So this podcast radio show I've been part of for the past 3 years wants to do a live commercial. I agreed to meet up with them in person, but after looking up the address, I found out it's in the heart of Flatbush Brooklyn which is one of the most crime ridden neighborhoods in NYC.
Being a young white female, I am terrified to go out there alone.
What should I do? I don't want to flat out say "Hey I don't want to go there because I'd like to not get robbed or assaulted". Should I say it's out of the way or say I can't make it? I already agreed to go so I don't want to look shitty, but I am terrified to go into this neighborhood or even go into the subway.
>>18458541
Go with one of them. Carpool. Etc. Being someone along and have them sit aside while you record.
And inb4 someone asks if I've never met with them in person before, I have, but they're picking this location because it's by the lead hosts apartment. We usually do our recorded shows over Skype or Zencaster from our own homes.
>>18458551
I'm meeting with 2 people who already live there. I'm coming from another city. There's no one I can go with.
I wanna go to escorts and do all sorts of degenerate sexual shit I'll never do with a gf/wife.
Will I regret any of it?
>>18458341
stds
>>18458341
Only when you're currently in relationship.
You know it's cheating when you're not single, right?
>>18458341
What kind of degenerate shit?
I never said no to a guy if he asked me to try something. You'd be surprised by the amount of shit a girl would do for someone they love.
Hey /adv/ what are your thoughts on creating a fake Facebook account to sign up with tinder? It would still have real first name and pictures, but beyond that it would basically be a dummy account. Is that weird?
>>18457069
not really, no one from tinder has ever tried to add me on facebook. just set all the profile settings to extremely private and they wont even know its a dummy account. but yeah plenty of people do it.
>>18457069
You can now sign up for tinder using a phone number
I've been considering doing this with a fake last name and no pics but I don't know if it would come off as creepy.
>Send message to person I'm in a relationship with
>"God dammit I was masturbating. Screw it I'm going to bed."
How am I to know?
I don't want to ruin his fun.
Should I just not start conversations with him?
Or is he the one who's wrong?
He should only have said "I'm masturbating", in exactly the same tone as if he said "I'm doing homework" or "I'm listening to music". I don't understand why he would say "god damn it" or "screw it I'm going to bed". Why do you think he made those comments? Did you say anything in particular during the conversation which you think may be related to this mood switch?
You had no idea that he was masturbating, not your fault. He's probably in a really bad mood and doesn't want to talk right now.
Don't worry.
>>18456822
Why the fuck did he not ask you to help him get off?
I got accepted to a prestigious masters degree in a foreign country, which would be huge opportunity for me.
>but
when I eventually leave, there will be nobody to take care of our family house and a chalet with a big apple orchard (I live with my mother in her sixties and my grandparents in their nineties).
Should I go for the opportunity abroad or stay here and take care of the senpai?
By persuing the Master's degree you will in time be better equipped to care for your family
Get the degree
Go get the degree first. It shouldn't take too long that when you came back everything you know and care for will die or gone, right?
That degree will also serve you better in time to help and care your family better with the opportunities it may bring.
>>18459446
If you dont do this, what else has better promise for granting you the financial means to maybe support your family and finance house maintenance? The orchard?
I'm sick and tired of being a soft cunt.
All these fucking movies, and I know it's just actors, but they pull off the most alpha maniacs.
How do you go from a being a beta to an absolute mental men's man.
>>18459402
you do what they do: you act. you've already established its not cohesive to who you are and you aren't asking how to improve a simple feature, you're asking how to overhaul your personality. only way to do that is to act.
>>18459402
fake it until you make it.
question yourself what the fuck did they do before becoming the man that they are?
Tried..failed..tried..failed..tried..failed..tried.. success..repeat..
>>18459436
>>18459449
What about the serious men you see all around?
The non-smiling sly bastards.
I can't seem to help myself in making a clown out of myself. I always act like a fool.
inb4 haha got you commie spy
How beneficial would it be in the future?
You shouldn't plan for failure. The chinese taking over would be the worst to happen to everyone.
Depends on what field of work you're getting into.
Learning Chinese because you're concerned about what the NWO will be like? Eh.
Learning Chinese because you're interested in tech/finance jobs or whatever? Go for it. But it's all about your drive in a career.
China is still big and got lots of manufacturing jobs there from knick-knacks to techs, if you're planning into doing business involving them, it's really beneficial.
You also got a bonus point to be able to read chinese porn cartoon better to read RAW mango for your nerd weeb cred.
how can I get over loneliness of
>tfw no gf
I know I don't have the esteem, the money or the charisma to get a girlfriend.
I'm also content with doing things by myself, but I'm honestly feeling like I'm struggling in this world by myself, so much that I can't cope with life.
I have friends and family, but I don't want to bother them with my problems, not to mention anytime I brought up my problems they gave me such generic and terrible advice.
