Going to community college right now and i want to transfer to a 4 year university. I plan on getting my Associate of Arts Degree but im not sure what should be my area of emphasis. Im stuck between Engineering and Technology or Natural Sciences
>>18412562
Bump
This is a slow board, you don't need to bump it so quickly. And since you're at a community college, can't you get both and transfer with an emphasis in one? It might give you more time to decide which you'd rather devote more time to
>>18412607
Im trying to get out asap and i want to focus on one right now because i want to take a summer class to be ahead
i'm in a relationship with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years now. she might be the best and loveliest person i've ever met. she loves me more than everything else, probably way too much. i really really like her, yet i don't love her and probably never did. she is simply not attravtive for me, though she doesn't look bad at all.
since we are in a far-distance-relationship, i get many opportunities to fuck things up. i'm condtantly sexting with other girls but am too big of a pussy to hook up. still, i cheated on her when i was in japan and kissed two girls when i was on vacation.
she doesn't know about anything of that, but i think she deserves to know what a fucking asshole i am.
what should i do? i'm too afraid to tell her, not cause of the consequences i'd had to face, but cause i don't want to break her heart. i really like her as a person and it tears me apart. one the one hand, i don't wanna hurt her that much. but on the other hand, i'll never be happy with her and acting my whole life.
what should i do? i feel really desperate about it.
>>18412515
Break up with her stupid. Man the fuck up, do it and let her down gently. Then go fuck other women. Not that hard bro
>>18412527
i'm kinda affraid that she will kill herself. she has a pretty hard time for more than a year now.
Any ideas how to start a band
I live in the suburbs like an hour out of the city
I'm a guitarist and pretty good at it
I'm 17
I want a band that's more classic rock
So any advice anons?
>>18412453
Cool. Do you have any friends who play? It's easier to get a friend in to join you, then add to your band by trying outsiders.
>>18412453
Get enough people so that you can play a whole song (vocals, guitar, drums, etc). Then practice until you either kill one another or write an original song.
>>18412526
Sounds fucking awesome. You speaking from experience?
what's a good first date idea?
I hear these days if you want the ladies you have to take them to paris for a day of street photography.
standards just keep getting more and more unreachable man.
>>18412415
>first date
>paris
nope
rich people understand economics and would never do that
except some spoiled rich person's kid
>>18412370
Your bed so you can bang them.
There's a girl I want to be with, and I've been on the road to trying to get closer to her, but she has a boyfriend. Recently I joined her cadre of friends, including her boyfriend, and they're nice, but I feel like it's hurting my standing to be just another one of her jackoff buddies. I feel like she's using me for validation when she flirts and makes passes at me. We've had sex the first few times we met (before I knew she was with someone), but that's stopped in recent months. Now I'm another one of her orbiters I feel.
Am I doing the right thing or am I ruining my chances? I feel like I'm not myself anymore, and when I see her and her BF do anything sweet or say anything to each other, I get really pissed off. I've never poached anyone before, and wiht these circumstances, how do I play from here?
>>18412264
If you manage to poach her from him, someone will manage to poach her from you. Girls like that really can't be trusted to stay in a single relationship for a long time- they just move from one guy to another when they get bored. If you just wanna fuck around, that's a different story. But if you're actually trying to make this a real relationship, you're gonna have issues.
Also, what the fuck is wrong with you? Respect the relationship she's in, even if she doesn't. You could end up getting your ass kicked by a vengeful dude and his if you were caught and no one would blame him.
TL;DR- Don't mess with girls like her and stop being such a fucking snake
>>18412264
you guys had sex before you knew she was in a relationship? wow, she sounds like a real keeper and definetly not a cheating skank shell never do that to you man
>>18412962
this basically.
I've been with this girl for a couple years and when the relationship began I wasn't particularly attracted to her physically but thought whatever let it run its course. Basically lost my virginity to her too.
I ended up sexting girls on occasion and got caught every time (where each time getting caught represents not a single text/conversation, but a redeveloped habit of engaging in these conversations regularly). I never had the intention to fuck them I was just a horny male tryna get off, but good luck convincing her of that.
Every time, we almost broke up but reached amends. Things have been ok, but I recently really fucked up and this is where I need advice. She was gone, and I went to a little get together and ended up falling asleep in the same bed as a friend of mine, and we ended up mutually groping each other, light kisses on the neck and such but didn't fuck or make out (fwiw).
