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You should have moved on years ago. Don't pursue this chick because it will look like you were hunting her the moment she breaks up with her boyfriend.

There are plenty of other girls out there and you gotta find the one that makes you happy...not waiting in the bushes for a relationship to break up to get out of the woodwork. Come on man.

>>18463083
guaranteed I won't pounce the second she's single but I know what you're saying, you're prob right

>>18463075
Just move on. You dont want to be the reason for their break up. You could go for it and tell her whats going on straight up but most likely that will just kill your friendship. Dont be one of the cucks in training and wait till you die to do something and just move on to the next one

>>18463062
You're never gonna get rid of it. You can supress it and play pretend but once it's there it's never going away. I have a tickling fetish that I've had since I was a kid, tickling will always be a sexual thing to me no matter how I try to pretend how it's just funny.

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i don't believe you can bro

>>18463062
the only way to get rid of a fetish is to go further down the rabbit hole.

Go for it. You never know until you dive in. You could find all the reasons why this won't work and stay at home or you could make the drive and potentially have sex.

If the decision you made in the first second of reading her text was yes, then make it happen.

you miss 100% of the shots you don't take

don't be a pussy
get out there!

but don't be a creep and make her feel like you only came there to fuck, there's a balance

>>18463036
60-90 minutes is nothing. Stop being a little bitch about it and go see her.

>>18463008
Just get gewd with the mouth

>>18463008
What I've been doing to get better at riding is to slowly practice twerking in my spare time. I just add it into my morning yoga regimen. After doing this on and off for a month or two, I can definitely say that I am so much better at riding. I now have enough stamina to successfully ride him through my orgasm and to his. Feels good.
I am definitely still not decent at twerking, and would never show any body else. But practicing it at half speed in a squat or on my knees has helped me learn how to use the muscles for that motion.

>>18463008
Slut

You have your own place and a steady income, okay that is good. Next you should think about saving money, getting a vehicle and work a couple of years in getting more money in your pocket. How? Promotion or getting work experience at your position and then switching jobs for a higher paying gig. After that marriage and procreation. Find yourself a nice girl you share the same morals with and settle down with her. Raise a kid and do what most adults in first world countries do.

>>18463005
Getting a car hmm..
Had it in the back of my mind, thanks for fishing that one out of the yonder

That'll be my next step forward, I guess
Still in a low debt rn but that'll be paid off in three months and then I could start my drivers licence

You know I want to become a selfmade man one day and I obviously need a good backup for that on my account.
so saving will be next in line after my drivers license.

Okay this helps me settle for the moment, marriage and stuff will be a thing of the future for now.
As I'm usually sabotaging my own relationships and I don't know why

>>18462996
I was asking myself the same question a few weeks ago. I recently moved out with my bf and Im happy with my job & almost done with college. Now what?? Relax!! Thats what ive concluded, i need to relax and figure out what I want to improve. Do I want to improve my income? Get a new car? Go on vacation? Do something crazy? If all your basic goals are met, be happy with it! Dont dwell on what you should do next, instead think of what do you want to do next?? It could be something fun!

>>18462966
grow up and realize you can't have everything you want

Forgot to tell that the girl I'm dating we are not exclusives, she's seeing annother girl, and will smash on thrusday.

Just checked. They are facebook friends. Kill me.

Do you think there is any chance I could tell about this to the 1st girl and she being all right with this ?

I guess I'll have to let her date my friends too.

>>18462961
Alcohol (on the come-up) helps you feel motivated, confident, and entertained. Now you're bored and swimming in self-doubt like the rest of us. You made a good choice, though. Now you can get pride and joy out of things that are truly worthwhile, rather than ruining your life with alcoholism and television.

Stop expecting to feel good while doing the same pointless stuff you did sloshed.

>>18462961
Start going to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, get a sponsor, and do the 12 steps. Search online to find meetings that are near you.

>>18463042
I looked into AA but I was amazed at how many different meetings there were just in my small city (120k people). They had an online search for meetings, but I doubt all of them were regularly attended. The "main" AA office in my state has a hotline that I think I'll call soon, but even just doing that is like terrifying.

You know the answer anon.

Mentally unstable and not sure if she is ready for a relationship = not relationship worthy. You love but that doesn't mean anything in the long run when you are thinking about marriage and kids.

Too many negatives just tell me that though yes you love her now, that love might not translate for a long term relationship. Cut your ties, be polite and let her know that you will be there for her as a friend. Your own happiness shouldn't be dictated on the mental imbalances of an individual.

