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So who's the girl you like?

What's she like?

You could try being a lesbian

>>18439277
>being a little pussy bitch

If he wanted your help on the issue, he'd ask you.

Stream movies together and comment on them?

>>18439276
I mean maybe bring up that you're concerned about it but realize that you can't fix it. Just keep being his friend.

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>>18439229
That's bunny ears. Like playboy style bunny ears.

>>18439229
>(she regularly wears bunny + fishnets and no tights + short skirt all the time)

You're not serious right?

>>18439255
I'll see if I can find a picture and edit out the face.
If it's any constellation she looks fucking hot.

>>18439186

wew lad. thats a hot mess. look if you feel the urge to do it, go ahead and do it, worst case scenario is you'll regret it, which sounds like a bad thing, but if you can make it to thirty without any regrets you clearly didn't challenge your self or try anything new.

if you only want to roll with it for the sake of maintaining the friendship, dont do it. but it seems like you're clearly curious about it so if i were what i assume you are, id probably roll with it.

that being said it can ruin friendships long term so there is that. weird territory.

if you want it to stop you might need to be a little forceful. basically say what you said here, minus the curiosity bits, that you treasure the friendship but if he doesn't stop saying that you're going to leave and never come back.

our vices can be a fire. they either destroy us or our relationships. you are in a rare position where you might be able to prevent him from having it destroy either. most people destroy their relationships by making a move, but you're still willing to stick around. maybe ride that.

i wish you were my friend. ireally want to just kiss him so fucking bad but i know it will destroy everything, but the more i keep it to my self the more my sexuality implodes in my private life and i do more degrading sexual things.

killing me man

>>18439186
>I am afraid this new friend is only interested in sex
This is correct
>How can I sort this out and maintain our friendship,
Once he has sucked your dick he moves on from you, consider yourself another one of his conquests. Or alternatively he pressures you from there to move on to buttsex. This pressure doesn't stop until you relent in that, or the friendship ends.

Welcome to gay people.
I'm straight and I've had the same experience with some faggot wanting to suck my dick. He literally wouldn't stop begging for nearly 3 years till he got the message.

I dont think you should do it. You are already having doubts as is. Go jerk off, right now, then once you are cumming, stare at the photo you just posted. If you felt good cumming to his photo with no shame, go get your cock sucked. If not, dont fucking do it because the shame will be 1000x worse. You will literally die of shame while cumming in this dudes mouth or on his face.

>>18439175

reduce your fapping to once a day.

>>18439179
Why?

>>18439187

because fapping 4 times a day pretty much guarantees you are losing your manly hormones. it can actually effect growth and development. once a day allows you to still enjoy fapping but it makes the rest of your life more strong

>>18439111

>275

unless you're sporting some serious muscle you are not a '6'.

>what should I do besides not fap

fapping has virtually nothing to do with all thats going on in your life, except for if you arent cumming regularly you arent fucking relieving your stress.

most of your issues sound like they come down to two solutions
1) go see a fucking doctor
2) have your car ergonomically updated.

>>18439116
I do have a layer of blubber but there is definately some muscle in there too. Its probably my diet.

>>18439128

without pictures we can't confirm or deny how bad this is, but if you want to lose weight (and thus put less stress on joints) start dieting.

>>18439056

take your self out for dinner. then go for a drive at night, park up on some hill, look at the stars, and have a talk with your self. do it out loud. ask your self 'why dont i love my self? what am i doing wrong? what do i do right? what things (both productive and not) can/should I do to love and enjoy my self more?

>>18439056
A doctor can help.

In fact id urge it because sometimes this kind of chronic depression can come from underlying health issues.

Other than that its about breaking the cycle of negative thinking and a few other things. Make sure youre sleep is good because that can do some damage, make sure youre eating right because high sugar diets especially can cause depression.

A trained PhD psychologist would also tell you to keep a journal of positive things, writing good things that happened to you every day. Thatll encourage the formation of new neural structures that make positive thinking more of a habit.

And at the end of it all if you still need medication to help, then dont be afraid of it. Its your entire quality of life were talking about.

>>18439056
then why the fuck is everyone talking about me then?

>>18438966

>supposed to be

what did anon mean by this?

>>18438973
some people are unfortunately considered "lower" than others so some people think they're not supposed to love them.

>>18438978
on the contrary, its pretty fucking normal to fall for someone too good for you. if they aren't exceptional then why would you fall in love?