While this sucked ass for me emotionally, there was a large benefit hidden under the shroud of my fuck ups. The thing is, that experience completely exhausted any flame of desire I have for any other woman, which has been the root cause of our problems in this relationship on my end (her end being weight gain - she doesn't carry it well, etc). So I'm so positive that things will be perfect - IF she accepts me after the fact. I don't have to tell her, but feel obliged too. I feel the best time to tell her would be after she gets this job, so that she can move out if she wants, but at the same time don't feel right about having sex with her before telling her.
What do? And yes, I know used to be a piece of shit
>So I'm positive that things will be perfect
Why in the world? First of all, this is a recent development. How can you be so sure that just because your lust for other women is gone for now, it will actually stay gone?
Secondly, you have already shat over her trust. Multiple times. You know what they say about repairing trust etc...
You were not that attracted to her to begin with and she gained weight that is obviously less attractive to you still.
You don't even really mention anything about her or the relationship that would make it obvious that it's worth fighting for.
>>18412217
for her sake you should break up with her
>>18412217
Nice one OP! You were the cucker, as opposed to the cucky. That's a rare scenario on this board, and you should be proud
im 29.
how do i deal with gay rumors?
friends still hang out or not. but i think its affecting dating potential. ive never been seen with a girlfriend. friends are shit too i dont hang out with them much or at all. they probably keep me around just to fuck with. even overheard some of them telling new people. fucking sucks man.
>>18412188
help
Sounds like you need new friends man. You need to be around mature people that accept you as you are. Gay or not who cares? real friends dont give a damn.
If you have problems with dating you haven't gotten the right girl. But who cares if you date or not? Friend's shouldn't care they like you for you.
>>18412188
What I would do about these problematic friends, first off, is stop introducing them to girls. There is almost no reason to introduce a friend to a partner or potential partner unless they are classy.
I'd say begin the search for new friends, but in the search for a girlfriend you are *sort of* doing that already. When you make new friends, don't mingle them with the ones cracking gay jokes.
You've gotta put a stop to this dumb shit by doing what I just said.
I (gay) am afraid to have sex with people I know personally because im worried they will look at me differently because of it.
I feel like people will find it difficuly to fully respect me if they've seen me squirm with their cock in my ass.
Is this irrational? How do i get over this feeling?
>>18412175
Go to /lgbt/ they'll be better equipped to help
Are you comefortable with heterosexual intamicy?
>>18412175
Just fuck strangers then, casual sex as a gay man is available as fuck.
>Had interview
>Felt like it went great
>Told I'd hear back in ten business days after the company finished relocating
>Didn't hear back
>Emailed after 11 days on a Thursday
>Now Monday
>No reply
>I also sent a thank you email to the interviewer along with additional work samples
>He did not reply to that email
I emailed the guy I interviewed with, inquiring about the status of the position, but I was originally contacted by another person at the company.
Should I email my original point of contact or just assume they've chosen someone else?
>>18412163
bump
Don't ever email the same person twice with no reply in a sort of nagging fashion, but you can definitely email your original contact. I don't necessarily think that will work, but the person who is the most eager about the job often ends up getting it, by way or persistence or whatever.
>>18412254
thanks I'll contact my first point of contact.
(serious) they say willpower is a limited source, then how the fuck some people water fast for 40 days... ????
It's Britney bitch.
Gimme gimme gimme gimme more
>>18412101
>>18412105
>>18412131
You have to be at least 18 to post on this site.
Does smoking weed make you a bad mother?
Only if you
>do it in front of your child
>are too fucking high to take care of your child
>smoke while you are pregnant
So generally speaking, probably.
>>18412020
naw, being a bad mother makes you a bad mother. You're just a trashy mother.
>>18412026
>goes outside to smoke
> just sorta buzzed all day?
>in a legalized state?
Stoned 21 year old guy eating hard boiled eggs here to give advice to anyone that asks for it.
Weed helps me see deeper into problems and find solutions
I love talking to people about their problems
DISCLAIMER:
>I am 21.
i'll be posting in this thread under eggboi
I've recently started going to stoner-rock bars. I am generaly confident and laid-back. If someone comes up to me I can talk and even make some jokes. The problem is that I don't know how to approach people.
>>18411990
I find the best way is to drink at the bar, ideally sit next to a guy by himself or a group of guys just hanging out. Then ask them a question. It could be anything, but I'd go with something like, "Can you guys reccomend me a drink here? I'm really into IPAs/whateverthefuck". and when they offer you something, order it and say "Thanks, by the way I'm anon." and you can take it from there.
This approach usually works for me on men and women.
Finally gonna get serious with school after bullshitting around since 09, but I'm 26 and trying to go after a PhD in Paleontology.