>>18462974
You're probably right, she does have a lot going on outside of this relationship too, but is it fair to say her being unsure is a definitive enough reason to cut things off?

>>18463003

If you are thinking about cutting someone off, then you already have doubts this relationship works. Doubts like this are relationship killers and what ends up happening is your brain tries to convince you that "hey she might have these problems but i love her...that counts for something". It doesn't. Bad relationships like this will only suck you dry of happiness and eventually you will find out you wasted years on this person. Don't get me wrong this person might be a good person but in the grand scheme of things, life is too short to be bogged down by all these burdens. Make the decision when you are ready.

>>18462842

Both of you have been given so many chances at life. You've clearly made good decisions.

Time and time again, he has not. He has five fucking kids with three different women and literally cannot provide for them. Statistically speaking, they will most likely grow up to be complete utter fuckups in life as well.

He stole money allocated to his tuition to try and cheat his way ahead in life, and now he drives a cab to pay it back.

Let him drown. He doesn't deserve a handout. Life has given him too many chances. You don't owe him fucking shit, and if your family continues to enable his stupidity then he can drag them down with him.

Don't give him anything. The dude's a fuckup leech, and if you help him now, he'll just spend the rest of his wasted life doing everything he can to crash on your couch and thanklessly take everything you've earned.

If you take him in you'll be taking on the responsibility of him. My parents did this with my parents, 2 weeks turned into 4 months. When my dad asked the guy to leave he threw a fit all offended and went back to being a homeless person for another 10 years. Hes alright now, he's a grandfather and lives in a council flat in London.
I would say that if you feel like you have the willpower stored up to manage a month of him that it would be a very kind and brotherly gesture. But you must set the ground rules very clearly before he sets up camp. A brother should know to speak honestly with his own - he must agree and understand what you expect of him. A month is a generous amount of time to find a job if he's looking for anything to do for work. Help him and push him to strive for more and take control of his life.
Or don't, like these other anons said. It would take less effort on your part. But I thinj it would darken what relationship you have to refuse his help when he most needs it, and still asks for it.

>>18462799
You should wrap in in a brown paper bag and tape it up at least. If you just send it like that, there's a good chance it'll be ripped or ruined in some way, and some places you aren't supposed to mail perishable foods.

>>18462808
I can put shipping tape on the top?

>>18462810
I wouldn't put anything on that without wrapping it in something first. anything. An old brown paper bag, anything.

Why the hell are you mailing a mac and cheese serving, anyway? I'm not sure it's technically legal to mail food like that, but people do it all the time, but you have to wrap it up.

Run far away from people with family issues.

Well, two months isn't very long. But does she live with her mom, or is she close to her? Does she acknowledge that her mom is crazy?

All you can really do is be genuine and prove her mother wrong about men, and if you feel ballsy, let your GF vent to you about her mom (if she acknowledges her mom is crazy) and help her work past the views her mom is trying to force upon her.

>tfw mom is a crazy man hater
>started accusing you of being a slut at the age of 13
>accused every man she's ever been with of cheating
>tfw terrified of going insane and winding up like her
>wants to vent about it to loved ones but everyone else is too busy venting to me about their own crazy parents

>>18462786
no Anon, my gfs mother is the one who is divorced 7 times. I know her mom's a train wreck lol.

>>18462778
She's the best gf Ive had though. If anything I'd want both of us to run away from our families.

>>18462736
What anime is this from

I really hope this is some weak bait and not an actual problem.

Anyways, stop cutting and wait 'till you get your chance.

>>18462756
Unfortunately this is not a bait. I am a weak shit, I feel really broken and I tried to feel different kind of pain. Fuck Tumblr by the way.

>>18462676
>I'd like to chase what I actually enjoy
>law school
Hmm...

better to do it than not and always wonder what if

>>18462676
A 70 year old woman graduated bachelors at my uni

If you give a fuck what people think perhaps you shouldnt be a lawyer, you'll have to deal with a lot of criticism

>>18462627
Don't do drugs, avoid losers, focus on your studies, get a part time job (less than 20 hours a week) for spending cash. Get a mini fridge and a rice cooker.

Do all the problems in the textbook and study ahead of your classes.

>>18462718
>>18462721
Don't be fucking lame like these guys. The first years are for having fun, the last year(s) will be more for study and such.

Don't waste loads of money and not have any fun.

Tough it out. Give her no satisfaction, show her no emotion. When you turn 18, get some job, rent some place and never contact her again. Let her die alone

If you are a minor, call the police. Especially if she is being violent and locking you in your room for long periods of time.

>>18462620

Do this if you think your mom is a danger to others and needs to face her behavior.