The fear of being cheated on is consuming me. It's so deep-rooted in my mind. It's literally fucking up my life and I know it's a pathetic thing to fret about so much. What do I do. I've tried all the mental gymnastics stuff, i.e. Thinking that it's not a big deal, a cheating SO doesn't reflect on myself, it's just sex who gives a fuck really etc but the fear and insecurity always comes back. I just need to read one story about it and it all comes back.
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same
>black pilled by /r9k/
>finally get qt gf
>constant fear of her cheating on me
>she is starting to get annoyed
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>>18378831
Well at least in my case there's nothing racial about it as is so popular to meme about on 4chan. It's really just cheating in any form that fucks me up.
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You might push them away by being neurotic about this but there is never any excuse to do it. If they stay with you until they find someone else they were just using you from the beginning. If the way you feel matters to them at all they'll try to do whatever they can to help you through it or admit to you that it's not something they're willing to deal with and leave beforehand. Just relax and if it ever does happen, do not bullshit yourself into thinking it was an accident or that you were responsible.
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My ex-GF broke up with me, after 8 years together. I'm 25 now and It was our first serious relationship.
What am I meant to do from here? I sort of feel like i've missed the best time to try dating and it's making me freak out a bit.
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>>18378794
First you leak all the nudes
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>>18378794
I'm on the same boat and I'm 27. I think I'll just kill myself.
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Just got cheated on with someone that I was with for almost a decade. I can't promise that when I say I feel better now that I won't tomorrow. I sporadically fluctuate between drunken complacency and absolute crushing heartbreak. The best years of my life were spent with this person and I have to spend the rest of my life conditioning myself to separate them from all the things I've enjoyed with or about them over all these years. It's very hard because I had already been struggling with depression, and I have no one but my family to turn to for comfort. I have to work through this relationship and everything else all alone now and I am worried I won't ever be able to replace these memories with better ones.
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so im heading off to uni in a few months (september) and have had a gf for over a year at this point. im not really super into our relationship and most people break up before university to make the most of their youth. problem is that she's really into us, and is pretty fucking fully committed at this point. when would be the appropriate time to break up with her, if at all? she's great but i feel like i want to take full advantage of my youth while i can. thanks.
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If you don't break up, you'll cheat on her. What's worse - you breaking up with her, or you cheating on her?
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>>18378667
You guys will both end up cheating on each other.
Break up now before you invest anymore emotion.
When I was 17 I thought my gf was into me. Went to college for 6 days before she fucked her ex.
I then cheated on her with a model that I dated for 4 years after that.
Bitches always cheat, especially out of high school.
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>>18378670
fpbp
dont hurt her any more than you have to op
you already know it's over.
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Dont know what to do... 2017-06-03 12:54:29 Post No.18378661
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I feel like I am drowning under the weight of the world.
I bought a house 1.5 years ago. At the time I had a job that I had been at for 8-9 years. I wouldn't say I was a "head honcho", but I was near the top of the totem pole and I got away with alot due to my position. (Showing up late, days off without much questioning and other perks). Sounds like a dream job right? It wasnt. It has been a toxic work environment from the very start and I have been feeling like Donnie Brasco the entire time. I had to make a change. I finally found a better job after 4-5 years of continuous resume pushing. Problem is, itis a 2 hour drive from my current house if traffic is good. If its bad...it can be a 3-4 hour drive. Now add your fuel expenses.
What I have been doing is secret and embarrassing. My wife knows. So when I go to work I stay there from Monday - Friday in a tent. I make all my meals over a fire or a coleman campBBQ. I fish to kill the time. I defecate in the woods or park washrooms. I sync wash/shower in gas station bathrooms, or the lake if it isnt too cold. If I ruin my clothes I sometimes buy new cheap ones from the local thrift store.
I know some people are thinking "omg thats the life..." WELL IT ISNT. im not with my wife or my kids 5 days a week. I got no internet. I have to go to McDonalds to use internet to facetime my family. You know what its like talking to a phone alone in public? You look like a fuckin idiot. My coworker asked if I drove home everyday and I said no i stay here in a hotel. He said which one and I had to make up a name and location. He asked to come drink beer after work and out of embarrassment I said sorry I dont feel very good. Im in McDonalds right now writing this.
Oh yea...and i cant sell my house because the market crashed in the area. And the new area i work house prices are in the 400,000$ min range. But this job pays 8$/hour more plus pension...i dont know what to do. I want to keep it for my wife but i feel like a lonely hobo.
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>buying a house when you get paid $8 an hour
Your level of intelligence means that you were never meant to succeed in life.
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>>18378668
....... dont know if this is a troll or not.
I specifically said 8$/hr MORE than my previous wage of 26$/hr.