Can I do this? I feel like my ship has already sailed due to everyone younger than me already finishing up school and I'm still in CC, coupled with the fact that I was never really good in math. I dunno. I just need a boost.
>>18411905
does other people being younger somehow make it impossible for you to get a degree or a job?
>>18411908
Not really, but its just a blow to the self esteem when you see how far you could of gotten if you didnt bs around.
>>18411932
what would you rather be doing in 8 years
>realizing how far you could have gotten if you didn't stop BSing around today
OR
>realizing how far you could have gotten if you didnt give up on what you want in life just because you were afraid of seeing how far you could have gotten
A few days ago, I hang out with two girls (both of them speak Spanish, while I don't). One of them is a close friend whom I'm not interested in (Let's call her Mary), and the other (Let's call her... Lisa) is not so close. We had fun, they shopped for underwear and stuff and I just made them laugh.
Anyways, Mary said "Ha, you became our gay friend of today." Later on I replied "You said 'became' as if you implied I had any chance in the first place." They both laughed for a moment and then Lisa said something in Spanish to Mary, and Mary replied. "Translation?" I asked, and Mary started to say "You have a-" and Lisa cut her off and said "I SAID IT ON SPANISH ON PURPOSE!"
Lisa is 10\10 in my opinion (externally and internally), and I'm around 6 or 5.5 or something like that.
It's driving me insane. Was she about to say that I HAVE A CHANCE?! Or some witty remark translated from Spanish, which Lisa stopped her from saying so I won't feel bad?
Do you think I have a chance and that I should go for it?
(OP here adding some things)
Not only I'm not above 6, I'm also a virgin & never kissed before. Also no (serious) gf or something of the sort. I'm a loser when it comes to relationships.
instead of analysing this one moment try to focus on if there are any hints that she might be into you. Unless you remember anything from their Spanish conversation it's useless to try to know what she was going to say.
They shopped underwear with you so you're either really their gay friend or it might be a sign of interest.
Hi, OP.
Great storytelling and style of writing. One can tell you express yourself with joy and good humor, which is likely how you present yourself to the world too.
I have nothing against being close friends with young women, but I was able to notice, throughout the years, that it is not worth it to let them drag you into their world of silliness and petulance.
Take a cool guy like you to go panties shopping and then frame you into some type of energetic gay friend we usually see in stupid white-chick-flick movie as they conjecture about other men-partners and keep you on a leash, out of the reach of the people who may be truly interested in you? Not so nice..
Don't feed on their crumbles and hints, my friend. From your description, it's easily noticeable that these girls know how to let prospective partners know about their interest in them. Don't fall for them and their silly man-puppet game, trust me.
Now, I'd love to talk a little more about the psychology of men-women friendships in our current social framework. I have to confess I've always found it interesting how girls have trust issues among themselves and frequently seek to associate with protective-funny-unattractive heterossexual males or homossexual male friends.
Anyways, love yourself, man. Don't ever be someone's little "gay friend", even if you are gay. Look for people who value you and truly love you. Don't investigate further into that girl's hints; if you're really into her and think she's a better and more interesting person when not around her stupid friend, then invite her to go out with you, like a strong, positive and independent human being.
Fuck young girls and their stupidity, damn..
>be me
>date girl fall in love
>she's depressed af
>thinks I'm using her for sex
>I'm not
>leaves me out of the blue cause she thought I was using her
>I apologized so much
>she thought I was insincere
>been a little over a month
>already has a new guy
>her friends say he makes her super happy
>says they have great dates
>this fucking hurts and idk what to do cause I want her back but I'm lost and sad
>>18411832
move on, the cunt aint worth your time
>>18411832
she probably didnt actually believe what she said. when people are confused about why they feel some way they will make up reasons. its not on purpose, its literally what the brain does to rationalize its own behaviors to you.
if you cut your brain directly down the center you will have two brings that operate independently, each controlling half your body. if someone asks you to pick up an object that is your favorite color, each hand will pick up a different object. your two brains cannot communicate and argue over which color is the favorite, so each one chose a different one. now the part of your brain that controls speech will make up a story, something like 'i meant to grab the blue one but accidentally went for the red one first'. or 'red used to be my favorite, but the blue one looked really nice...'
something to that effect. we do the same thing even with our brain attached. me, i make up excuses about 3 months in. suddenly im depressed and uncomfortable and i dont understand why.
she made up reasons because being with you just didnt feel 'right'. sorry bud
>>18411832
Sorry OP, you gotta just get over this. Cut contact (or if you cant just learn to live with it) better yourself