Currently auditioning for police acadamy. Going to a collabration test soon with 5 other applicants, to see if I have the necessary communication and problem solving skills to work in the police.
What vibe do I need to give off? I heard there is a hard line between being too dominant and too passive. What if I have no reasonable input, do I keep my mouth shut or make up some bullshit?
Anyone with experience?
>>18450025
Everyone fits into a team in different ways. It's okay to not be a natural leader. What sort of role do you normally play in a team?
>>18450045
Good question. Usually a facilitator role.
>>18450085
How do you mean?
Has anyone ever left home with $0 to try to forge a new life. I'm talking about leaving the state completely. What happened, what did you do? Were you able to take anything with you? Did it work out in the end, are you happy and working now? Did you get a new life?
My dad did, but it was a) 30 years ago and b) he had extended family to stay with
>>18449927
Man, it was easy back then. Much simpler life.
>>18449933
Well to be fair, his uncle invited him over because there were better opportunities where he was. It wasn't like he was just sick of where he was so decided to pick up his life and go.
How long after dropping out of high school do you have to get diploma online? I'm 24 and am in position at work where I have to get my GED withing few months or find work elsewhere. I made it up to Jr. Year in high school but never really paid attention, I'm not stupid but I fear for the algebra and historical questions that will be asked. I'm American in California I heard they recently made it alot harder too. Did a few pre-tests from Google and was disappointed to see the difficult shit being asked with odd fractions and history. What do? There's ways to study I know but how will that help if you don't know what you're going to be answering on tests
Pls respond
if there is a limit, it would be local and it would be something oyu look up on google, but honestly people who are in their 70s go back to get their diploma or GED
>>18450133
Thanks for the response,so I should go to close by adult school and ask.
This is going to be a long one so tl;dr: Received a malicious/threatening message from my ex's father who's basically a mad man.
Earlier today I received this message from the father of my ex-girlfriend. Of whom I broke up with about 3 years ago. We broke up because I cheated on her, not my best moment in life, but this was after months of her being physically & mentally abusive. She would often cut herself, point to the cut and then say things like "What're your friends going to think when they see what you done to me" Implying to pass the cut off as assault. She would also punch and kick quite often. That doesn't make what I did ok, of course but I state that just for context. I never hit her (although admittedly I did restrain her a few times, grabbing her arms in an effort to stop her punching me)
She would also often lie about people and certain mental disorders she had and usually self-diagnose a lot.
police.
lawyer.
>>18449695
>A GUN if this mofo comes to your house at night.
Police
Lawyer
>>18449695
cont.
The message I received from her father obviously reads "Now I know who you are see you soon xx"
In the 3 years me and her dated I had never met her father. Whenever I asked about him she would talk very unfavorably of him and even stated how he's had a history of violent outbursts and that her mother ended things with him due to that.
The ex (prior to us dating) had been the victim of an apparent rape. Well I say rape but it's more a I-regret-the-sex-i-had-with-previous-bf-feminist-kinda-rape.
When she told me of this years ago after saying she wants to pursue legal action I asked "Well what did your father say regarding the whole ordeal" to which she replied "Oh I could never tell him, he would literally come travel down and kill him"
Ok guys I'm kind of in deep shit here. So I don't go on this board ever, maybe I'll go and give some advice to other people on here as payment. So little back story my ex gf is bipolar receives California SSI. She is only able to work. She has bad anxiety and depression. But whatever that's a discussion on its own. But I got her pregnant. I'm pretty sure it's mine. But we wanna get a DNA test after it's born so I know for sure. She is ok with. Now I can't afford child support. I know that if I sign the birth certificate the state is going after me. I want this child and I'm excited to be a father. But anyways, she we were gonna get a 3rd party DNA test and so she can keep the results in case I dip out then she can go after me for child support. Is there a way out of child support and she can be rest assured that if I run she can go after me for child support.
>>18449603
Also excuse my typos please I'm on my phone.
>>18449603
If you want this kid, then what's there to lose? Take custody of the kid. She has a disorder that would make it easier for you to claim custody.
>Have a job that pays more than hers.
>Mentally stable.
>Have better living space for child.
>>18449626
That's not what I wanna do?
Plus I don't have proper living space for this baby I do work and make decent money. But I just want the baby to stay with her and I just go over there and pick it up and take it to my house or whatever everyday. She just wants to make sure she can get child support later on. If I take off and ditch the kid (which I'm not)
Haven't had real friends in over 10 years and I was recently asked out by a group of semi-strangers. How do I act like a normal person?
They're people I met in online vidya, by the way. What are the chances of me losing a kidney?
"Hey, what's up. I'm <anon>. Nice to meet ya'll"
"So what do you do"
"Yeah the weathers really purple, it's starting to get really yellow"
Where you from?
blah blah blah blah
Just talk, say shit, doesn't matter.
Too much to explain.
