to do. Can anyone help?
Thanks guys
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>>18410024
If you are actually hard of hearing there are charities that can help with work, what country are you in?
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>>18410031
canada, i am actually working with organization that helps individuals with HOH to find a professional job
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>>18410024
How tall are you btw?
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I am about to lose my scholarships.
I am a freshman in a US college (Almost Junior by hour thanks to High School credit.) and I am about to lose my scholarships because of my grade point average being below the required 3.25. it is a 3.17.
I am in university with a fully paid first year scholarship in the media department.
In order to get a 3.25 I have to make an A on three summer classes. I should be able to on all but one.
College Algebra.
Despite having Aspergers, I am shit at math. I have struggled with it all my life.
I just don't know what I am going to do.
I am fantastic at my field of media and can produce great quality content, but my skills will go to waste all because I can't do math.
I don't know what I am going to do if I fail this class. I either am going to have to get a job in retail or kill myself.
I just feel like I am such a waste.
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>>18409878
Man, talk to the best one in math, so he helps you out with algebra. If you cant do it on your own, seek for help, it is always wiser than trying to hero by yourself.
get to know your limitations, and you will succeed.
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>>18409878
Einstein sucked at math too when he was in school I think.
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>>18409878
talk to your advisor about math tutoring. maybe you're having trouble with algebra because you're missing a foundational part of it or something.
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Hey all,
I was seeing this person for about 6 months. We met at school (university) and have been fairly casual--I've been hesitant to get back into anything committed or serious. Most of all, she's been my good friend. About a month ago she stopped responding to me completely. Nothing had happened before that. Everything was as usual.
We're meeting up tomorrow to talk. I've been very hurt by this. What do you make of it?
Pic related--it's her message.
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If you already agreed to meet up, then go for it. But some advice for the next time this happens in your life, is to never take back someone who ghosted you. It shows extreme lack of respect towards you as well as being a major character flaw in that they choose the pain of others over their own discomfort when it comes to conflict. Honestly no matter what you guys talk about, I myself would go in knowing I wouldn't take her back, but if you choose to do so, know that she 99% will do this again to you. This is personal experience talking, where I was head over heels about this one chick I was dating, who ghosted me one day and refused to even let me know why she did it, let alone said goodbye to me. Turns out, she was and still is a huge piece of shit that makes bad decision after bad decision. Learn from my mistakes anon, don't give this chick or any other chick like this a second chance.
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Sounds like she's a weirdo that just randomly decided to stop talking to you, and for whatever reason wanted to reach out to you again with a whole slew of reasons meant to excuse her behavior. Look at her opening "you might not want to even hear from me". She knows what she did hurt you, and then follows with a laundry list of reasons that she did it.
However...everyone deserves a second chance. Sometimes people go through weird things and lose touch. I'd give her a second chance. I wouldn't bring up how much it upset you. Just meet her and let her know how it's good to hear from her again.
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Pretty well summed up.
She vanished. Suddenly has shown up with 100 excuses. In my opinion it would have been better if she just said
"Hey so sorry it hasn't been the best couple of months. I would love to have a catch up if you're up for it?"
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I'm sad
I had to move away from home to start a new job, and I miss living with my family, and not having a lot to do.
Any advice? pic unrelated
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>find new things to do in your new city
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Watch out for that vicious bounty hunter Boba Fett, Luke. Did I ever tell you about his father? He was hired to assassinate a senator that me and your father were guarding. We kept bringing her around open windows and public areas in order to draw her wouldbe assassin out, but his cunning surprised even us. He had used his payment to hire another bounty hunter to kill the senator for him while he sent us on a wild goose chase. And then that 2nd assassin used her payment to buy a robot to assassinate the senator for her. Did I mention the 2nd assassin was a shapeshifter? She could have been a good friend in disguise for all we knew! Where was I? Oh yes, then that robot used its payment to buy poisonous bugs to release into the senator's room while she slept, after lasering a hole through the window. It could have just lasered her because we we weren't watching her at all, but it as not a good shot. So we sense the hostile life forms in the room and rush in and save the senator in the nick of time! Then I jumped out the window to chase the robot back to its owner! Luckily it didn't have a self-destruct function. Then we found the 2nd assassin and chased her across the planet, and caught her when she tried to kill us instead of shapeshifting and escaping. But to our surprise, Jango Fett was watching the whole thing instead of going to kill the senator while we were away chasing the bugs chasing the robot chasing the shapeshifter. He shot her with a poisonous dart instead of sniper blaster, and only her instead of shooting all of us or blowing all of us with a rocket or something, then he escaped with his dumb jetpack. Mace Window killed him later, right in front of Boba. Mace was a good friend. Boba is a bad friend.
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>>18409755
I'm about to do the same if I get chosen for a job opening. Lucky for me, my gf and my dog are coming too, and the city is just 1h away.
Do you have anyone in this new city? Maybe start with that. Internet and gaming will only take you so far.
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Hey /adv/, I've been having some issues with this girl recently, and I need some help.