Speak with girls, you´ll discover that thay can be favolous advicers and really good friends. They know when you try to speak just for flirting or friendship. If you speak with girls of your age or even older you´ll learn a lot about them, evenmore, you´ll learn a lot about men.
>>18459335
>>18459335
>the esteem, the money or the charisma to get a girlfriend
Good news, anyone can acquire all three. Shit, just go work at a pet shelter and you'll already get esteemed
Bad news is you won't be able to get over the feeling if you live among women. That's why monks choose to retreat themselves from society and why catholic priests molest children
>>18459335
>tfw no gf
You should stop that, man. Realize that GF is not some kind of magical solution to your shit.
You know what? If you're thinking your problem is no gf I think you're just trying to distract yourself from something you truly lack, not the pussy girlfriend. It must be something else.
>I know I don't have the esteem, the money or the charisma to get a girlfriend.
Good thing all three of those can be learned and earned, then. Everyone not born with that at first. Maybe those three what you're wanted the most instead of typical no gf feels.
>be 24 years old
>past few years suffer from horrible depression\anxiety and depersonalization
>finally after years find good therapist and medication combination to help me get over these issues
>realize that my life has crumbled around me while I was busy staying in my house too scared to do anything (no jobs,one friend and no social life outside of that friend)
my question to you guys is:
do you think its worth it to get into something Web Developer\IT related at this age? I understand most of the concepts fairly well, and don't feel depressed enough to not study them now, but I can't help but feel that I'm too old to start choosing this as a career path.
I want to do something that makes me happy... I can't stand the thought of doing a 9-5 job the rest of my life living in a one room apartment with nothing to show.
>>18459236
Bump
I still see plenty of older people getting into technology. If you're motivated I would buckle down and try and pass an A+, security or networking cert within a month and reach out to some of the bigger companies in the area see if they have any internships or recs open and Bluff up your way to the top.
>>18459259
Also try and set up a small server of your own. heck, even something as simple or as a Plex/media server that you pirate all your anime for your neighbors/friends would look good to any prospecting employer
I know it's a small problem, but our internet is shit.
I live with my family, we are 4, my mother, father, little sister and I.
Here are all the situations: When i'm home alone, I can play games with fix 50-60 ping, watch youtube in 720p without it stoping to buffer.
When my mom is home and she has her 2 laptops running as always and checks her e-mails every half an hour, I can play games with fix 60 ping, and watch in 720p, but when she checks her e-mails with text in it and maybe a pic, I have 200 ping and video loading stops for 2 secs.
When my mom is uploading pics to auction sites, I have 600-900 ping (one pack of pics takes 15 mins at least) and some games kick you for such a ping, youtube still work in 720p with few sec stops. (she is home 24/7)
When my sister is home and she is on her phone all day and watches stupid normie vines and bitches talking english what she doesn't even understand, I have a 400-800 ping and can bearly watch youtube in 240p. (at home after 4pm)
When my sister and mother is doing there shit, can't join games, steam doesn't start, youtube doesn't load up and pics on 4chan doesn't appear :'(
I reset the rounter every 2 weeks, none of our computers should have virus, I have installed anti-malware on them. The neabours can't be using it because I would see that on my linux laptop.
We know that it could be solved by "buying better internet" but we don't live in the city center and the internet comes on a telephone cable which is from WW2 and it's max capability for download is 900 kb/sec and an upload of 300 kb/sec, we have an even better internet pack than that.
I know you want to say then buy a new cable, We would need about 2 km of the cable and 1 km costs about 7000 dollar/ 6500 euro if I exchange well, and only my father is working and we save up like 50 dollar every month. We asked the local government a year ago and they haven't answered since. My only hope was ... comment too long... I'll continue as a reply...
don't need to hear your life story
You don't have enough physical bandwidth for your purposes. The solution is more bandwidth, either through a new copper/fiber hookup or a dish. The end.
I hope you're not using Wireless also could be prime time?
Sounds like you might need to upgrade your router or the devices connected to the router.
Ultimately you want to have everybody wired in with new cables Cat5e or greater.
if Wireless is required, you want to be sure everybody's wireless cards or Wireless dongles are using at least one of the new standards. Old routers sometimes don't have multiple Wireless channels and downgrade to old standard so that everybody can use the wireless access point causing that fancy NIC card in your computer to equal shit.
Also take note, I work at a security company and we don't give a s*** about potentially unwanted programs that you install on your computer so just be aware.
You probably have some install toolbars that are mining some of that bandwidth on AdSense clicking
None of that can be the problem, I use wired, half a year old rounter, no toolbars for sure, I would have spoted that
I can get wet for erotica and porn but not real life guys/foreplay/sex
I stopped watching porn for over a year and it still didn't help. Trying out my sexual fantasies in real life didn't help, and even if I found the guy physically attractive it didn't help
advice?
Lube.
