I have a coworker I'm not fond of. He was recently promoted to a high level position and it looks like he's struggling.
Rumors are circulating that he may be drinking on the job. I have no idea if he is, but he seems to lose his temper a lot, sometimes appears flushed.
I work in the same building and could have after hours access to his office.
What sort of action could I take to incriminate/frame him?
Wow.. this is someone's job we're talking about. Why don't you ask how they are or how they're handling promtion (which is a stressful induction) rather than try to get them fired for something incriminating.
Oh, I see. So, cozy up to him and see if I can get him to reveal something I can use against him later? Good thinking anon.
>>18443438
>What sort of action could I take to incriminate/frame him?
this is how I know you're lying about the drinking/started the rumor yourself. did you get passed up for something? hmmm?
>>18443453
also you can't link posts so you're not from here and you've just heard of the hacker known as 4chan that is always up to no good. you know nothing. no one approves of what you're doing.
also, accessing another employee's office after hours will get you fired real quick.
My boyfriend seems distant, resentful and I am afraid of losing him, what do I do?
ask him whats up
Grow up.
fuck him off.
realize youre worth the time and effort.
go find new guy who gives them to you.
fuck his best friend then send him the vid. those are signs of a cuck awakening.
Single dad, moved back with parents, lost job recently, i want to go to school and get a degree in IT, im good at computers and shit... feel like a fucking loser and dont know where to start. I want the best for my kid. any advise?
>>18443368
Do have a degree in something already? Any college experience? Do you want to do online or at campus?
>>18443395
i have college experience, but when i was frsh out of high school i was an idiot weeb who went for art school and get some sort of animation degree... didnt work as plan, i tried again for IT but i guess you can say i didnt have the motivation... now that im "alone" again i want to give it a try, my kid is my only motivation right now. I want to do a combination of both, i like hands on classes.
>>18443368
How old is your kid? How old are you? I would say if your currently working then look into taking one or two IT classes at your local community college that'll work around your schedule. Part time school is going to take longer, but it makes more sense given your circumstances.
Don't know if this belongs here but anyways
Should I join the military?I feel like I'm wasting my life at home. I graduated high school a year ago and the only thing I've accomplished since then is holding a job as a landscaper for 4 months. It pays decent but with no benefits. All of my friends are in college and the only people I try to socialize with are my coworkers, it never works out because all they do is get drunk and I don't want to end up an alcoholic(pretty much all my family members are. I have an addictive personality,ie video games, tv shows.) I live at home with my mom, my older sister, her boyfriend and their daughter. I try to save money but I'm always guilted out of most of it by my mom and sister.My mom and dad separated when I was a freshman but I still see him at least once a week to talk, but it always ends in him getting drunk and passing out. I can tell he is disappointed in me because I still live at home. I've been depressed since junior year of high school because I've never had any real work ethic or motivation to do anything more than the minimum, I give up on things that require a lot of focus and time or things that have strict deadlines. Stayed back my junior year. My therapist told me I probably have add but I don't want to get diagnosed because it might make me ineligible for the military. I feel useless and I have no idea what to do in the future.I've had suicidal thoughts whenever I think about my future, but haven't told anyone. I figured if I join the military I would be forced to stick with it and I could actually be proud of something. I also get to be away from home and away from old friends who visit and like to shove it in my face that they're more successful than me.
I am a bit overweight, 215 5'10 but I have good stamina and decently strong calves and legs, also somewhat strong upper body. I think I can pass the physicals and other tests.
The cons are might end up like pic related.
Also if i die I'll be remembered as a hero
>>18443321
You are mentally weak and will hate it.
>>18443321
No shame in making an honest living, the world still needs landscapers and ditch diggers. If you really feel like you need structure, and want to bail out of family and need help to get on a path of independence, then go enlist.
BEFORE YOU GO AND ENLIST:
Research up on what branch of the military is most suitable for you. Don't just pick one willy nilly. Navy is different than Airforce, Airforce is different than Army, etc.
/r9k/ here, how do I get a gf if I have a lot of money?
Challenge mode: No prostitutes
>frogposter
Honestly, I'd just stay a virgin forever and save their entire gender the misery
>>18443310
You'd better off with paying prostitutes/escorts than finding a gf, if all you've it going is "have a lot of money"
Women in general are money sink, but at least prostitutes will put out and get the job done, rather than a "prude" gf who'll drain your money, but will never give you the goods and will bring a lot of relationship drama/dillemas.