They'll cut you some slack, just stand back, observe and try not to do anything that stands out.
Keep doing it until you get the hang of how social interaction works.
I got a birthmark on my toe that appeared last year and when i checked today its suddenly gone.
Is this normal?Or is it like warts that are gone after a while?
Also the weird thing is i actually had a dream last week where it dissapeared.
>>18449498
Did you finally wash yourself?
>>18449521
Fucking retard.
How do you get into the non-anonymous internet?
Things like Instagram or Snapchat.
I haven't had any form of social media but steam since middle school
Part of me wants to open a Facebook or Twitter and start adding people but I don't know who I could add but family. And why would anyone want someone who doesn't post much to follow them online anyway?
Give it to me straight. How do I become hip like my fellow young people (I'm 19) and blend in with the non-anonymous internet
People like adding other people they know for friend numbers, and also if they ever have to reach you, or they are planning a reunion, or see how you are doing then they can. Don't overthink it. Just add people. I dont follow everyone i added from middle school but it's nice to know that We are on good terms enough for them to have added me back.
Just add pictures of you so they know it's you and not some bot.
Making a facebook account in 2017 would come off as pretty odd.
Facebook sucks. Instagram imo is more okay since it's just all pictures, although the ads can get really tiring. If you're into taking photos or just lurking on people, I suggest to make an Instagram.
Twitter's pretty cool for livefeed shit or memes.
I dunno. Social media isn't really necessary as long as you've got your own circle of friends to chat with.
Hi /adv/,
>be me
>be actual roastie
>not even ugly
>not even whore
>virgin actually
>never even masturbated
>ashamed and embarassed
>want boyfriend, want to have sex, but lack any self-confidence
>consider surgery, but it's expensive and scary
>tfw I'm wasting my best years
What do, /adv/?
Just leave it
>>18449382
Save and cut that beef off and don't fall for the coming white knights. It's simply not aestetically pleasing for normal people. The only guys which like them are the same ones which like to fuck fatties because they get a hard one from the psychological control they have over insecure women. They are pure cancer.
It's also not that scare. Local anasthesia, a couple minutes and after a month you can finally get fucked.
>>18449488
t. over insecure woman
I might be using my new boyfriend for comfort and intimacy. I like him a lot but he's older and just has way too much baggage in his life that I can't handle. He treats me amazing and that's why I like him, but he already talks about marriage and kids after a month of dating. It freaks me out. I don't think I'll ever want to marry this guy.
Is it wrong to keep dating him casually? Will he get the hint if I just keep refusing to meet parents or talk about the future?
Maybe he will
Maybe he won't
I don't see the harm thou
Don't be with someone who freaks you out. Talking about marriage and kids already just screams psycho to me. Like "pokes holes in condoms" psycho
>>18449352
>Is it wrong to keep dating him casually? Will he get the hint if I just keep refusing to meet parents or talk about the future?
Do you live together?
How old are you and how old is he?
1 month is stupid yes... no one knows eachother after 1 month. Maybe he's a psycho (unlikely) and wants you to be his little reproductive psycho machine. But more likely he's a desperate mr nice and stable guy. But if he's letting you know after 1 month he wants marriage he's either nuts or after 6-24 months of dating maybe marriage and kids is what he wants. He's letting you know what he expecting.
Depersonalization
Help me for fuck's sake edition
>can't remember details
>constantly at a loss for words
>feels like I'm in my own spacey bubble
>no enjoyment from anything anymore other than sleeping
>foggy brain to hell and back
>no energy to do anything
>easily irritated
I'm trying to major in computer science and I'm going into my senior year, but about 5 weeks ago I woke up and since then every waking moment has been like a dream to the point where I can't tell when I'm awake or asleep.
> inb4 smoke weed bro
I've fucking tried it and it doesn't do shit. the only comfort it gives me is knowing my brain isn't in a sober state of mind
>>18449320
Tbh I think everyone in computer science/engineering/physics is dead inside in their 4th year. all the small things were big issues.
what i found helps:
>take up a hobby.
>set up a time each night where you dont do anything related to your studying (ie. at 9 PM put all your books away and start watching tv or something)
>exercise
>try to get at least 8 hours of sleep (which I understand is hard)
>JOIN A CLUB AT SCHOOL, preferably something that requires you to get on your feet and perhaps sweating. i joined the hip hop dance club at school. a good part about this is that your social life gets a boost, which is really healthy to have as well.
good luck.
source: computer science major, friends were in mechanical engineering and physics and we all agree that we were all fucked up in our 4th year. especially with job applications and stuff. we just graduated but for the most part we all felt the same way.
>>18449351
> take up a hobby
all of them died as of 5 weeks ago. They aren't interesting enough to capture my gold fish-like attention span.
>set up time each night where you don't do anything
Literally don't have anything to do right now cause Summer and I'm still like this.