I think in cases like these you may need to do a full mind wipe. I mean cleanse your mind completely. Our mind functions pretty much like a computer does. Sometimes, to fix the problems with a computer all you can do is just wipe out the hard drive and re-install Windows.
>>18459061
I don't think that's possible in a human without damaging them
>>18459050
Even with lube I'm still not turned on, which is the whole point of me wanting to be wet.
When we dream, why does it authentically feel like we dream for hours and hours in this long pisode of a dream when in reality it only lasted for like 20 minutes or so?
Before getting woken up, I slept for like less than an hour, but in my mind, in my dream, it genuinely felt like it lasted for a day or so.
It's beyond my comprehension.
So were you needing advice for something orrrrrr......
I don't know I guess it's because time is merely something that your mind can perceive but not something that has a "real" state. If your mind works faster it can pretend time is slower maybe?
Also I once read a theory that when you die, your mind slows down time and puts you in a dream state that makes you feel like you are dreaming literally forever when it actually happens during the course of one instant, the instant when you die.
>>18458982
Another question would be, why do dreams feel 100% as authentic as our consciousness does in this base reality?
There's a part of me that thinks, if it doea feel one hundred percent real, then in a certain way maybe ithe is.
Maybe our minds function in two different ways: one in their dream world and one in the base reality world - but both are just as real as the other
Alright, what do you guys think?
Background: Once upon a time, I grew up in a religious household. Every day, they beat into me "no sex before marriage" and "don't marry outside the church". This planted the seeds of my virgindom. Until one day, I decided I wasn't into religion anymore, and became agnostic. I did not have a fedora phase. Actually, a lot of girls wanted to fug, but because I was intensely religious, I rejected 2-3 opportunities. I'm 32 now. I keep reading about incels/R9Kers/betas etc, but I don't feel like I am a beta. When I tell people I'm a virgin, they find it incredible. So I have that going for me. I'd say I have sufficient, normal emotional-relational intelligence, despite having never scored.
Question: I feel a strong need for intimacy. It doesn't keep me up at night, but I find myself fantasizing about fucking and cuddling. Because I quit religion, I have zero real life friends. I decided I don't have much in common with them anymore, and they haven't reached out to me, so I'm incommunicado. I figure the best way to make friends is to not get extremely thirsty and hover around or smother people. As long as I keep my shit together, eventually the opportunity will come. Sound like a plan?
Learn how to channel your mana better my dude. You should have unlimited magical power by now.
>>18458981
I think I know what you're saying, but since this is the advice board, what do you mean by mana? Or are you just meming.
congratulations. you have the capability of displaying godlike, panty-soaking confidence by telling women you're a virgin and being unashamed of it. shame is the least sexy thing you can possess.
Help me seduct girl in pic. Send me links to articles or books relating to seduction or give some non meme tips. I know The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists is pretty outdated and not even really a how to guide. I do have some level of confidence but when picking up girls things don't always go too well when it comes to me.
Should also note I have to talk to this girl a few times but not every interaction went well and some went good. We did have some good conversations. Friend also told me we might be taking the same classes together again.
>>18458777
Just treat her like a normal human being. Women aren't as complicated as r9ktards claim.
>but muh biological differences!
You can just fuck right off
>>18458829
>Just treat her like a normal human being
No shit. Why does everyone always post this crappy vague advice? It doesn't make you a better person. You don't talk to a girl you want to date the same way you talk to your friend's girlfriend or a guy you are hanging out with.
Hey /adv/,
I don't know if you guys can help me out here, but let me explain my scenario to you. I work with an autistic individual who often either takes credit for my work, throws me under the bus for problems caused by him, or rats me out to the higher ups about things he felt I shouldn't be doing during my shift. He is the main reason why I hate my job at the moment. He pretends to be on my side and then continues to make me look inferior the second he gets the chance to do so. This behavior is extremely frustrating to deal with and I'm thinking about leaving the company because of this one individual.
Let me clarify that this man is legitimately autistic, diagnosed and everything. Let me also mention that he is the biggest hypocrite I have ever seen in all my years on this planet. Let's say I'm talking with one of my friends about whatever for a brief escape from our responsibilities; this will cause him to snitch on me and make me look bad to the CEO of the company, whereas he browses off-topic websites pretty much all day.
I don't know what to do anymore. This man is making my life a living hell.
>Pic related, sort of looks like him.
>>18458754
I'd speak to your boss and try to come to a peaceful resolution, or record him (if its legal) not doing his job. If you play to his tactics without proof they will suspect you're lying.
Retards like to have set rules, I've never known them to force rules in others but there we go.
Talk to HR about it, and don't let him catch you doing anything you aren't supposed to
>>18458795
I don't think I could record him doing such a thing and I've complained about him before but all I get is some BS answer about how "Not everyone needs to like each other." You're definitely right about them liking to have set rules, the manager of our department won't even be present and he'll feel guilty if he goes a few minutes over his breaks.
>>18458801
We work in an office environment, I have no other choice but to sit next to him.