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I'd like to know this too especially the
>be at home listening to music or playing vidya
part
But OP, aren't there girls in CS/IT? Especially in fields like web development?

Join clubs on campus youre interested in, there should be tons
Socialize and meet new people and go to every party youre invited to.

The women youre after are in education and community college.

They do go out, but in very large groups. Basically, youre not going to cross paths with them unless you go find them.

Tinder profile, and go out to find them. It isnt easy, its hard word work. But you have to do it, because women expect everything to fall into their lap.

Im 30 and have been in over a dozen serious relationships, and lost count of how many Ive fucked (last count was 40 years ago). The kind of woman youre after I found maybe twice. Dunno how much different your generation is, but I imagine its not that much different. Go out anon, learn about yourself first, if this girl crosses your path, good. If not, keep having fun. The key is to have charisma and enjoy yourself while getting what you want.

first of all, LDR are not a real thing, you get no real experience about relationships from it.

Second, if you know a girl is not the right one for you, all you need is time and distance, make it so you at least don't get notifications from her or that her pictures pop up in your timeline etc.

Many men have that one failed love when they are young, you are not alone with it, but you can push it to the back of your mind and still live life with basically zero difference. The heart follows the brain at some point

>>18464939
I know I´m young and I´m not depressed, sad, upset or even have or have had that stupid feelings of lonliness, when we broke I was okey, and now It´s the same. I know it was just a teenager´s relation, I don´t want to look like I hate her, because it´s not that, she´s a good person, but I just want to be able to see her and don´t feel like I´ve seen a ghost.

>>18464939
Disagree about LDR not being legit, as I was in one for a year and am now engaged and living with the woman four years. It can certainly work.

OP ask yourself is this girl right for you? Do you still have feelings for her or is it possibly just feelings or regret? When it comes to matters like this, nobody really knows what's right to do except you.

Volunteer

>>18464835
Thanks for the suggestion, i'll add it to my list!

Take up a hobby.
I suggest a "manly" hobby because they just seem more relaxing, lot of opportunities to make friends,and I've heard it's attractive if you do them
Hobby List:http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/01/06/45-manly-hobbies/

Picking up hobbies are fun! I recommend some on this list!
http://www.artofmanliness.com/2010/01/06/45-manly-hobbies/

>>18464827
how long do you want to be invested in something? chinese is hard, electronic music is easy, its all up to how long you wanna do it

>>18464827
I mean why would you learn Chinese/Portugues. Check r/watchpeopledie most of its content is from Brazil and China so you'd better stay away from these countries.
If you've played so many games then why not try to make one? You could learn programming, how to use game engines etc and develope your own game.
Or maybe start streaming if you're really keen on gaming.

Martial arts and self defense. Even better than working out, if you want to keep yourself safe.
Working out + Martial arts & self defense = 100% victory.

"But how can I learn self defense?"
Internet, friends, join a MMA or boxing club, etc.
Also, there are many comics that actually EXPLAIN the physics behind self defense and fighting like "holyland" which is incredibly accurate and informative (but it should only be a "support", not your main source.)

Also books about martial arts.

>>18464807
Well, I've wanted to take Brazilian jujitsu for a while. I guess I should sign up now.

>Is there anything I can do to make myself feel safe or am I doomed top fear and weakness until I bulk up?

I'd also suggest to add martial arts and self defense to your discipline. Pick self defense class that teach you to deal with armed attacker and pick any martial arts of your liking.

Bulking and bigger body don't always translate into confidence. It also need to be supplemented with the knowledge that you can fuck some shit up and ready to beat the shit out of anyone who cross the line with you.

I think that's it for you to try.

Start meditating.

>>18464690
Have you been to your doctor? Some people get great relief from medication, others don't. Definitely worth a shot.

Like the guy above me said, meditation can help. I suffer with anxiety myself on and off and when it's bad it's REALLY bad. Meditation would be something I would do. Nutrition is very important too, consider buying a b vitamin complex, as b vitamins have been shown to help ease anxiety, and people with anxiety are often deficient in them. Them plus a good multivitamin is the way to go. Other than that, just ride it out. I know it fucking sucks. Best of luck OP, feel better soon

>>18464802
this 100%

Not really. In fact, it's your biological imperative. Why do you think mandatory maternity leave in the US is such a hot button issue? The first few months of parent/child bonding are paramount to lifelong psychological development.

>>18464719
I know how law works in what maternity concerns...
However, I don't feel like It would be one month enought for me...I want to see my children grow up, educate them, play with them...
...my husband feel the same and that's the worst part because it's true we should both work for their safety....

I don't want him to feel bad about my selfish desire...

>>18464688
It's way more important for the development of your baby for you to be at home with it. Stay at home motherhood is not oppression, it is a blessing to all involved and to society, because it produces adults who have strong roots, stable emotions and love to share. I believe the working mother is very much to blame for much of the degeneracy we see in youth, rampant sexuality and all that. Not enough hugs can really fuck you up. It's totally righteous if you to want to be with your children and your mate, if he wants children too, should do everything in his power to help you achieve that reality instead of breeding and dropping your spawn on some nanny who cares even less about it than you would.

