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Let's say someone was raped by a hallucination of a man and/or a woman ghost.

Would that cause psychological damage?

Does someone need to seek help for this?

When and if they get this help will it be therapy and pills or just pills?

How long afterward does it matter if they report it to a psychiatrist or not?

Do you believe it's possible that someone could get PTSD from the experience?

Could an anti-psychotic mood stabilizer medication be hiding the effects of PTSD?

There are so many questions I could ask about this situation. I'm pretty sure we have some people with some expertise in the house.
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>>18412027
Incubus, sucubus?
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>>18412062
Something like that. That's more or less what I thought it was at the time.
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IT WAS THE CUM GHOST

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So I was chased by a mugger and his friends and I literally ran down my entire street to my house. I only got away since my heart was pounding and i had so much stress energy. I had many opportunities to run through someone elses backyard which i know i could sneak away but would that be legal in this case? If you are running from someone trying to rob you is it legal to run across private property?
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>>18411989
According to the NAP, the property owner would be justified in killing you, the muggers, and any witnesses.
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>would it be legal??
Who gives a shit. Does your state/country have castle doctrine laws?
If cops ask questions, please direct them to the mugger chasing you.
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>>18412013
lmao

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So I got really drunk and cried in front of two male friends the other night (I'm a guy). It came after several years of my younger brother being sick and the doctors finally figuring out what was wrong and coming up with a treatment that worked. Nobody gave a shit and a lot of people stopped talking to my family during this time for some reason.

How bad did I fuck up? They didn't say anything about it the next morning but I don't think I'm going to talk to them again. I feel weak and emasculated.
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It happens to all of us. You had a legitimate thing to be upset about. It's not like you were complaining about how your girlfriend left you after you broke her nose. Or about how your waifu will never be real and you feel so alone.
Don't avoid them. Do you want their last memory of you to be like that? They might even be nice friends who you can open up to. Don't let them go.
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>>18411970
If my bro cried in front of me I wouldn't judge him, just pat him on the back. We all have moments of weakness.
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desu, men just don't cry in front of their friends. ever, except at a funeral or something. this is the holy grail of taboos for men, i would say its almost worse in the eyes of manhood than coming out as gay in front of them and professing your love for one of them. you shouldn't let this happen again. but if they are worth their salt as friends they will probably let it slide. don't make it a habit or anything.

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Why do girls do this? She always wants surprises but I don't know what the fuck an adventure is

I wanted to go to a drive in theatre and rest after a busy week but I doubt she'd consider that an adventure. Please help
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she doesn't mean like a trip in the woods or something, but something unexpected.

The theater is cool, but she wants more excitement. You two sound young so I'd recommend:
1) Batting cages
2) Those giant trampoline places
3) A picnic
4) Drive somewhere secluded and romantic and fuck in the back seat
5) To the downtown area of the closest big city.

She wants to form memories with you and wants you do be charming, romantic, and dominant. This is your night to shine dude, be confident, happy, outgoing, just have fun. She wants fun.
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>>18411959
Inb4 OP's gf seeks adventure (attention) in a foreign country with foreign men
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>>18411975
yeah pretty spot on, we're both 20. This seems like a lot of work man lol. I already do drive around and hangout in the car with her. This woman is costing me a tank of gas every few days

I don't know we've only been dating for a couple weeks. I just want to smoke and chill and do all the same shit I normally do with someone else. Maybe this wasn't meant to be, I'm way more introverted and a lot of those things you listed I'm too autistic for