>Start talking in January
>She reveals that she's bi, and into girls
>I fall for her, tell her, and we come to a mutual agreement that it's fine that I do but nothing will probably happen
>She tells me when she's drunk that she regrets not being more into dick because she would have been with me
>She starts sending me nudes
>Still consider each other friends, nothing more
Fast forward to this summer
>We're both home now, pretty far away from each other, and both in summer jobs so time is tight
>She sends me another pic one night, tells me I should see it in person
>Decide to listen to the advice /adv/ gave me and just go for it
>Every attempt to hang out with her has been shot down with either "we live too far, I don't want to make you drive" or "my mom doesn't want me to"
>I try to be aggressive and tell her I'm coming over anyway and she says "I don't want you here. In a good way"
>Just sent more nudes
What the fuck is going on? Is she just playing with me or what?
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She is definitely playing with you. She just wants to send someone nudes.
I would just accept the nudes and stop complimenting her. She will probably stop teasing you after a while.
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>>18409645
She likes the attention, that's basically why she hangs on to you.
>I've fallen for her
>told her
>she just wants to be "friends"
>sends nudes
She's stringing you along because she knows she already has you hook, line and sinker.
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Post nudes
Nothing to lose since she is a cunt anyway
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My boyfriend is a nice, wonderful person, he never, ever gets mad at me, is always accommodating, and does so much for me.
I found out recently though, from his friends, and from an ex of his, that he is only like that, with me and my family, and that to everyone else, hes a gigantic angry asshole.
This is really upsetting because aside from a few little things, he never has shown it (One of his eyes was red and really bloodshot for a while, he told me his cat hit him in the eye, it turns out he ruptured a blood vessel yelling at a woman working for his ISP.)
This is all a lot to process and I don't know if this is normal or really extreme... I mean on TV guys always act different around friends than their wives, but this drastic?
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Well firstly let's not worry about what's on TV, that's a very superficial thing to compare your life to. Secondly, that sounds extremely odd and maybe you should bring it up with your boyfriend.
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>>18409549
I have, but all he says is, I don't make him mad. But I have to make him mad, I am honestly very emotionally volatile, and yell at him sometimes for really stupid, little things, I over analyze things constantly and hes always having to talk me down. I also know he suffers from a deep depression (which he doesn't like to talk about either)
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>>18409568
Okay? What do you want out of this situation?
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Not to sound desperate, but how can a guy get with someone this pretty ?
Should he keep trying to become physically fit ?
Should he try to become wealthy ?
I'd really appreciate your advice.
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wealth>power>status>looks>personality
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Regularly getting an escort of that quality is too expensive for most people, just set aside money like you're planning a vacation.
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>>18409537
Well unfortunately you do seem desperate. I really doubt you'll do either of those things and even if you do you'll still be too socially awkward to pick girls like that up. You should probably just give up now and accept that you'll die alone.
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships, fart guy and the guy who stuffs his pants
Fuck off
>Why is there no new thread?
Create one yourself. You can use these macros: https://imgur.com/a/y6BF2
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Traded some erotic photos with this cute AF girl online
We also talked for a bit
Not saying I didn't just get cat fished, probably did, all well.
The issue is though, I already came and now I'm super uninterested in her, but she wants to chat and all that crap, and wants to be friends.
I feel terrible, I never meant to lead her on to thinking I wanted more.
I just wanna leave but feel terrible.
What do I do
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>dark circles under eyes is bad
>makeup is bad
wat do
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>>18409536
"Whoops, I gotta go. Thanks for the great evening, you are incredibly hot. I really enjoyed myself. ;) Talk to you later"
Hit her up again when you're horny. I do recommend that you throw in something suggestive so that she understands the dynamic you are trying to go for. If she's offended, then good, she can get out of a situation she doesn't want to be in. If she's flattered, then she's good to go for round 2, whenever it may arise.
if one of your closer friends told you they've been molested at the age of 6, would your opinion about them change or not?
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Not unless I thought they were lying.
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that'd be fucked up yeah. alright, i felt like i'd instantly be labeled as someone that's fucked up and kinda harm friendship
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I might see them and their actions and personality in a different light, but it wouldn't change my positive feelings about them.
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How do I learn to touch type instead of hunt and peck?
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Shitpost a lot
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idk I used to be horrendous with it but now it's a thing I didn't even realize I do. I guess >>18409509 , write up a lot of business proposals, contracts, resumes, and get involved with shenanigans on this site where you have to type up information really quick so you can claim being the first to have it.
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take a typing class, or get a typing tutor computer program
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I wanna ease into doing homework and other assignments and want to do so while stimulated. What are some activities/games I can do/play and do my homework too?
I tend to focus 100% on shows so that's not really an option.
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FEGET SPENER
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i am no atuism
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How the hell do I quit masturbating? I'm a young man, quite healthy, and my libido is more trouble than it is worth.
Whenever I come home all I want to do is relieve myself. When I'm out the house my mind is busy with other things, but it is hard to ignore the urge for too long without feeling restless.
Does anyone here have experience in overcoming this
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>>18409293
Why would you quit?
Just fap without deathgrip to your inagination and then continue your day.
Ask this dude
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>>18409293
1. You don't have to quit completely.
2. In my experience, masturbation begets masturbation. I used to fap everyday, and I was horny everyday. Once you start fapping less - just occasionally (I do every two weeks, but that's me), you will not be horny so often. It takes an act of willpower to stop. I did it successfully, but it might be easier or harder for you. You might get tips on how to stop from the NoFap crowd, but their ideal of not fapping at all is ludicrous and pointless (unless you have a partner to relieve yourself with).
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why do you consider that to be a problem though?