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>>18377456
Whip it out when she isn't looking then jokingly play it off and see where it goes from there.

I'm in the same boat pal

She's afraid that it's going too fast and that she'll come off looking like a slut because that's what she's been taught her whole life.

She's probably really attracted to you and got really horny, was unfamiliar with feeling that way, then got cold feet because those kinds of feelings are only supposed to be experienced by loose whores (or so she was taught by family/mother/father/church/brother/friends/etc.).

>>18377356

remember that nothing actually matters. if it goes wrong most people wont remember it in an hour or a day, and you dont ever have to see them again if you don't want to. so even if you went and just let out one huge forty second fart in front of EVERYONE it doesn't actually matter it wont affect the rest of your life any more than you allow it to.

>>18377378
Yeah you're right. The one thing that I'm really paranoid about is doing something really embarrassing and having someone film it, then have that moment be immortalized on the internet.

But even then what you said is true, nothing matters and neither would that moment. I could always just embrace it and become a living meme I guess

>>18377396

thats the thing you also got to remember is we all have embarassing moments. it doesn't have to detract from the rest of you though. im easily scared, ill scream if someone just jumps out and says 'boo'. but then i laugh about it.

because it doesn't really detract from me as a person. if you feel you are entirely a tragically awful person then work on that instead of worrying about embarassment, work on compensating.

im a great business man, my art is actually taking off, i can get laid and when push comes to shove i might yell but i didnt back down from a fight. i may have yelled with fear while it was happening, but it doesn't detract from all the good, so its nothing to be upset about imo.

>>18377345
Just try it. Better to love and lose than to never love at all.

>>18377345
>we keep finding our way back to being in each other's lives

If you will be willing to do anything you can to keep your future relationship going, go for it.

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>>18377345

just do it, and do it often
> start getting physical, you must talk with actions however
> hand on shoulder, get close, so she looks in your eyes
> some time after, or after a few times of this, go for kissing, she's already comfy with you so she wont be off-put by a kiss even if its awkward for her

after that it shouldnt be difficult to move into alot of passion

always remind yourself it takes some Serious Asshattery to end something big like that

if it falls apart... it wont *all* fall apart, it would just reset to being friends with a long history

your fear is a simple one and it is only the Fear Of Change, same with any other big change like moving to another house.

in a way something does die, the state your relationship to her was prior to this, but you wont lose her it just becomes a different sort of relationship

> avoid arguing, girls are feeling creatures even if this one has known you for a long time, you cant win a mind argument it must be a heart argument

>>18377334
Lol why? I get she has trust issues but just tell her you felt really ashamed about being a virgin. I'm sure she'll understand.

>>18377334
Why do people feel guilty for something like that. I lied about the exact same thing. Never told her and have been in a relationship with her for 10+ years. I don't feel guilty we are happy. It's such a minor thing.
Just don't make a habit of it. The best liars are the ones that barely ever lie.

Around 85% of men probably lied that they are not virgins, being virgin is not cool at all for a guy (as opposed to girls)

>>18377299
/adv/ can't help you

>>18377306
Where to post for help?

>>18377299

depends. if you're trying to suck it cuz you like the feeling of a cock in your mouth, yes you are gay. if you are trying to suck it cuz you like the feeling of your cock in a mouth, then its not really gay, but you arent really going to enjoy sucking your self off to be honest. even if oyu're flexible enough to put it in your mouth (i am) its too much of a pain to actually enjoy it and of course not as thrilling or fun as someone else doing it.

I'd say when approaching women, Try not to ask the normal, Boring questions. (How was you day? Whats you're name?) You need to try and make yourself seem interesting, Asking witty questions usually makes girls happy. Also with the flustered stuff, Try and think about the scenarios you may possibly have with them, And think about what you would do yourself to them if you did not hold back because you get so flustered. So when it actually happens, You'll hopefully be able to come off as smooth. Hope I helped a bit lol

it's not really worth it desu

Ask her questions about herself and then relate her answers to things about yourself.

>Hey what kind of food do you like?
Oh, I love Italian food
>Me too. Have you been to (insert local Italian place here)?
No I haven't. Is it good?
>Yea its really nice. Maybe I could take you there for lunch some time?

Congrats. You have just established a common interest and asked her on a date.

>>18377171
Last:Anyway, having not had a gf before and having always chilled out(there are days where it's hard not wanting one); I've always thought "Don't rush it. Find a girl you really like and then pursue" because I feel gross wanting to "change people" and not accepting them as they are. I just feel like in the back of my mind I'd always be wary of her and afraid of saying or doing something that'd make her snap on me(it's happened many times when I've been around her and her bf/friends). She just gets so rude and dismissive, even when sober. All my friends told me not to bother, that she'd just want to fuck me and then bail when she got bored and that her and I would not work out at all. She told me loved me though...and I don;'t believe her, but...is she this desperate to fuck me? I'm a virgin by choice and she knows this. That's what's scaring me, my gut is telling me that she's literally trying to screw me over. But I still desire that intimacy though. Who's right? My brain or my dick? I have to admit that I can be jealous at times, and I know that if I let her go; I'll feel jealous or that I "loss" out on her. Is the short term pain of letting her go, going to be a much cheaper price to pay than jumping into a relationship with her? I honestly feel overwhelmed by her constant texting at times and the lies of omission especially when I ask her stuff.