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Can someone give me some guidelines for Tinder? I don't seem to be fairing as well as I'd like. I'm fit and attractive enough but I don't really have any good candid shots or really any photos of myself for that matter beside the few I have uploaded. I have one face shot I took, one in my army uniform looking cool, and just another face shot. Do I upload the one I have with a girl before a dance? Do I take a shirtless pic to show my muscles? What do I put in the bio? I just want to go on a date with a nice, cute girl
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>>18411952
You're marketing yourself to women, you want your profile picture to stand out, your bio to be awesome and you also want to look single. Do not put a picture of you and some other people. Since you just want to date then look your best in the picture, like wear a suit or something idk. If you want sex then market your sex appeal.
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I hate tindr because I'm too damn romantic.
Get like 4 good pictures, lotsa face, no shirtless selfies ("candid" swimsuit is perfect).
Then swipe hard and fast.
>What do I put in the bio?
Use your cleverness. Do you have a personality?
>I just want to go on a date with a nice, cute girl
They just want a quick dicking and then they want to forget about you unless you have lots and lots of money.
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>>18412011
Fuk, are there any good apps then? Other than university (it's the summer) there aren't any good options for me

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I'm going on a trip with my family for about a month. We will be sleeping close together.
HOW THE FUCK AM I GOING TO FAP
im not gonna make it
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>>18411949
I laughed hard at this.

Just think about other shit and not about jerkin your gherkin.
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Depends - any chance you can not wash your pants during?
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>>18411980
just don't do it

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need some /adv/ I was assaulted by a police officer tonight in Australia

I was not detained nor breaking any laws. my ex-girlfriends dad called them up because I was parked on the street outside his house organizing to drop off her things.

two officers arrived to my shock. One of them said "I know who you are you little smartass" now I am not from this area and have never met this man in my life.

Nor am I a threatening guy in the slightest,

at this point I was standing next to my car after hearing this random comment I decided to get inside and just leave the situation. This officer said nothing and pulled open my car door and Caspsican sprayed me all over. I was taken back to the station handcuffed where I lay in agonizing pain for hours straight before being given a shower.

I have just left the station now and read the cops statement he said that I swore and threatened him and reached for a weapon in my car. I dont have anything like that in my car at all.... I was in a calm friendly manner the whole time that could not have been mistake for aggression.

I am suffering third degree burns and destruction of property and paperwork from the cops mace.

What do I do?
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Talk to a lawyer about how successful of an outcome you could have if you brought a case against the police dept.

Sometimes, it's best to let it go.
Depends upon the district/govt/etc.
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>>18411914
>Sometimes, it's best to let it go.
kys pussy
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>>18411922
When you have ZERO chance of winning, never fuck with the law.

Source: I work with people in prisons.

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hey /adv/

my life is kind of in shambles

to outsiders it seems like it's relatively "together" but it's not

I'm 25 and in college. One year left, it's for a program I feel like I've lost interest in. I've dropped out of programs twice before due to the same issue. I guess maybe I lack motivation? I'm going to stick with it anyways because I'm currently 20 grand in debt and likely can't afford another try at school.

I came home for the weekend so I stayed at my parents place. Saturday night I came home at 5am insanely drunk after being out with friends all night and I puked all over my floor. My mom woke up and came and cleaned it up. Obviously I felt horrible about it.

I don't really know what I'm asking advice on specifically, maybe I just need to vent, I don't know. I feel like just ending my life.

Thanks for listening I suppose
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ok, answer me this.

if you woke up tomorrow and all your problems have magically dissapeared, how would you notice?
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>>18411779
Get your shit togather. Help your parents, and try working. Then you'll see why college is better than work with no degree :)
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>>18411797
my bank account would be loaded

my back wouldn't hurt

i wouldn't be diabetic

i'd feel normal while sober i guess

kind of an odd question to be quite honest familia

>>18411802
i'm trying anon, trust me

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When my gf goes out I feel really anxious and I hate it.

We've had a pretty happy relationship, but recently she's gained severe bipolar disorder. She went from doing really well in school to being shipped back home and hospitalized for running up credit cards, stalking, reckless behavior and so on. She cheated on me as well..
Just a huge manic outburst.

After she was done being hospitalized and given proper medication she's somewhat normal again. Not screaming or bouncing off the walls or trying to do reckless things. It's not perfect because she has no filter and her emotions seem kind of muted. She had one last manic episode about a month ago but it's subsided. In that episode she told me how she wanted to sleep with certain friends and was going to and had tried to but they said no.