Give me money and I'll help you.
>I'm 24 and 6 months out from finishing my degree. BS in computer science.
>GPA is 2.8, and I'm trying to get at least a 3.0, but these classes are hard af.
>Applied everywhere for the summer to get some experience in coding for big corp.
>Only got one recruiter to talk to me and says it'll be October before they'll consider me.
>Still living at home, worked 4 years of retail before quitting because the people they hired on as managers were complete dicks to me.
Basically there's something I'm doing wrong here, either with my approach to applying online or my GPA, or my resume.
I would like to work as a civilian under the navy cyber warfare dev group, or even doing anything in coding for government contract.
Hell at this point, if I can't get a job by the time I graduate, I'm seriously considering enlisting as an officer in the navy or airforce and doing 4 years of tour just to get security clearance so I can have an edge up in the government workforce.
At this point I just really need some job experience in my field and can't catch any. Any tips?
welp. I'm fucked. /adv has no advice for me. Guess I'm going to OTS.
>>18443241
How are you side projects?
You should put your GPA off your resume. The rule of thumb is anything less than a 3.3, you just leave it off.
Finding a summer job is a little tough right now, mostly because companies usually find college grads before summer break.
Best advice, do side projects, pad the fuck out of your github and put it on your resume, give brief bullet points on your hardest/biggest projects. Using school work is totally fine.
>>18443241
Also referrals take you super far. I got most of my interviews by just asking around friends and acquaintances if they can look at my resume.
Good Luck :)
I find myself in a very complex predicament. I don't want people to know I'm intelligent because they will hold me up to the highest level of countability. (Also people feel inferior when I expose my intellect to them). On the other hand I don't want to pretend I'm dumb anymore because it comes with the mundane idiot jokes & a ton of patronizing an belligerent behavior. Then there's the in between being genuinely intelligent some of the time and a complete dumbass some of the time. Which is worse then the previous two I've mention because it come with patronizing jokes and inferiority all at once. So My conclusion is to just let my intellect loose no matter the cost, not even if I come across as a condescending egocentric asshole. Would you agree?
>>18443178
Just bee urself m8
Only silly twats will shit on you for being intelligent. Just don't act pretentious and try not to look down on stupid people too much. You'll be fine.
Best thing to do is find something, or a number of things, and apply yourself. Don't stop learning, and don't be afraid to talk and communicate about whatever you want to communicate about. If people criticize you, confront them about it directly and consider finding new people to be around.
Stop worrying so much about other people. Chances are, they aren't going to like you much whatever you do. Most people are bitter cunts struggling with their own bullshit and are desperate for someone or something to hate. Be selective of who you are around, and don't forget who you are or what makes you happy. You'll find people here and there along the way especially if you keep on growing and developing and there's an obscene amount of directions to grow towards.
>>18443178
It sounds like you have an above average intelligence.
But it also sounds like you're insecure about coming across as less. Instead of being held to high standards by society, you hold yourself to that around others. My two cents.
I have two best friends who are a couple. I knew from the start they would not work, and now it's all falling apart. I love them both so much and this is all so sad to see. He is kind of losing it because he is using all kinds of drugs, including steroids. She is trying her best to support but she's constantly crying and is just clearly very hurt.
I don't know what to do. The guy has been my best friend for 4 years and the girl for a year and a half. I want to help her because she has helped me through my breakup and through so many other problems.. she's the best -quality- friend I've ever had. However, she thinks I'll have to pick one of them and says it would probably be him.
I dont know what to do guys. These two people both mean the world to me.
>>18443144
>post feminist pic
>talk about steroid-riddled drug popping bro
>and random other girl who is "the best"
At this point, I think you have poor taste in friends and this seems kinda baity.
>>18443144
Help them both then. What stops you from doing it?
>>18443144
Fuck her good and tell your friend guy it was her idea all the time, then walk away.
Posted this back in December last year but need more advice.
>28 m here
>Just got out of a long relationship
>Go to my mom’s christmas party
>See her hot cougar friend from work is here
>We start chatting a bit
>She seems tipsy
>She starts getting really close to me
>I put my arm around her and we just continue talking and having a good time
>Mom comes over and I can tell she’s annoyed with her friend
>Cougar starts making jokes how she’s going to be my mom’s new daughter in-law
>Mom is triggered and I just walk away from the situation
>End of the night, about to leave, see cougar by herself
>Go up to her and ask if I could give her a call sometime
>She writes down her number for me and gives me a hug
>Couple days go by
>Get back from bar with friends one night
>Feeling lonely and horny
>Remember I have Cougar’s number
>Text her and ask if she wants to get a drink
>Says she’s tired
>It was kind of late so I understand
>Haven’t texted her since
(Cont.)