>>18464672
It's about archetypes. Virgin women are perceived as pure and unspoilt, virgin men as weak and lacking something crucial. Women are to be taken and men are to take. When men fail to take they are branded in crowd's mentality as weaklings.

It's not fair but it is how most people subconsciously perceive the issue.

Because the worst thing you can call a woman is a whore/slut, and the worst thing you can call a man is a loser/virgin.

But keep in mind that - while indeed there is some degree of disapproval - it's only in a very broad and reduced sense. People don't really care that much.

>>18464662
Why? It won't make any difference if you know. It didn't stop her from going there and if she goes somewhere you disapprove of or lied about where she really was you won't do anything but bitch. You'll never leave her.

>>18464662

How about just don't be a obsessive psycho? Seems easier.

Just be happy with her, the fact that she is in a relationship with such a psycho yells i love you

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>>18464583
This is the other side of the thing

>>18464583
Maybe try /x/? They deal with artefacts and magic stuff.

>>18464589
Yeah I've gotten some useful info there, thanks for the help though

>>18464525
forgot to erase that last motherfucking sentence. That captcha distracting piece of shit

I meet this kind of disgusting autistic guy who wouldn't let me stay peacefully alone, so here is:

- Stop talking about your shit taste on anime (harem ecchi shit) and 2D waifus. It's fucking disgusting.

- Kirby is not a fucking game for adults.

- Stop trying to make cool anime-games jokes, they're not.

- If a girl is avoiding looking to you, don't come closer to her. You're the worst kind of shit for her I can tell.

- A girl can be nice because she's polite, but that doesn't mean she wants to see your pee-pee.

- 3D girls don't want to mate with you, so leave them alone, anon

>>18464525
Interested is interesting!

First off, don't panic. You have plenty of time left.
Secondly, if you feel you don't have enough to say about the topic then you havnt done enough reading on it yet. Go explore the literature and dig really deep into the topic.

>>18464510
Iktf breh, I did basically nothing for 2 months, then wrote 40pages in one month and basically did all the research in that time. It was horrible. Those 2 months I couldn't focus on what I was doing for 5 minutes, in the last month my focus was often laser sharp because I felt the gun at the back of my head. If I knew the solution I'd tell you, but I haven't gotten wiser from that and countless similar experiences

Thank you both anons. Apart from the strictly technical aspect of the work (reading more will surely help), I was wondering if it will be worth to "simulate" conditions to push me. I mean, is it possible and useful to set up something that istinctively makes me think that spending, like, 20 minutes doing nothing but trying to come up with an idea is better than spending those 20 minutes doing something else? Or something that deceives my brain in thinking that what I have to do is more urgent than it actually is? And if so, any ideas of what could it be? Maybe asking others to put some constrictions? (example: I live with my parents and my mother usually prepares lunch and dinner: should I instruct her not to do anything until I finish some kind of daily task? That is, in general, setting up a work schedule with punishments for not respecting it).
Any experience with something like that?

>>18464345
What did they say?

>>18464410
That it does "mean something" and that I'm special to them... which isn't hard to believe I guess, considering we definitely spend more time with each other than anyone else, and it's only ever sexual when we sleep together.

But he also says he feels bad about leading me on because he prefers being casual with sex, and knows I'm not very casual (yeah, it's weird that I'm in a fwb situation, but I thought we might be moving towards a relationship and it seemed right to have sex eventually). He isn't looking for a relationship in geneal I guess though

So I dunno, what he says pans out and maybe he does like me. I'm not dying to be in a relationship, but I'd like to know that the people I confide in and get close to aren't going to fuck me over. So it's an ok situation, just very uncertain. It's hard sometimes for me to believe he cares too much about me if he still wants to have sex with other people, but I don't know if that disbelief is fair, cause I'm not really into casual sex in the first place. I know lots of people are though and surely they're capable of feeling genuine care for people

so i guess I'm wondering how much you guys would think we might be mismatched in terms of how much we like each other vs. just mismatched in terms of how many people we care to be sexual with

>>18464426
he isnt going to change for you,

>>18464329
Keep following the morning star. You will eventually find the right place

There are no girls on the internet, and when there are - they are looking for hot guys.

Dude, go out. At a bar, social clubs, idk how old are you so even youth movements will do the trick.
Hell, be an activist at something.

I'm a girl and wouldn't mind being friends - I can't find other women to talk to online either

>>18464257
you can get a drug testing kit, this is what people who do drugs use so they dont kill themselves accidentally.

If you are too careless to do so you can take a VERY small dose of the pill you got and see how it effects you.

>>18464261
As I said, I got it off the darkweb, which most people generally trust. I was planning on only taking ~100mg, measured out by eye. If it's at 85% purity, that's around 85mg of MDMA, which shouldn't be lethal even if it is cut with some weird shit, right?

>>18464271
the problem is that you do not know what it is cut with. there are so many people dying because of drugs being cut with weird shit. We are living in a era where there is an accidental overdose epidemic ya know?

I would say either take a little bit or get a testing kit. The people with testing kits are the ones who are staying alive.