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Sounds like you need to learn to be more discerning about your "friends" There's no trick to it, but you have to be a real person with personal boundaries and not just a cocksleeve to anyone that's willing to hang out with you.

>>18415536
What's the difference, you treat someone like a friend, acknowledge their flaws but they still make them unattractive to you but you don't care about those things as long as you're friends. They think you are only paying attention because the attraction is mutual and shit their diapers when they find out you've just been trying to be a patient and understanding friend. If you know 100% the person is going to cut themselves off when they know they can't get in your pants, how do you solve that problem? Just don't talk to them at all? It doesn't seem like it has to be this way.

>>18415532
He's not a friend then. He either wants to just fuck you or a relationship. If tou arent interested in either you dont need him

>>18415491
So I talked to my friend about this and we both agreed she was being irrational but I definitely wasn't totally innocent. He convinced me that I should meet up with her the next day (today) to just finish things IRL

So I try setting that up, but she refused. I then was deciding to just write a long message, saying I'm disappointed in us and how blatant she was about airing dirty laundry on social media but in the end that I hope we just learn from the bad, remember the good and continue our separate ways, and I won't be replying anymore

But then I remembered she just deleted the facebook status, without even talking to me about it.

So /adv/, my question is. Does she even deserve a message of closure? Would I be feeding into it if I do? We're both 24, if that helps anything (well, I'm turning that this week.)

>>18415503

>haha you got abused
>no I won't apologize about it

She definitely sounds like a keeper. However, I will say that opening up about abuse while you two are having fun generally isn't a great way to keep a good night rolling. Not that you should never talk about your feelings ever, far from it - you should be open with people you care about.

Other than this instance, was she a decent girlfriend? If you think so, message of closure. If she wasn't really all that great and then did this on top of everything else, no message is needed.

>(well, I'm turning that this week.)
Spend on a fancy birthday party inviting everyone close to you EXCEPT her. Everyone in the party will be asking about her and you can shit on her all you want.

>>18415456
Dude, that's not weird at all, man. That's some of the most basic shit in long-term relationships, bro. Honestly.

After I got back together with my gf, I asked her for a bobby pin or "some nothing" as I put it at first, because I was scared like you and she was like, "Ok, I'm going to take one of your shirts, and you can keep my camisole, my bra, my hair brush, and a spare bottle of my perfume" And I melted for her like a puddle of wax in an oven.

It's natural and flattering and I can't imagine it any other way. If she loves you, she'll love the idea of you thinking of her.

>>18415456
I'll add that back in the day, women would write a letter and spray their perfume on it so you had that.

Also, I totally relate on the sheets thing. I dunno, maybe I won the lottery with my girl, but she's all about me being obsessed with her. She hangs her headband in my car and instructs me to leave it there, etc.

She calls it "marking her territory" and I love it, lol

>>18415469

You dont think it would be weird to ask for the pic and the shirt though? Like idk i probably just have a sick mind (this is 4chan afterall, who here doesnt) but im concerned shed think i was doing gross shit with it.

We've only known eachother for a few months also and we are playing the dumb fucking game where we pretend we dont want to get serious with eachother despite getting increasingly serious with eachother. So part of me feels like that might be coming on too strong or something? I should note ive only had one actual relationship ever and that was all the way back in highschool. Ive been with plenty of other people since but never a real relationship with feelings and all that shit.

You still think this would be normal and not creepy? Im a noob at this so i just wanted second opinions.

why in the hell are you going to university if you have no money to begin with?

>>18415430
Are you:
A) a hot chick, or
B) An entertaining dude?
If you are neither, then I've got bad news.

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>>18415438
Its free (for the most part) if you're poor in Canada.
>>18415445
I think I'm an entertaining dude but I'm sure that I could become even more entertaining if I learned how.

>>18415326
It sounds like you need to find a girlfriend to court. It'll burn up all your free time and give you something to look forward to.

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>>18415326
Start with the bottom of this Pyramid. It's really helped me achieve happiness. 'Maslow's Pyramid'

> I'm 20, in education with a promising career, have work, but I feel no sense of accomplishment or joy.

Because you haven't actually accomplished anything. Being in school with a promising career isn't actually a real accomplishment. Do you even like your career path? If nothing else, why not take up a hobby and make progress in it?

>>18415350
This too

>>18415271

It's a plantar's wart. Google will help you find a couple of different ways to fix it. There's store bought wart remover, a doctor can freeze it off, etc.

>>18415271
Absolutely. You are beyond help. Better start writing that will, if you haven't done so already. I'm sorry life turned out this way anon. Better luck in the next, I suppose.

>>18415271
Go buy some wart remover. If that doesn't work, see a doctor.

Do you believe in life after death?

>>18415256
I don't know.
My life has gotten so bad I have, despite always not believing in God, started praying.

Every time I pray, things tend to get a little better.
So maybe there is... Something.

