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>>18443830
Yes... Do what you like.

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This would be up to your own personal preference and life decision. Not trying to sound rude but why would you even ask?

>>18443844
Because my father calls me a fag.

>>18443816

I've been working on shutting the hell up for years now, ever since I got scolded in early school for voicing my concerns about my teachers grammar or pointing out problems with democracy, anything non-PC will get you into so much trouble if you are a white male today. I have gotten better at it, but I wish I could stop even wanting to express my opinion and/or concerns, I rarely gain anything but trouble when I open my mouth to voice an opinion or to let people know they are mistaken.

Is it the ego that makes me want to inform people of my opinion? Is it my ego that wants to help people? It's usually rooted in anger, despair or both. In the example today I almost started writing in the papers comment section; "Other things to avoid to become a powerful successful woman: don't eat too healthily, avoid all exercise, preach PC and fat acceptance even though it kills humanity" etc..

Anyone else working on this skill? Really looking for some tips and insight.
My go-to train of thought in this regard is something like "I don't matter. Nobody wants to hear my opinion. Nobody gains anything from me blabbing on and sounding like a smart ass. I can't change anything. These people don't want my help" and so on.

>>18443816
>I know there is nothing I can do to fix these huge problems our society faces
wrong

shut up, but speak where it matters.

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>>18443840
what makes you think words can fix the problems we face today?

This is one of the reasons I don't want to voice my opinions, people think words actually matter and thus get pissed off when words that don't align with their picture of reality is voiced.

Give her a call by the end of the day, text her, send pictures.
How would you even fuck a new relationship up in just 20 days?

>>18443725
because distance can do that.... if the relation is not completely formed...
right?
I mean I only know her for a month

>>18443720
don't be controlling and weird.
I went on a 2 week trip to another country two weeks into a new relationship and my boyfriend made my trip miserable for me because he thought I was fucking other people when I wasn't. Let her feel free but also let her know that you really appreciate being with her.
I am still with my bf but the way he treated me made me want to drop him and it caused really bad damage to our relationship for a year.

>>18443678
I would imagine it has to do with a huge variety of personality disorders all with symptoms that make some act pompous... Also the sad part being this is one of the most active sociable group of people on the internet currently, at least in the english speaking language even though it's not even though its not even on the top 100 most frequented websites. (even facebook only really allows you to talk with people in your already social circle.)

And then there's the people that get off due to the whole "anonymous" we are legion ideas.

>>18443678
Anger and for fun are probably the most common reasons. Dumb frogposter.

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>>18443678
4chan doesn't have a thumbs up button. People who are mildly delighted or mildly annoyed only lurk. Only those who have strong opinions bother to comment.

>>18443664
Cut the contact and move on. She's not interested, she loves someone else.

>>18443670
I dont want to do that because Im the only other person she ever talks to. Shes only 19 and still lives with her parents. Other than her sister and her boyfriend. Im the only one she ever talks too. She still considers me a close friend

>>18443670
I would be hurting her if I did that

>>18443580
Break the fuck up with her.

>>18443580
I'd probably break up with her. If she's managed to hide that shit for two years, imagine what else you don't know.

>>18443580
It's called for a no-bullshit action and cut her out enirely. Best to do in calm and not exploding manner, yet precise.

Have some self-respect.

>new relationship
>keeping the baby
>probably cheating on you

Lmao enjoy those 18 years of child support. Abort the fetus.

>>18443572
Up front ask her all this shit instead of a Japanese custom dildo image board

If she's still not being honest ask her if she's cheating on you then throw her shit outside

If you don't figure it out soon >>18443576 will happen

>>18443579
It's already happened, obviously.

OP is probably a troll anyways

If you want the guy for sure, you will have to work on yourself a lot.

Personally it is very unattractive to see insecure girls that are in a terrible position due to mostly themselves.

However it is VERY attractive to see a girl actively trying hard to work on herself, while actively improving. While not blatantly showing your weaknesses.

>girl is hypergamous
wow

>>18443577


I am on a period right now if self improvement in getting out of a really bad abusive relaronship of two years that like ruined my life so yeah haha

She expecting a text from ya? What she or you say when you got it?

>>18443473
I just said "hey mind if I get your number" after we were hanging out with some of our friends, I just sent a text saying it's me

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Did I mess up?