I was feeling reasonably betrayed but she says she been feeling like she's outside of her body? Like a ghost or something floating.

Anyway she was never like this before. She had some anxiety and depression issues but nothing like this. If we hadn't had such a close bond I would have given up but we were genuinely planning on marrying soon, her family has even asked me to move up there into their house in order to be together as well as help her.(shes Canadian) and my family loves her.

Anyway the real issue I'm having is she really wants to hangout with these friends that she told me she wanted to sleep with and I'm not really comfortable with that. She accuses me of being jealous and clingy and that she finally has friends and just wants to distract herself from the fact she just destroyed her life.

I know the easy solution is to just break up but she's clearly really sick, and I would hope she wouldn't abandon me in my time of weakness like that. And I genuinely love her and had a really good future planned with her. Just this condition of hers has out a lot of strain on things.

Thoughts?

I'm so lost..
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>>18411729
>She cheated on me as well..


How have you not rid yourself of her yet, jesus christ

She has no respect for you. Get rid of her now
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>>18411729
That's one hell of a mental disorder. If you want to stick with her then more power to you but I wouldnt put up with her past saying she'd want to fuck someone else. You do you but don't say we didn't warn you. Mental or not, she has to have some love and respect for you and that's a sign she has neither.
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>>18411737
She did it during a manic episode. Any other circumstance and she'd be dropped like a hat. But she wasn't really in control of herself.. It felt like talking to someone who from the exorcist who was possessed. Swearing and all. Which makes no sense. She has never been like that.

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My boyfriend's sex drive has completely disappeared.

Everything was fantastic up until about six months ago. If its relevant, he used to be a heavy benzo user after a very difficult period in his life, but hasn't taken anything for around 8 months.

He assures me isn't anything to do with me physically. I don't think this is the case either, as I have only improved on my looks since we got together. We have a great life together with no stresses.

How is it possible to cope with such a drastic change in sex drive?

It's really affecting my confidence and is causing a real divide in our relationship. It's making intimacy awkward as he's clearly trying to avoid getting to the stage where he has to actively turn me down. If I ask about it, he gets stressed and tries to move on as soon as possible, saying that he thinks it's related to cortisol levels.

I've tried taking control, being more suggestive, being submissive and dominant, talking about it, ignoring it...nothing seems to work and sex is becoming less and less frequent.
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couples therapy, speech therapy and a check at the doc.
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>>18411609
He's probably fucking somebody else, because you're annoying / an anooyance on pms. That would be my guess
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>>18411613

I wouldn't say I'm annoying (although I guess I would say that). I'm supportive, we never argue, we have a very fulfilling life together. He could very well be sleeping with someone else but I don't think he'd have the time or the opportunity to do that, unless it was online or something like that.

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Long story short, I can have an orgasm in less than 2 minutes and can't feel absolutely nothing inside my vagina (like I have no G-Spot) Is this... normal? Would this be a deal breaker for you if you're going to date someone?
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What?
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>>18411581
as long as you dont mind going for a while longer after you cum it wouldnt be a big deal to me. i think i would enjoy the problem solving aspect of finding other ways to get you off
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>>18411581
what?

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So i applied for a job at a police station. Thing is, i'm freaking out a bit because i don't have much job experience and i don't feel confident enough to be able to handle this job. I know they train you,but i'm afraid i'll make a retarded mistake and get fired. It's happened to me before and i lost confidence in working or progressing somewhere. At the same time i have this desire to overcome my fear regardless because i want to get somewhere in life. I'm basically torn and i'm going crazy because of it. How can i cope with this?
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you can cope with it by realizing that even the worst case scenario isn´t the end of the world.
i mean, if you make a mistake and get fired, so what?
you would find a new opportunity and try again.
life won´t stop and stare. it just goes on.

