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>>18682049
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>>18682049
Monday is Labor day, fuck off.

>>18682066
It isn't where I live.

he's fine but don't do it again, the propellants are toxic

>>18682072
Did I do any long term harm/damage? Or is it just temporary

>>18682152
you did no damage, computer duster is only harmful when huffed

I don't have advice, all I can say is that I can relate.
But I like to think that *realizing* there are no reasons to live might be a higher level of human development, a Nirvana of sorts. Like we have reached the next level that the people around us still haven't.
Either way, I guess life is just keeping yourself busy. Set goals for yourself, a healthy number of them, then chase them. And forget about the past, some people say that the past owns you but I think you own your past.

I was very similar to you OP. I just started putting myself out there in order to gain some of the experience I was missing. I felt embarrassed and humiliated a bunch of times, but eventually it helped me grow. Also, a lot of people will interpret your social awkwardness as a cool sort of aloofness (depending on who you hang out with)

>>18681956
What the HELL are you talking about? Your rant is all-but-totally incoherent.

Do you want to be my gf?

>>18681948
>updates the feature spec just before I am finished implementing the first specification.

>As a result he thinks I am slow

ARE you slow? Maybe it's because you don't get the job done that he has the opportunity and time to re-think it.

Just send your resignation and post a bad review on glassdoor.

>>18681948
>webdev

My understanding is that being a webdev involves eating shit from clients. Another way to put it is you're in the shit eating business.

Just being entirely honest as someone who built a complex magento store with zero knowledge and has experienced these headaches you speak of after being quoted in the region of 4-10k from local companies/webdevs to do it and thinking fuck it, I can do just as good a job. If I paid top dollar to have someone do it for me I would be expecting you to eat all my nutty changes at my every whim, no matter how stupid, and thank me for the priv. Be grateful you aren't dealing with clients, the clients changes might have been a lot crazier if it wasn't for whoever spent 4 hours on the phone with them 'managing their expectations'.

Just be sure to ask your manager to email you every time he updates the spec sheet, and take frequent captures of it.

Also start looking for another job... You might find it's like this everywhere if this is your first job in this particular field. Even a bit of freelancing will let you know how demanding customers are.

Just volunteer at the local animal shelter. Chicks dig that.

>>18681938
Good idea.
But I am not going to take care of animals and work for free because of 3D puss, I can just pay an escort that way.
not desperate and too jew for that.

>>18681930
>no girls where I am
>I refuse to go where they are

Can YOU see the problem there?

>>18681909
The distance it too great so let this go

>>18681960
3 hrs is too far right?

Unfortunately, this is the real world, not the Cartoon Which Must Not Be Named, all trying to force their hand will do is build resentment in both groups. Try to measure your enjoyment by how much fun you have, rather than the number of people you bring along.

>>18681913
but the remaining one dude and I don't have as much fun when its just us. I heard the guy who works all the time can be coaxed by just messaging him, but the 4th guy just doesn't seem to want to be around anyone, hes turned really hostile, pops in for 2 minutes then mutes us or just leaves,

>>18681808
I don't know, you sound pretty fucking insufferable tb senpai.

>Atheist with a victim complex
Who gives a fuck, don't be obnoxious about it and religious people won't be dicks about it.

>Family won't let me drink
How old are you?

>Think of the cessation of consciousness (death)
Cringe

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>>18681808
>how
see pic related.

>>18681814
I'm 20 and how does my view on what follows death make you cringe?

...learn to sleep with the lights on to opera music. Can't be scared of that

>>18681839
sleeping with the lights on seems like such a waste of energy..

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>>18681807
Anon, friendly reminder that you need to be over 18 to browse 4chan
>implying that someone actually reads the rules
Anyways, yes, you are a baby.
Now, for the actual tips: If you are a grown-ass man and are still afraid of ~spoopy ghosts~ then you may need to talk to a psychologist -no insult meant, you may have a problem and being scared of the dark may be a symptom of something bigger, like, say, anxiety.
>"Sleeping medication isn't an option"
It may be if the doc gives you greenlight, just saying.
Anyways, if you can't visit some doc because muh money or muh parents, then try to work your ass out: do some exercise, have a nice dinner, get a hobby, your body will be tired at the end of the day and you'll most likely fall asleep as soon as you touch the bed, spoopy scary ghosts or not.
>"But anon, I don't want to get my ass up and leave my computer"
Well, tought titties. Then try getting some dim lights or energy-saving ones so that you won't waste electricity, maybe get some fancy timer that turns 'em off after a certain time; Also, like >>18681839 said, try relaxing music.
>"But anon, I can't afford any of that"
Well, shit. Then maybe just draw a circle of salt around your bed, that should keep any ~spoopy scary~ at bay.
But, seriously, you should talk to someone: parents, doc, counselor...staying up until morning because of some (probably) non-existent issue won't make your body (or mind) any good and, again, may be a signal of something serious.
tl;dr:
>talk to a doc, they'll medicate you so you don't kill yerself slowly
>do some exercise, tire yourself, eat properly, GET TIRED. That way you'll get asleep without realizing it
>get some timed lights, energy-saving or some shit. Just saying.
>if anything else fails, do the salt circle thing and that should work just fine via actually keeping ~spoopy things~ at bay or act as a placebo

>>18681740
Avoid sugaries , anything from the box , drink more water, don't sit for too long and get 2/3 mins break every 90mins to stretch.

eat salmon, tuna and sardines for omega 3 and protein
consider using a standing desk
consider supplementing with a multivitamin, folate and creatine

>>18681747
>>18681790
OP here , thank you for your advice.


>folate
I looked it up and it says that >it's important for cells and tissues that divide rapidly< , how does it help ?

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>>18681716
Expand your fwb circle.

>>18681716
You feel this way because you have nothing "else."

Broaden your opportunities, it'll fade.

If you're really stuck, you might want to look into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. The basic idea, is that you learn to reprogram your response to triggers, it's a fairly successful method for people dealing with obsessive compulsive disorders, and anxiety.

If it's really stopping you from functioning, get a little bit of basic counseling, there's a lot you can do with it on your own too.

theres other fears you could face to look 'manly' right?? just do something else that makes you look tough and i dont mean like lifting weights, beta male shit.. i mean face other fears you have

>>18681677
Bravery is not the lack of fear, it is stepping up to face your fears. Life without daily acts of courage is meaningless and dull. Everything becomes a boring color of beige and that is called depression. Face your fears or they willconsume you. Only you can help yourself. I used to be like you and my parenrs woild never allow me the crutch of medication. It was always sink or swim, and let's face it, that's how life is despite how cozy we wish it was. Face your fears or end up killing yourself from shame and depression. This is what it means to be masculine or "manly" as you put it.

Every interview I've been to asks these questions:
-what is your weakness (I usually say "I have a hard time asking for help" lol
-they'll ask what's an example of good customer service you've experienced
-why do you want to work here (say you wanna apply your skills at a great company, or something
-they'll ask you how you'd handle various customer questions
(customer wants to return an item, etc.)
-ask them during the interview if there's upward mobility within the company (it will let them know you want to stick around)
-make sure to inject an "I believe" statement that reinforces your work ethic ("I've always believed early means on time and on time means late")
-if they ask "any questions?" Ask what *they* like about working within this company. It's a good ice breaker to end the interview with a good small conversation that way you show you're not a robot lol

Also, wear a button up shirt and tie if you have both. Firm handshake

That IS 100% the right perspectives tho. It means you need a different job maybe but eventually all feel like chores.

true.. and you know most people that have found 'inner peace' bs y'know is just fake happiness.. but who knows maybe we're the ones on the outside that dont get it