At this point I can't convince myself to truly believe it. I'm too old to buy into it.

But god, I don't know.

>>18415269
Have you read about that chinese person that got cut in two but didn't die? Because at that time he simply believe that it's possible to be alive after being cut in two.

God, UFO or waifu, you just got to believe in something to give you hope. In a life or death situation sometimes its the only thing that could kept you going. Mind over matter is a very real deal.

I dont think anyone here can help you.
Your options are

>A, do nothing and wait for the eventual 'you failed'
>B, talk to school counselor about your options
>C, talk to the professor about your options

You're an adult and should treat this situation as such, own up to it.

Personally I would talk to a school counselor.
Approach them with an honest
>Hi my name is ___. I took the course _____. I failed the course and the exam several times, and was wondering what options this leaves me in terms of getting my degree in _______.

Like I said, youre an adult, and its literally their job to advice people in this situation. In the states we have guidance counselors or academic advisors, surely you have something like that. And like I said, this is all depending on your school or your professors rules, so you cant really get specific advice on this site.

Good luck.

>>18415252

>school counselor

Nothing like that.

I am alone on this one. My only contact right now is the professor.

>>18415264
Surely someone is in charge of counseling students, academically wise.
A department head. Dean. Something.

If no, talk to the professor in the same manner. Own up to it, and ask what your options are.

find a discord maybe

>>18415323
reasonable advice, thanks!

>>18415152
Some boards have irc or discord, maybe /soc/ can be a good place.

Nope. Sounds like you're both sociopathic, and potentially slightly autistic or your emotional intelligence is stunted.

Not saying that as an insult, I'm saying that as someone who knows someone who is legitimately sociopathic, but has the emotional intelligence to understand what the concept of "empathy" is--even if he is physically incapable of feeling it.

>>18415086
Sympathy by definition is sponateous affection towards someone. Of course I want the person to feel the same way and feel bad if they don't and it may have underlying pragmatic reasons

>>18415086
you either have no morals, conscience or backbone

but it's fine, OP, it's good to be a selfish bastard

You can be strong and feminine too, do you think that has anything to do with it?

>>18415055
i'm not really sure... i look extremely feminine/dress well and i'm very thin... when it comes to friends i find i'm only compatible with men because most women are too irrational for me to hang with. not all but most.

>>18415068
You might need at least one other girl friend, your perspective on how to act is warped. Don't undermine the importance of same sex friends but also don't go out of your way to talk to someone who is toxic or well, crazy.

>>18414903

... whhy would you tell him that?

>>18414906
Nobody wants to train a guy for him to leave in two months
Just a little fib to help get the job
Unless that poses problems

>>18414916

i mean it doesn't matter why you tell him you're leaving. at least wtih college he can understand it but to take a job for two months then say 'lol gap year' is downright insulting.

>>18414894
If you had your period, you aren't pregnant you dummy.

>>18414901
that's what i'm assuming but since a birth control period isn't the same as a regular period i was like WOT

>>18414894
You can buy a test for a dollar and the dollar general, and they are only like $3 to $7 bucks for the cheep ones at walmart so that's not really an excuse. Morning sickness dosen't start till your at least a month to 6 weeks into pregnancy. If you conceived right before your period then you would not have gotten it. The egg that was about to be a period would have been fertilized and stayed in you. It's possible to have some spotting during pregnancy and mistake it for your period but you can not have an actual period while pregnant. Just go take a test but you probably arnt

>>18414892
If in doubt, say something. A dustbin is almost worthless anyway, right?

>>18414892
lol it's a fucking trashcan, no one gives a fuck
if it was on the curb, it's even public property
that's why cops/feds can dig through it without a warrant

>>18414899
>>18414911
just worried cause its my neighbor
old man who bitches about random crap
'get off my lawn' tier.

if this was somewhere else i wouldnt worry

Weird I never thought of that as a male career. Quite the contrary, I thought of it as something rich girls study because it's fun and because they don't need a "real" career that will get them money because they can just eventually get married or live off the wealth of their parents.
Maybe you get a job in Star Wars now that it's run by that white pseudo-feminist cunt whore Kathleen Kennedy.

>>18414887
If you're worried about being short handed in this career path because you're female then you would likely worry about the same thing in just about every neutral employment opportunity. Just remember this, if you want this job badly enough then you'll work for it. Don't give them a choice whether or not to hire you, show them that you really enjoy what you're doing and that you're willing to work for them. Do whatever you can to better yourself in your career and people will take notice regardless if you're a woman

>>18414887

a little bit of both. it was a boys club for the most part, and as a result women don't pursue it much.

not many women really want to get into the field behind the scenes unless its artsy or acting or such.

most of the top feminist movies were written by men and such.

as for the camera, thats actually a thing. even an all female production company hired a male camera man because unless you're on a DSLR its heavy, and al lthe stuff that comes with it is heavy.