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>>18378661
Get two jobs in town ...no need to live like a hobo to please your job
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I just exchanged things with an ex and I accidentally said see you around because I was really high and couldn't find the words. I'm an idiot obviously but I have bad social axiety. I will probably never see her again and don't want to. What should I do? I'm paranoid as fuck atm. I'm just so awkward
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Take a chill pill anon. Your overthinking it a little sooooo much haha.
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You're over thinking it. You're fine.
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>>18378638
Dude try getting your dick down her throat before you toss her
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i so bad wanna talk to people and i don't know how to, it's been 4 days i didn't talk to no one, all my Facebook friends keep on ignoring me, and i don't have irl friends
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I'll be your friend. How was your day today man? Rough?
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>>18378539
i didn't do anything today besides sitting home and scrolling facebook literally
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>>18378542
I have a friend who's depressed. Getting rid of Facebook helped his mental health enormously.
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Bf insecurities are bumming me out and it's straining our relationship 2017-06-02 11:47:44 Post No.18378468
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He's constantly paranoid about me cheating on him, even though he's been my first and only partner, I'm not a social person so it feels like shit when I try to act normal and do my best to make acquaintances at my job.
He didn't have a good upbringing so I've done my best to be understanding and give him the support he needs, however it fucking sucks that all arguments boil down to him suggesting that I don't want to be in this relationship and I'm most likely seeking companionship somewhere else because he doesn't feel good enough.
I've begun to lose my shit every time he starts his routine of him checking up on me and interrogating of where I am and what am I doing, and eventually asking if there are any male classmates or coworkers with me.
He's seeing a therapist and I'm aware that changes are not going to happen overnight, but I just don't know how to cope with it, any time he is not like this he's sweet and loving, but this Jekyll-Hyde situation has begun to have a negative impact on my mental health. I've told him I just want him to understand that I don't like being treated like I'm one of his exes but he keeps insisting that I should help him feel secure.
If this sounds like deja vu I made a thread in the past but the phone issues have been agreed on.
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Cheat on him.
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Wow, I am reliving the early days of my 5 year relationship.
Here's a hot tip for you:
He's cheating on you.
Oh, but he'd NEVER do that! Not him, you just don't understand, he just wouldn't.
Yeah, he would, and he is, because the controlling, "jealous", accusatory ones always are.
You can heed my warning and do some investigating, or you can stick it out with the cunt and find out years later, shattering your entire life. Your call, I guess.
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I don't know about you, but that's just not something I would be able to tolerate. He needs to sort out his issues BEFORE being in a relationship
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Trying to get reimbursed for a $500 car tow fee 2017-06-02 11:24:51 Post No.18378393
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Trying to get reimbursed for a $500 car tow fee
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I got my car towed the other day for not showing a parking permit. The patrol company said that it was my second warning. The first being January 14 of this year the second was the 31st of May.
However according to the association that I live in, the rules only apply to a 90 day period in which if I get more than one offense within that period they'll tow my car. Obviously anyone with basic math skills can deduct that the time period between both tickets is more than 90 days.
So if it was a first time violation outside of the 90 day period they should have left a ticket rather than adding a strike to my profile and towing my car.
Further more they say they gave me 24 hours to comply but when I asked for a copy of the ticket so I could verify the time of tow they just said it was 15 minutes after the 24 hour period making it a valid tow.
Can they do that shit?
Is this evident enough of an unreasonable tow and is it enough to get persuade my association board for reimbursement?
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May 31st was less than 90 days ago and 24 hours 15 minutes is more than 24 hours.
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>>18378445
>So if it was a first time violation outside of the 90 day period they should have left a ticket rather than adding a strike to my profile and towing my car.
Selective reading is a bitch of a habit.
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>>18378472
I read the second warning as the one they give you 24 hours before towing you.
Where can I look to apply for places to work a part-time summer job at?
Want some pocket money during the summer break and the experience would be nice too
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Always try local ma and pa shops. If not discount stores, if not than restaurants that arent chains.
Last resort just due menial physical labor at gardening centers
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>>18378390
Forget what >>18378460 said, you should be applying anywhere and everywhere - retail, supermarkets, restaurants, etc. You're not the only kid who wants a summer job, and everyone else will be applying wherever they can; why limit yourself?
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>>18378390
Your best jobs would be things like Uber where you can make your own hours that way you still have time off during the summer.
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> Be the quiet guy in every social circle
> Being active and social in my quiet way
> Grow unsocial because life happened
> losing social circles because of that
> try to reconnect with the world about 15 years later
> always being the one who has to take initiative to connect with people, even closest family
> not getting accepted anwhere and being told to be "weird"
> not getting a useful answer on asking why/how or what could be done better
> clearly awkward silence instead everytime
> fml
> still trying to find out what is wrong with me
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Same boat. I really struggle to maintain relationships with people it seems. I don't know why, and it isn't from lack of trying to find out.