> exercise
Stopped going 2 weeks in cause I felt no different and ended up sleeping for 14+ hours a night when I did exercise
> 8 hours of sleep
I'm lucky if I can go to sleep for 2 hours
> join a club
School's out
Not trying to shoot down your ideas, appreciate the advice, but I mentally and physically can't function anymore. I don't even remember basic commands in Command Line, a class I took last quarter. Literally everything I learned just up and poofed. I lost an internship opportunity because of this and it's driving me bat shit insane
>>18449372
Have you seen a doctor?
Ok, don't know if I should dump my gf, she has had a shitty attitude and just lack of emotion for over 2 weeks now. She often only answers monosyllabic or with a fucking emoji. I don't know if I'm being to paranoic, I want to know what femanons think, since you are women and may give me good advice...
>>18449220
Here was an edited image of me and her with a hearth and all that romantic shit
>>18449225
>>18449230
She has more time for her fucking drawings
Do any of y'all call into work when majorly depressed? I have a shift tonight but I'm literally bed ridden right now, wondering if I should force myself to go or just call in.
>>18449219
Get the fuck out of bed and go to work. You need to sustain yourself.
If it's the first time you've felt like this and you're just having a rotten day, I'd probably force yourself to go in.
You can always say you're not feeling well when you're there and come home, if things feel that bad. If you get into the habit of avoiding things you don't want to do, you risk losing structure in your life and making your depression worse.
So stick at it, make the effort to go in and see how you feel when there.
>>18449219
Doing that will make a new low standard for yourself. Youll deepen your depression by not fighting it and letting it take over your life bit by bit. First you don't want to go in today then you don't wanna go in tomorrow then you're fired but who cares then your rent is due but again who cares and on and on...
It spirals m8 don't let it control you.
Get ready for an incredibly self indulgent post.
I have two very close friends, the kind of friends you've known forever and have only ever grown closer to. One friend is getting married and she has asked me to be her maid of honour.
Here's the issue - I grew up fat and ugly. I hit my early twenties and put everything into improving myself. I'm still fat, but I workout five times a week and eat healthily. Slowly slowly, I'm getting there. It seems to be taking forever but it's working.
Both of my friends are very slim. Tomorrow I am going for a dress fitting and even though I'm ridiculously excited about seeing my friends, I feel sick about the idea of going to try this dress on. Seeing myself in the mirror makes me feel sick and there will be other people there as well.
I know it'll trigger my anxiety about how I look. I know I won't enjoy the experience and I'll end up sinking into a pit of self hatred that will take weeks to go away. It'll ruin the day, put me in a negative frame of mind and I'll be ultra sensitive about what is said and what people might think.
I really want to take this opportunity and enjoy it, as I don't get to see my friends as much anymore. But this is such a big deal to me that I'm already worrying.
How can I stop thinking so much about myself and enjoy the actual experience for what it is?
I can't speak to my friends about this because it's embarrassing.
Tits or get out
>>18449183
Im a dude so this whole self image hatred thing isnt something we typically deal with. But my best advice is to have your phone handy and have a ton of pictures on it from when you were a total fat lard. The worse looking, the better.
When you are trying on dresses or w/e and you start getting anxiety, discretly take your phone out and go through the pictures. Then look in the mirror. Accept that you have greatly improved. Accept that you are already doing everything in your power to improve further. Accept that because of this, you WILL improve further. Accept that because of this, there is nothing more you can do now that can change your image overnight. Accept yourself for who you are, and for the progress you are making, and for the progress that you will continue to make. There is absolutely nothing you can do to avoid the situation i think, and if there was it would be dumb and unhealthy. You are who you are. You are taking steps to better yourself. No one could ask more than that of you - the only person who will not be impressed that you have lost weight is yourself.
It really just boils down to internalizing that you are still a work in progress and celebrating what you have accomplished, rather than feeling down on what you havnt accomplished yet. You arnt supercunt. Youre just another woman. And if you truly are making progress, you are absolutely doing just fine and you not only have nothing to be ashamed of - you have so much to feel proud about. When you have anxiety and feel bad during the dress thing, just remember all of this and focus on all the good rather than the bad that technically doesnt even exist.
>>18449227
Wow...I can't thank you enough for taking the time out to write that. But thank you.
I have bad days where I feel like I haven't changed at all. I have taken progress photos though, and the difference is pretty clear. I just seem perpetually stuck in this mindset that I'm disgusting compared to everybody else.
I suppose the way forward is to stop comparing myself. I have a very different body type to my friends as well - something I need to remember. They are both very reassuring but sometimes it falls on deaf ears because I'm so convinced and aware of my shortcomings.
How do I overcome this overwhelming feeling of unfairness in life? I mean like how people with good looks get a wider range of opportunities or how people who are born rich get to do what they want... etc.
Exist on a separate plane outside of your destroyed ego.
>>18449155
Not op but this made me laugh.
Start a revolution and kill everyone richer and prettier than you.