So to confirm, you feel you would be missing out by not dating a rude, potentially alcoholic cheater? Move on and focus on finding someone who deserves you.

This is a terrible idea

>>18377149
bump

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>>18377149
Is this bait?

SanDisk Sansa Clip Zip
and a big microsdhc card

Well it wouldn't hurt to see a dermatologist.

>>18377159

right now im between insurances and likely wont have any until july at this point, if that. im trying to find out if this is something that is super sketch and should speed up the process for or what

bumper cars

>>18377075
Sucks to be a loser. Get a backbreaking shit job in place of the Mexicans while we adults clean up the country.

>>18377075
I'm in essentially the same situation and wondering this too

learn how to draw porn, you freakin mongoloids

>>18377036

OP is literally a faggot this time guys

From what I've read you are bi but don't like any of the gay intimate stuff??????
Like for most healthy people that have a sex drive, there are not a ton of people willing to put up with that. I'd stick to whatever you feel comfortable fucking anon because they'll want it eventually

>>18377044
>From what I've read you are bi but don't like any of the gay intimate stuff??????
It'd probably help you to know i'm a girl buuut a'ight

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>>18377052

((lmao sorry for assuming your gender))

My point still stands, go with what you'd be comfortable banging, put yourself in his shoes, the person he loves won't be that intimate with him, which feels like shit. Dragging him along without any development will be hell for that guy, if you are 1000% sure you will never do something like that the only reasonable choice is to dump anon

>>18376802
You'd need to prevent the helium from escaping first, and the reduction in weight wouldn't be signifficant enough.

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>>18376802
In order to fill the suitcase with helium without it escaping it i recommend filling your whole room with helium until there is no air left in it. Then you can proceed to pack your suitcase and if you feel like it take a good nap to congratulate yourself. Then you can open the windows to let the air inside again :)

No, because storing helium is incredibly difficult and requires a heavy container.

Okay now bro I need you to meet me halfway on this and really open yourself up to what I'm saying. You're going to feel an urge to dismiss it, but please please please reflect on what I'm saying:

You need substance. Right now you're still that reserved little kid from Highschool, too scared to step out of his comfort zone. Your anxiety is not you, push against it and yes it's not going to be a great experience but it will harden you up for the moments that matter.

What are your hobbies mate?

>>18376795
My advice for meeting people is always: do volunteer work.
Do you have any political opinions? Volunteer to do some work for a local candidate you like. Are there any non-profit orgs in your city you think are doing good work? Call them and ask how you can get involved.

Volunteer work is great for meeting new people because 1) It puts you directly in contact with folks; 2) you know you have something in common with them, because you're all choosing to spend your time & energy in the same place; 3) awkward silences are usually not a problem because everyone there has a job to do; 4) people volunteering are generally in a good mood, and thus more chatty, because volunteering actually feels GOOD; 5) even if you don't end up meeting someone, you'll still have spent your time doing something worthwhile, and you may discover that you enjoy it and want to continue.

>>18376894

>You need substance. Right now you're still that reserved little kid from Highschool, too scared to step out of his comfort zone

I agree. Hense why I've been actively trying to make an effort to better myself, both physically and mentally. Baby steps, but I've made progress. It's what lead me to opening up and trying online dating, which landed me here.

I appreciate the blunt honesty.

As for hobbies, I dabble in video editing, creative writing, and graphic design on the side when I'm not actively doing stuff for my day job in a similar field. I'm also into animation (not anime, I'm not a weeaboo. More into European features and short films.), and occasionally collaborate with one of my few friends on video game design related project for fun. I'm not the kind of person that generally spends all day playing video games though, not since highschool anyway.

I've considered looking into things like creative writing classes or local groups related to my interests, but unfortunately my area is apparently pretty unpopular for that. Meetup.com for my hometown literally has five results, unfortunately.

>>18376928

Thanks for the advice.

I generally try to stay out of any political stuff, because quite frankly both sides of the political spectrum kind of disgust me at this point. Still, I'll keep doing some volunteer work in mind as a potential avenue in the future.

>How to be more witty, charismatic, charming, Sauvé, etc?
First you need to lvl up and then invest your stat points intro that skills.
If you cant lvl up try find NPC to reset your skills stats.

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>>18376785
Don't try to be that. Be yourself man.

>>18376910
But myself can be better, retard

Finish college, then try to join. Talk to recruiters, they will have everything you need to know. No idea if you'll ever make Colonel, that would take decades of exemplary service. Best not to get ahead of yourself.

>>18376776
>Best not to get ahead of yourself.

I guess that is true. I've often done that but it has always paid off for me in the end.

>>18376765

- Quick to anger

- Follow only myself

Oh fuck no you aren't, those are two quick ways to have no friends and get discharged.

In the military, no matter where you serve or rank you will have to put up with retards and rejects, and not having the nerve to do so ends with (((HR))) on your ass .

Again, no matter where you serve or what rank you are you will not be independent, and relying only on yourself will piss off plenty of people and might get you or your men killed. High ranking officers work together and with the lower officers out in the field to form a battleplan, meaning you must trust and ensure others with your life and the success of the mission. Even a sniper is never alone, he may be physically along or only with a spotter but he's constantly following and acting on orders from a controller/command/recon.