About a month ago:
>Go to mom’s office to take her out to lunch
>See Cougar, haven’t seen her since that christmas party
>She’s looking good
>Reminded that I want to fuck her
>Chat to her a bit
>Made her laugh a couple times
>Gives me a hug before I leave
I feel weird just asking her out for a drink sometime, but I would love to be able to have an older woman as a fuck buddy.
This lady has known me since I was about 17 and I used to jerk off to her back then. It would be crazy if I actually got to have sex with her.
She’s a good friend of my mom’s and has been at random family events before in the past. So my question is; how do I engage in casual sex with this woman without making it awkward?
>>18443108
There's no fucking way you can do it and have it not be awkward.
Even worse, is she married?
>>18443106
Oh it's this thread again, only this time OP decided to include details and a story to make it seem like him wanting to bang someone much older than himself is legitimate and has a possibility instead of it being a random request for us to help him figure out a way to get a woman over 50 who is his mother's friend to have sex with him.
>casual sex
>not awkward
By doing it casually.
I'm 18 and currently living with my mom. Tensions between us are reaching a boiling point and she's planning on cancelling my phone tomorrow. She called me a lazy sack of shit, said I barely do anything around the house when I should be working for about 9 hours, and I fucking can't change that. My lazy ass self always gets the better of me. I'm seriously considering at this point just trying to run to California with whatever money/resources I can muster and taking up my friends offer to live with him. What should I do? Or am I just full of shit and can't man up?
>>18443098
What the fuck are you trying to say - are you literally just sitting around and doing nothing or are you working 9 hrs?
If it's the former and you go out to California, then you're just going to use a friend and get stranded.
But hey, maybe that's the wake up call you need to get off your fucking ass.
>>18443098
If you're a lazy sack of shit at home you won't be much better living with your friend. If you really want to move out though, make sure you get a job lined up pretty quickly.
>>18443098
if you can't manage to get a job where you live how the fuck do you plan on making a living wherever you move? How about you realize that your mom is right and try listening to her for once you degenerate.
My girlfriend wants to find a girl to fuck while I watch. How would we go about finding that?
>>18443072
>make tinder account
>chat up some cutie
>go on a date with her
>realise she's not a cuck and actually cooler than your degenerate gf
>shag her
>dump the cuck
That's literally the only solution you need, op
>>18443072
Daily reminder that if you are not participating you are still the cuck. Also start emotionally preparing yourself to not having any future with that women.
>>18443072
Tinder is full of lesbians. But I think you should take part in it. I'm glad I did anyway.
So recently I've been told that the way I talk and deal with people is way too "honest" and "direct", which leads to getting some people upset.
Personally I'm not the kind of guy that beats around the bush or else imply something, if I got something to say I either say it or shut up, tricky shit just don't come naturally to me in the way I speak. I also don't lie, I'm bad at it and learned that dishonesty just makes most situations worse. I try to avoid rudeness in the way I'm addressing others but they just get upset anyway.
Should I change the way I speak, trying to just imply things rather than state them, avoiding subjects, and using white lies more often for the sake of others? Or is sticking to my morals the better option? Usually I wouldn't care much for these kinds of comments but I seemed to have unknowingly hurt the feelings of someone very close to me, and wouldn't want it happening again
>>18443055
If it is seriously hurting people then i say try and adjust the way you speak to be a bit more gentle i suppose.
However i do believe that staying the way you are is the better option, a frank, direct and honest person is the one people like to depend upon, it helps you are a bad liar.
>>18443055
Telling the truth generally ruffles feathers and hurts the feelings of those who do stuff they aren't supposed to. No one likes goodie two-shoed people because they "ruin the fun" of doing stupid shit you're not s'posed to be doin' in the first place.
Whose feelings did you hurt?
>>18443055
Fuck them. Honesty is best
How the fuck do I ever hope to begin learning how to accept my physical flaws? Jawline and height are such hugely integral things to normal self worth levels as a male that it seems completely certain to me that somehow coming to accept these things could only ever technically amount to delusion. If that assumption is untrue, tell me why.