once you realize that even if everything goes down the gutter, you´ll still be fine, there´s nothing to worry about and you can confidently give it a try and see what happens.
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>>18411604
You are right. It's just that other workers get things so quickly while i'm lagging behind. It's frustrating.
But yea at least i can try again if i fail. Sigh thanks friend..
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>>18411638
don´t compare yourself. you don´t know why they have an advantage over you. it might be something as small as their parents teaching them something yours failed to do from a yound age, like how to cope with fear. or maybe they have failed one time more than you have so far and have learned a valueable lesson, like the one i´m telling you now.

it doesn´t do any good to compare, it only harms your selfesteem, so drop that habit completely. it has zero benefits. instead, shift your focus on you and the next step. everybody can only do whatever they do step by step. if you try to skip steps, it will all com etumbling down sooner or later, so don´t even try it. as long as you steadily take steps forward, you will soon be on par or ahead of most people.

Do you guys have any clue if it's possible to get rid of a fetish?
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ofc. if you want it bad enough you can do almost anything.

whatßs it that bothers you?
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>>18411497
It's disgusting. It goes against my moral values so I feel like a degen
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>>18411495
whats the fetish

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This is a girl who talked to me about depression, suicide, sexual abuse, drank her problems away, smoked, partied constantly and abused everything she had. And I still took her in as a friend, and then finally a lover. And when I got down because of something in my life and asked her for some space. She went and told everyone that I'd been ignoring her and hooked up with a guy at a party, all the while pretending like nothing was going on until a friend told me.

So I came back early from my away time, never got to finish dealing with my own problems. Just to try and save our relationship, and she just told me that she was sorry, but that the new guy was better than me in every way. And this girl knew that I had just suffered a serious loss, but that's what she said. Everyone tells me that she wasn't a good person and that it's for the best. But I'm heartbroken. I go to work, school, gym; but everything hurts. And the worst part is knowing that while I was there for her, she just ditched me.

I don't know what to do. I tried not to cry over her because of how mean she was during and after the breakup. But I cared about her. And she kept changing the story. Telling me that I abandoned her for weeks, then saying she didn't know how I felt about her. And I asked her "you know that's not true. And if you really thought that way and loved me like you did you did, why didn't you ask?" And she said nothing. I know she just liked the other guy now and they slept together the first night. I act fine in public, but I feel depression coming and I've spent the last two days at home in bed. Please help me.
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>>18411473
she sounds like a bitch good riddance op
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>>18411473
She was a horrid specimen of humanity. You didn't deserve what that bitch did.

She cheated and spat it back in your face. Clearly she was never any good to begin with.

First, throw away any and all notions of getting back together. It won't happen. And even if it did all she did was hurt you and she'd do it again because she's a heartless cunt.

Second, heal. Mourn. Lick your wounds. Do whatever you want to make yourself feel better. Bury yourself in work or your favorite hobby for a while. This could take ages. Afterwards, try and find someone else. Nothing heals pain like a loving relationship imo. Just... Well get smarter about your choices next time my dude.
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Women are narcissistic, cowardly whores. All of them are like this sorry OP

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I'll keep it short.

I am in relationship with this girl for 2 months, she is 17 and I am 18.

Besides me, she had 2 other guys she had sex with.
All during relationship.

What's been bugging me is that she gave blowjob to 7 boys total.

5 were in relationship (including me), but the other two weren't.

The last one is a boy that she sucked off in club ONE MONTH before she met me while she was drunk.

She claims she doesn't remember getting there but she remembers that she didn't want to and left immediately when he tried to fuck her.

I seriously love her and I was never more sad than I was today thinking of dumping her for it and I just don't know what to do.

Please help.
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Dumping somebody for sexual contacts they had before your relationship is dumb. Unless it was a case of cheating on somebody in her previous relationship or something. Or they fucked your dad. Otherwise, who cares?
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>>18411466
just dump her you are only 2 months in and this seems like a deal breaker for you.

Personally I think it's kinda gross to have sex / do anything sexual outside of a relationship but that's just me.
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>>18411466
Pfft that was before you met. She wasn't cheating on you m8 chill

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