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I've been bullied for 2 years by my college roommates. They've physically and verbally abused me, stolen stuff for me, used me for my money, did things they thought was hilarious to me like making me clean up their room, lock me up in the room, make me walk for miles while they were in a car with enough space on me and played a lot of unfunny pranks on me.

Now I've dropped out from that college and I've developed a coping mechanism more like "get them before they get you" attitude to avoid being taken advantage of now.

But it's been 2 years now and I still imagine torturing and killing them in my mind which gives me pleasure, in brutal ways.

How do I learn to forgive and move on?

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anyone else have a parent that makes you feel like shit on purpose? My dad will make me feel like shit over the littlest things like i came in to the side door and I happened to have a little bit of dirt on my shoes that got on the rug and he's like "look now I have to clean up after you" and all this stupid shit. I didn't even intentionally step in anything and it wasn't even a lot.


Thats just one example. At 23 i'm realizing how much it has affected my self confidence.

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Hi guys !
So recently shit has really hit the fan in my country and just about everybody my age is leaving the country ( over 20% of the population aged 18-30 has left the country just in 2016. 2017 is expected to be worse ).

So, as all my friends are packing their stuff, there's no point in staying here.
And I have the opportunity to work in alot of countries, given my current work experience, and someone suggested Canada. Moreover, the visas for Canada will be lifted by December 2017, which is a great thing.

I have friends in whole Europe and a few in Australia, but nobody in Canada.
Can any canadian please be so kind as to tell me something about Canada ? Lifestyle, how's life there, how are the people there, how are immigrants seen ?
I've worked so far with people from Calgary, Alberta, Toronto, Quebec and Montreal and they seem like really good natured people with lots of patience.

Also, in order to give something back to /adv/, ask a multinational service desk analyst anything.

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Well i've been married to a native Hawaiian woman for the last 2 years now. And she's been pregnant for 6 and 1/2 months now, and it won't on as it was planned. But recently i've seeing these posts on why you shouldn't mix cause the white population is declining and stuff like that... so there's this feeling of regret that I have now, I'm Caucasian and i'm the only son of my parents. But i still love her, what do I do about this, will the child look more like me or not? I'll be putting up a picture of woman, who looks like my wife(but i won't put up a real picture, because of privacy reasons) in terms of the facial structure, my wife is just a little bit more tan in colour

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I'm at a crossroads. To change myself and become better, I must make my life miserable, although others will like me more, and I might get laid a bunch.

I can A: Stay the same and be somewhat happy
B: Change for others and be outright miserable

TF do I do? Happiness or acceptance?

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Hey /adv/.

I came on here a couple weeks ago about the fact that me and my BPD girlfriend of then 5 years were on the rocks; you might or might not remember me.

Long story short, I fucked up and watched porn while hanging around the apartment a couple months ago. She found out and was super upset, even though she apparently had been doing the same behind my back for months while telling me that I wasn't supposed to.

We separated for a month or so, and then talked about the relationship as a whole and decided that it would be best for both of us if we broke up. We left on fairly okay terms, but not even 20 minutes later she started angrily texting me for hours.

She's always had problems since before we were together; she's attempted suicide a couple time, and used to cut before I got her out of that. She has huge abandonment issues because her parents split when she was younger, and would get angry at me when I left for more than a day to visit family. There's a whole bunch of things I'm not mentioning that she would do, but she would constantly get angry at me every week for a couple days until I fixed things. If anything, she was good at controlling me.

Now that we're not together, I'm trying to process the aftermath of our relationship. She's the only girl I've ever been with, and we've been together since we were 16. We're both 21 now. I was terrified of now being with her, just because everything else is so unknown. Although I know that the breakup is the best for me, I still miss her; it's only been a couple weeks though. The thing is that she told me that she's much happier without me, doesn't miss me at all, and has gone off the meds since we broke up. My friends have seen her on tinder so I'm guessing she's already looking for someone new.

Gonna dump some papes if anyone's interested.

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I'm going to a model UN conference overseas next month. There's only one other person from my university also going, someone from our Model UN club. She's a friend of mine, but not a super close friend. More of an acquaintance who I talk to ocasionally and who likes some of my stuff on facebook (event attendences, page likes, etc). We've booked in for an airbnb, which has one double bed. She's sleeping on the bed, I'm on the couch. We will be sharing this accommodation for roughly one week. For those who don't know much about MUNs, there are social events on every night with large bar tabs, so there will be an abundance of alcohol.

Question one - given all the context I just provided, can you see a way for me to end up fucking her?

Question two - what would be the best way to do that?