Yeah I wish I knew. I have a weak jaw (looks worse with my big jewy nose and puffy lips) so I have to keep a scraggly pube beard to make up for it. My real biggest insecurity though is my big puffy nipples and gyno. I hate my bitchtits so fucking much
>>18443044
Don't be self-pitiful on these aspects. Others also go through the same ordeal, heck, maybe even worse. Just look on the good things. If OP can deliver, OP will deliver.
Don't worry anon.
1. You don't need a perfect face to live a happy life. I have a strong jawline, I'm tall and my eyes have a nice color, but my nose is fucking hideous. And I always got less recognition from women than shorter guys because I was insecure. Also some chicks dig particular flaws, I recently met a girl who thinks that big noses add "character". I've also seen many girls who thought that I was too tall for them, even though I'm 6'1.
2. Height doesn't matter if the girl is shorter than you.
3. Height doesn't matter if you have a strong presence.
4. Try to build your personality around your looks. You're short? Don't fall into the "short angry guy that looks like a Chihuahua" stereotype. That way you'll have less problems with confidence.
5. If you aren't fucking hideous but still feel bad about how you look, stop looking in the mirror.
6. Tall shy guys get much less attention than short confident guys.
7. The biggest privilege of being a guy is that you don't need to look that amazing to get good looking girls. You just need to be cool.
8. If you really dislike how your face looks, get a haircut. A good haircut can make a 4/10 into a 7/10. I had long hair for the majority of my life and then I finally decided to cut it. Everything changed. Now I don't even want to look at old photos, I looked like a sad emo fuck with a mess instead of a haircut.
It's okay anon, everyone has flaws. I have a big jewish nose, incurable acne scars on my back and a smile that makes my face look like an obese person's stomach. But I don't feel bad about any of those. At first I just tried to ignore my looks, then slowly I accepted them. Now I'm reaching narcissism. I know my face isn't perfect, but I really like how it looks. It has a personality. It's me.
Me and my cousin went on an overseas trip for 3 weeks to Japan. It was just me and him, we're only a year apart and we've been relatively close compared to other cousins...
When we were younger we messed around, nothing too serious but I gave him my first kiss and we've dry humped before though this was when we were in high school, we're in our late 20s now. We haven't done any of that since we've gotten older.
Anyways, he invited me to go to Japan with him and it was an instant yes. We've planned for a while and finally went- nothing out of the normal.
However, by the 2nd week of our trip, we hit an Onsen (a hot spring) and had shared rooms. I don't know what it was, maybe the atmosphere, the sake we had or just the adrenaline of being on a trip with someone, but I just went to him and put both my arms around his neck, and kissed him. He didn't reciprocate, just smiled, laughed and told me to go to sleep. So we did, next to each other on our little bed mat.
An hour had passed when I woke up; I straight up wanted something inside me- I was really thirsty for sex. So I crawled into his bed and started kissing him, hoping he'd wake up. And it just happened- we had sex, for hours- I couldn't believe it and my heart was pumping a mile a minute; me and my cousin were having sex. We continued this every couple of days whenever we could, but never in public, always in the middle of the night.
When we got back to the states, I gave him a ride back to his place, stayed the night and had sex again... I kissed him goodbye and we haven't spoken since. It's been 2 weeks.
Was this just a once in a lifetime experience? Does this ever happen and should I bring it up? I've never felt something like that before. Does anyone have any similar stories and could tell me their outcome?
Cousins? I don't believe you...
Do you have pics to prove it?
Oh look, another incest b8 that will generate 100+ responses.
>>18443022
How would a pic prove they are cousins?
Hey anons...... I need some help. Recently, I've been struggling with lots of inner battles and have wanted to clear them up. Basically, I have been lying my entire life, and it's too easy now. I lie everyday constantly. By definition, I am a pathological liar. How in the world do I stop this habit. It's infiltrating my entire life and is cancerous. Please give me advice. I have no one to turn to, and no clue how to stop. I'm scared where this will take me, and what will happen to the relationships I have with people. Please don't leave dick comments, because in all seriousness, I am on the verge of suicide. Please help me.....
Stop lying OP
seek help as compulsive lying is a mental disorder
I was in the same situation. I made a thread like you a couple of months ago.
You need to change yourself. You won't need lying if you'll be who you want to be. I reached a point at which lying isn't useful anymore. Hell, it feels like risking somebody's trust.