I tend to be rather reserved nowadays. It's will help to get accustomed to being alone, even if its temporary.
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>>18378323
Well i've gotten used to being alone years ago now. Life still feels empty.
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>>18378363
If it does, you're only pretending to enjoy being alone. How many years have you been both okay with yourself and being by yourself?
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I work as a nurse in the pediatric department at a hospital. I occasionally see this attractive ER nurse come by. I've introduced myself to her but we haven't really had a conversation.
What is the best way to eventually ask her out on a date?
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It's unprofessional to date coworkers lad.
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Don't get your honey whet you make your money.
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>>18378317
>What is the best way to eventually ask her out on a date?
WOW, slow down Speed Racer!
First of all, think if dating at your work is even worth it. There's the phrase "Don't shit where you eat". Some things shouldn't be mixed together.
Second of all, you don't even know her. IS she single? Is she straight? These are basic questions. Before you start thinking about asking her on a date, realize there's a lot of ground to cover even if you make it past the first point about dating on the job. Relax and slow the hell down.
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How do I give good advice?
How do I ask good questions?
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>>18378303
Ya need jesus
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>>18378303
This is the abosolutely worst place to ask, as anyone using this board has no friends/dares not ask questions and is in general full autismos. It's like asking a born-deaf person about chords to the violin.
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>>18378303
tell ppl to kill self
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SHARP PAIN WHEN I STOP URINATING
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While urinating in apublic restroomI became frightened and suddenly halted the flow of urine midstream, as a result, I felt a sharp (not burning) pain below my scrotum/in the area between my scrotum and sphincter. After the pain subsided, Iresumedurinating without any problem. Can suddenly stopping urine flow cause pain? This has happened several times to me.
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Yeah of course, it does hurt, google it
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>>18378265
yes
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I can't find anything that explains this on google. So, this is a normal thing then? The pain is so severe that it makes my eyes water!
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I've been here too long and can no longer find the door 2017-06-02 10:29:04 Post No.18378256
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I've been here too long and can no longer find the door
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This is probably the worst place to ask this,
but how the fuck do I get off 4chan?
I've been browsing since around 2008, obviously there have been many changes since then, but as of the last 6months - 1year. I've just started to hate this place more and more. I'm sick of the constant shit posting and the total lack of any kind of conversation or interesting content.
I usually browse /co/, /x/, and sometimes I'll peek into /pol/ and wander through /ic/ (because I'd like to be an artist eventually) all of which seem to just be sliding into the shitter.
I've always loved how this place wasn't an echo chamber hugbox circle jerk and usually you can trust that some one will call out how utterly stupid something is eventually, but that seems to be gone now. It really has devolved into shitposting chaos. It probably sounds pathetic, but honestly I've expanded my mind so much through this website, learning about different interest and seeing different perspectives on things. Ive hit the limit though I feel, I do more posting than lurking and that just sucks ass.
theres nothing left for me here, but Im unsure of where else to go. and its become such a habit to go to my "favorite" boards, scroll through, see nothing but garbage, leave, and then do it all over again a couple hours later. I need some other place or places to go to expand my mind and interest, but I really dont know where to start with it.
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I can kinda relate, started posting here when I was 12/13(?), well, I'm 18 now and its kinda taken a toll on my mental health to put it lightly.
My best advice is to find an alternative first. Find a new board/hobby and join in on their general or discord.
Most people have moved to discord and barely post on their respective board. Maybe that's for you?
Otherwise find a different website you enjoy, or better yet, find an outdoor activity or club that takes up most of your time.
Another suggestion would be to install clover on your phone and never use 4chan on your computer, only ever on your phone. You'll likely be using it a lot less that way.
Best of luck
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>>18378256
1. set up parental controls for your router, only block 4chan
2. set a password as random hammering on a keyboard and don't bother to remember it
3. log out of your router
Done, you just basically locked the door to 4chan and destroyed the key so that you can never return
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>>18378274
>well, I'm 18 now
> Find a new board
>install clover on your phone
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I don't know how to stop being an asshole. I'm always selfish and when I'm nice it's not really genuine as i expect a response. All my friends abandoned me and I'm struggling since all my medication ran out. I don't know what to do to stop being such a dick. Help?
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>>18378219
The fact you realize anything sounds like your on the right track. The main thing is to start doing things because they are good and not to get a reward at the end. I have no clue on your med situation though.
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>>18378228
It's just I realized this a few years ago I was being more and more salty and doing bad things but it's like,,. I know it's bad but I can't help but do it. I was told on part of my Borderline PD that it's because I'm more likely to take stupid risks but i don't know. Sometimes I think actions will pass but it won't really because I don't realise the effect I have on people
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>>18378219
I need help with this as well. I'm rarely nice to people I don't expect to get something from. Sometimes I think about hanging myself. I don't know how to stop.