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Hello /adv/ I am a wealthy 27 year old KHV male that lives with his mother. I have zero debt, and own an apartment I bought in cash that I rent out for 1,400 a month. I save around $55,000 every year because my only expenses are my car. Yet whenever a female asks me where I live and I tell her I live with my mom they assume I'm a weird guy and a loser and avoid/stop taking to me. I live with my mother so I can retire early and buy a nice house in cash when I'm older, but no female will like me because of this. How will I ever be able to live with a beautiful girl in my nice big house I buy in cash when none will even go on a date with me? What should I do?

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>29 years old
>living in a foreign country
>meet a guy on a dating app about 8 months ago
>hit it off and start sleeping together
>enter a relationship with him after 2 months of sleeping together
>asks to take it slow as his last relationship left him devastated
>things have been going great
>no signs of disinterest from either side
>do nice things for each other like cook, go out to events, messages, etc.
>both have a holiday planned for June (separately)
>leave for mine first
>send him a couple of messages while away
>his responses get more spread out, shorter, and seem different from when we chat at home
>he leaves for his
>eventually go a while without hearing from him
>asks what's up, he says he is just shit at replying to messages
>think of something I could have done wrong and apologize
>he responds saying he couldn't find the right time to tell me, but he says he doesn't feel attracted to me the way I am to him
>says his heart isn't into it
>he's in NYC enjoying himself while I'm back at home heartbroken and feeling ill

I'm more confused than anything, but the pain is just too much to bear. This is the first real relationship I've been in and I don't know what to do. He's with his 2 best friends (a lesbian couple) and I'm not sure if they have had a part in this. This person is not the same person I've grown to know over the 8 months we've been seeing each other. He said relationships might just not be for him or he isn't ready. But how fucked up is it he would break up with me through a text while on holiday? In fact, the guy from his last relationship did something similar in that he broke up with him and found a new partner 2 weeks later, showing how little their relationship meant. Gave him insomnia for 2 years until we met.

I've been stressed out and have had trouble sleeping and eating. Since this is my first heartbreak, anyone have any advice/something they can offer based on the information I gave? Really having a tough time here.

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It's either I'm VERY horny, almost uncontrollably, or that I'm depressed as fuck. (No gf, and no gf in sight)
And it's not rare or a sudden feeling, it's been like that for years. I have rare periods or moments of happiness and comfort, and within said periods I barely feel horny and I'm satisfied.
Is it because that I'm emotionally unsatisfied I'm horny and or depressed?

What do I do? Am I in a need of professional help? Psychiatrist, a psychologist?

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So I've been with this girl for about a year now. At first I think that none of us were to involved but as the time passed (and physical distance between as grew, lol) we've become really close, at least that's what I felt. And now she lied to me.

About 5 months ago she went abroad for an exchange semester. We've had some harsh times during these 5 months but we've also seen each other 3 times, spending maybe more than 1 week of total time together. As I said, despite this physical distance we've become really close, and I love her deeply.

From the start of our relationship I've told her I have a "no lie policy". Basically I'm a very honest person, I can't remember the last time I lied (as in not in jokingly manner), but during this 1 year together I've never lied her. She knows how important this is for me.
Last night we had some sort of silly argument. It was pretty late, and at 1 point she told me that she's going to sleep. Ok, have a good night and all that. I went to the bathroom, blah blah, ~10 minutes later when I came back to the phone I saw that she was still active. (yeah, she really was, I double checked with her What'sApp). I began typing and telling her that this bothered me: she could keep talking as long as she wanted with whomever she wanted, but not tell me that she's going to bed etc
She one line replied in the morning telling me that she actually went to sleep when she told me she was going to. I confronted her and she admitted that actually she wrapped up some convos and that when she saw me typing again she turned off the internet and went to bed. :)

We got into some sort of ongoing fight, but I really don't know what to believe. I feel heartbroken and not so sure about our relationship. We had the whole summer planned out, booked and everything. But now, how can I be sure that she didn't lied me before? The next spring I might go as well for an exchange semester, how can I be sure that she won't lie to me again?

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Having a kickback soon. I'm 18. How do I aquire alcohol?

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>Girl friend(Not in a relationship) texted me today.
>Wanted to know if we could catch up some time and chill at my house.
>Said sure.
>As we're talking, her ghetto boyfriend takes her phone and starts threatening me.
>He says he 'makes people disappear' with him and his 'set'
>Tells me that I better know what a chappo and Draco is.

Should I call the cops on his ass? He's subliminally threatening me about making me 'disappear'.

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I've been unemployed for 2 months now and finding another job seems impossible at this rate.

I tried beefing up my resume to make it seem like I was easily able to shift into the positions I'm after (trying to do something in retail until I can go to college.)

But I'm still having no luck, and I don't know what to do.

I didn't really do anything in my teens, have no real achievements or awards to my name, not even 6 months of customer service, and the only thing I have for certifications is my food handlers.

What should I do /adv/?

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I just got $200 from a settlement at my old job I quit years ago.

Advice on what to spend it on? Inb4 save your money since it's what I've always been doing and daddy needs to spend a little sugar.