Continue obsessing over her and investigate.

I wouldn't say 'OBSESS' over her, but I would find out if she's really seeing someone. Regardless of heartbreak, it will give you peace of mind and it wont nag at you

>>18443316
Now let her know that you posted in here and that you are also desperate. Works like a charm my dude

>>18443290
Change your major now. That degree will get you nothing in the workforce.

Change your major. Please.

>>18443309
>>18443300
What should OP change his major to? I'm curious

>>18443070
stop watching so much porn and stop jacking off so often.
You had sex for the first time and it didn't compare with how stimulating good porn is, so your dick can't get hard.

Stress
Lack of sleep
Weed
Bad diet

all things that will affect the quality of your erections

You give absolutely no usefull parameters so it's hard to give solid advice, but basically have good life hygiene and relax a bit, and your dick should get hard again unless you have some kind of disease

>>18443750

Can you anti porn puritans fuck off already with your bro science and propaganda ? Jesus christ, you're worse than born again christians

>>18442811
(2/2)

Here's some more info about my mom:
>early 50s
>middle class
>has 2 master's degrees & a PhD
>somehow didn't notice my dad was an alcoholic until after she married him (possible poor judge of character, even still)
>divorced my dad and hadn't dated anyone until now
>fat
>speaks bad Spanish

Here's some info about the BF:
>early 50s
>I don't think he has kids or has ever married (red flag at his age IMO)
>didn't graduate HS
>Christian (Catholic, I think... my mom is Protestant)
>average IQ in the D.R. is about 85, their top 1% is 115 or higher (my mom's was tested to be about 135 the one time she took a professionally administered test)
>VERY pushy when flirting with her, already telling her she's THE ONE for him even though they've only known each other for about a month
>speaks bad English

I don't foresee any potential scenarios where this plays out well. I'll list them:
>What if the boyfriend is a dating scammer?
>What if the boyfriend just wants a green card?
>What if he's a decent, well-meaning guy but my mom is so much smarter and wealthier than him that it's predatory on her end?
>What if they get married but find the massive obstacles (experiences, education/intelligence, interests, language, money, etc.) too great to overcome and they divorce?

And if they marry and move-in together, how can the boyfriend (bad English) get a job in the U.S., or how can my mom (bad Spanish) get a job in the D.R.?

Additionally, I'm recovering from a severe mental illness and really need her help. I've been deteriorating since she got back and broke the news, which I think is because I feel as if I'm losing the only social support I really have, in addition to being the only relative I stay in touch with.

Thanks.

>>18442811
1) You have every right to be concerned because often in these situations there's an ulterior motive. This one doesn't sound genuine.
2) there's nothing you can do to prevent it. You can talk to your mom about how you feel and warn her. However, would you dump a guy because your mom said, I think he's bad? She isn't going to listen to you if she doesn't want to.

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hang on, he's one of these Creole type nogs, right?

normally I'd say to mind your own business if it was anything else (unless the guy was a criminal or mentally unstable) but this has got to be a scam, in fact, there have been movies made about this fucked-up shit:

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>>18442783
How old are you? Do you have a mom?
You are going to be shit on when the money stops flowing in.

>>18442808
I'm 24 and I'm in the process of moving out. I'm still very worried, though. Will this affect me or the rest of my family?

>>18442833
Also my mom has a job of her own, if that means anything. I'm moving out soon, but I still have two younger siblings living there, one that is below 18.

>>18442613
Dunno man, the one time I kissed a girl was cause I was high on mdma, think she hated me after that.

What were the first 2 dates?

>>18442613
Obviously something that you haven't done with her yet. >>18442639 needs an answer, we'll be able to help more after that.

Generally speaking, art museums can be fun as long as you're not super uppity about it (unless you both are, but it has to be 0 or 2. You can't be 1 yes and 1 no for it to be fun). Regular museums, bike riding or hiking, swimming, going to a class that isn't a mandatory school class or something.. Anything can be a date honestly. I once sent a text to my gf asking if she wanted to dick around in Walmart while I got my tires changed and rotated there. She agreed and that's some of the most fun we've ever had. It doesn't have to be super elaborate or creative. It's okay to wing it sometimes. Note, SOMETIMES. It is better to have a plan a lot of the time though.