>>18438903
True story, I couldn't start growing a beard until I was 25.

I'm 28 and I STILL can't grow a full beard (my mustache doesn't cleanly connect and the hair on my cheeks is patchy). So that's just to say that there are some things about your genetics that you can't change.

That being said, I can grow a very thick and clean chin strap, and it's what suits the shape of my face. personally, it takes me about 2 weeks to go from baby faced back to thick but everyone's rate of growth is different.

Eyeballing it off of your current growth rate, it would probably take 2-3+ months to start to grow a beard, but it wouldn't be particularly thick. In the mean time though you will probably look sloppy as heck.

If you got nothing to do and no job that requires you need, go ahead and give a shot but otherwise you probably need to wait a couple of years.

Patchy? You have a fucking great stubble, this is what women want what you have right now, not more not less. My "beard" is not even close to you and I am 20.

>>18438923
Thanks for the input man, I'll try a few months to see where I am!
>>18438926
Thanks, but there's still hope for you as well. The other poster didn't finish until 25 eh?

>>18438876
No, it is possible for us guys to like deep voiced girls.

Do a recording for us? At least we will be able to gauge properly.

>>18438876
lose weight and your voice gets higher.

Last girl I dated had a deep voice. I fucking loved that, it's sexy.

>>18438845
bad news anon, she is lying

>>18438879
well even if she's lying I want her to have one with me, i dont really care about that

If she really hasn't had an orgasm in her whole 28 years of being alive, then I'm gonna suggest that it's probably going to take more than a couple of nights with you to get there.

Just enjoy the time you've got together. Don't put pressure on yourself or her to try and find a place you don't know how to get to and have never even been before.

thats like me saying stupid white people have made me hate myself for being white. I think really your problem lies with racism in either expressed to you verbally or what you've heard in social culture.

>>18438784
Your the one that creates the meaning in your life (you choose how being black makes you feel). A better way to think of yourself is your not one of those hood rats. Your a respectable black man take pride in that. Show people that your different and better. It's unfortunate the black community is in shambles. But everyone is an individual. You gotta respect yourself.

You need to an hero

>>18438746
You think you're alone?

I don't really know what to tell you, but I feel for you. I have some body dysmorphia, but I know what kind of position I'd put my boyfriend in if I ramble about my negative body image, so I don't. That's rough that she's putting you through that.

>>18438746
Anything you say isn't gonna help.
It's like when your mom says you're handsome.

In all honesty, she probably needs to see a shrink.

>>18438728
/adv/ is hugely uneducated about eating disorders, unfortunately. I've asked for some help with mine, and seen some other people post, and the threads are kind of ridiculously ignorant.
Eating disorders are hugely varied. All of your possibilities could be true. I could tell you a bit about my psyche about it if you want some perspective.
Yes, she's going to want to recover if she's going to recover. There aren't going to be people monitoring her intake 3 times a day for the rest of her life. She needs to learn how to do it on her own, unfortunately.

>>18438743
Please do share some of your insight, anything will be useful.

>>18438728
I had a gf with anorexia once. Or had been treated for anorexia before at an institution.

We just did lots of drugs, and I'm pretty sure the majority of her calories came from alcohol. Sometimes she'd let me take her out for hotwings. I did nothing therapeutic or positive for her, except fuck her. I probably made her a lot worse off in the end. Don't take my advice

>>18438704
She just sounds immature. Not saying she wont grow out of it in time, but doing nothing certainly will not help her mature. Have a mature talk with her then if it does not go well then move on.

You answered your question when you said she makes you miserable. Either that changes or you move on. Period.

>>18438724
I spend lots of time going over in my head what I should do. That's part of what makes me feel like leaving.

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Get rid, bro. I'm currently dealing with a breakup and I gotta tell ya, if you're unhappy then you're only going to get more miserable. Girls want what they want and all else falls by the way side. They'll say the decisions they make are for both of you and that they're considering your feelings but when you get down to it, the decisions they make are for themselves.

Look at the stereotypical relationship dynamics, a man pays, a man buys her gifts, a man pulls the chair out etc etc. You think this is derrived from nowhere? No. it comes from the very really fact that men give everything in a relationship whilst simultaneously being at the mercy of the other. Doesn't quite add up does it? Well that's love for you, pal. Buckle up because its a never ending roller coaster that you pay for with time and energy and it uses your balls for brakes.