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Depends. Why did you end it with her?

>>18472214
Well, I'll need to type this out.
I had quite a lot off annoyences the last 18 month, starting with our sex life. Everytime she was feeling stressed out because of something she just wasn't in the mood to do it. She had exams about a month ago and was stressed again and just... distracted.

I had the feeling she was pushing me aside to learn for her exams and started chilling with one of my best friends (girl who I've known for 7 years now). The problem was, she just came out of a relationship and suddenly we were hanging out 5 times a week for 2 weeks, I also couldnt help but notice that I was starting to feel attracted to her. I didn't cheat on my gf with her, but the last month she had occupied my mind more than my gf did.

Now skip to 3 weeks ago, I was attending a party and my gf and the girl were both there. I went to my gf's home afterwards because I'd be sleeping there. When we get there she was very quiet and when I asked her what was wrong she burst out crying and told me she felt like the third wheel that evening because I was being so close with that friend of mine. After a few minutes of talking I confessed that I felt something for her, that was not a fun night..

>>18472277
Now skip till 2 weeks ago.
We took a break that spanned a few days so I could reevaluate the situation and if I still loved my gf. The first time we met after that I told her that I want to try and make it right with her. Then when we saw eachother the next day I told her I wasn't sure anymore and it wouldn't be wise to continue the relationship if I didn't know if I loved her. The day after that I regretted my decision and tried to let her take my back, but it failed.

We met once since the breakup and I just cant stop feeling like shit. It's like I have 2 sides fighting over control. One side once to have her back, the other just wants to move on and be done with it. Its fucking painful

drop the bitch

>>18472171

Do you want to be her friend or date her?

Also, she got into this relationship seeing someone distant. Maybe she likes the space that gave her or something. Maybe she doesn't like what she discovered as you opened up. Or maybe she is telling the truth and this has nothing to do with you.

I do repeat, though: What do you want out of her?

>>18472412
seems kinda harsh when you found a friend in someone.

>>18472431
Honestly, both. But she's not into relationships right now, and I understand that, I wasn't at first either, this was just a fun friendship. I thought about just acting like I did in the beginning (I had many other plates spinning), but now that I realize what I have/had, I really don't want to lose it.

>>18472098

what?

I never dated or taken the initiative to make friends. Usually its the other person that takes the initiative. I am a guy btw

>>18472098
You invite them to do something you like and which you think they might enjoy.

It doesn't have to be coffee. You can go to a park, grab something to eat, go to the movies, do ice skating, play a sport, go to a museum, attend a party or whatever you like.

>>18472082

we live in a heteronormative society. unless you are giving the impression you are gay there is no reason to 'express' your heterosexuality. if you must just find a reason to bring up your ex girlfriend, or simply comment on how attractive a girl is.

>>18472089
I see. So what is it that straight single people do to show they are single and straight? Also, what about people who don't have exes?

Also, how would a male improve self esteem in regards to sexuality? Women can do shit like wear a thong or some "sexy" dress.

Me wearing a suit doesn't make me feel sexy or wanted more. In fact it makes me feel wage slavey. I don't like.

>>18472081

type in 'p', then hover over where it says pornhub and just press the delete button.

>>18472081
probably because it's not a suggestion based on your local history but google searches

>>18472094
Thanks man!

>>18472030

this probably isnt going to work out well. your basing your life path around marriage to a stranger. which can be done but it doesnt usually lead to fulfilment and happiness as we understand it these days

>>18472030
Go on a trip with her. No sex or pressure. If you two can't seriously enjoy each other's company, then ask her if she really sees it going anywhere.

>>18472058

this or even just... you know, meet and hang out before deciding to marry her.

even mormons are actually required to spend a few nights sharing a bed to see if they like each other.

bump, because I'm also interested

OP I don't know how you're doing, but I graduated a month ago and have done literally NOTHING worth mentioning, not even an afternoon's worth of something

I've been telling my parents I'm looking for a job and working some personal project, but really I've just been procrastinating on doing anything

OP at least you're not alone, I guess

Forcing yourself to learn discipline. Ask for your parents help, so they could force you to go out and work.
Also look for a job with some friends, so you won't be alone nor bored.

>>18471947

>How do I stop being a lazy piece of shit?

Doesn't that motivate you to try harder? The fact that you can describe yourself as a lazy piece of shit?

My only advice then is find something worthwhile. Find something you feel like doing. Even working just to finance your video game collection is a motivation.

>>18472450

Stop lying. You lie because you know people are gonna flip out. You know what you are doing is wrong.

Take responsibility of your own life.

Ask about a surgery. If the doctor says "even that won't help", there is nothing else you can do. \:
If you wanna be 100000% sure, try asking more doctors, maybe one of them will think you can be saved.

Not op but can i ask a question
Im short sighted however if its a sunny day its not that bad compared to a cloudy day or at night is this normal? At night im as blind as a bat

>>18472781
fewer shadows and thus fewer contrasts so harder to see shit

>>18471917

no real answer. like with any girl it really depends on if she could like you. if she couldn't like you then it doesn't matter how you flirt it will end badly cuz she can't like you. if she can then most any approach works really but being up front about it often helps with older women cuz they dont want to feel like they have to make a move to molest a kid

just whip out your dick and put it on the table like this

*bangs table*

and shove it in

>>18471917
You only have a chance with her if you're Chad tier, no woman would fuck up a long term friendship for some effeminate little brat.

>>18471704
Now that I think about it... maybe I should make a video about it?
But because of my depression it would be hard to make myself do anything that ambitious.

fbi has a "send us a tip" thing right on their website

>>18471732
>fbi

Well, I have bad news for you. FBI is as controlled as Alox Jones and Donald Trump are.
They are the part of the system. If some people want this stuff to be (already for years)
on youtube, then FBI is not going to do anything about it.

Bump :(

>>18471695
Bump for OP, because it isn't even working for him on an anonymous image board ),:

>>18471695

you're not going to love everyones stories unfortunately, but it sounds like a combination of two things.

1) ego, you dont care about other people and their lives, you only care about you

and / or

2) the surface level crap. no one likes surface level crap. instead of asking someone 'oh what do you do for a living? do you like this weather?' etc. ask them the '36 questions to fall in love with each other'. even if its not for romance its fun, i did it with three of my male friends the other day and we just learn a little bit more about each other, even after three years of it.

Only if she doesn't know about it.

>>18471677
>steal
Why not just grab your gf, undress her, put her panties on your head and fuck her silly instead? Also
>masturbating while having gf
Do you even do sex?

my nigga..

>>18471672
>depo
>mirena

I dont know what is your end goal, but almost all hormonal birth controll affect girls sexuality IN A BIG WAY. Just use google and read some stories about girls who finally arent afraid of getting pregnant but also dont want to have sex anymore.

Also depo is heavy shit. 3 months off is just its basic re apply time. It can take like year after last shot to be finally fertile again. I know girls here might scream at me, but your best bet is to be like 1 year bc free.

Get rid of that implant and see if anything changes in few months. Dont fall for society telling you to never have babies or that swallowing pills / getting injection is natural and normal. It just generates profit.

Can you even orgasm? Get wet properly? Also
>why do you do bc when you have no desire to fuck your bf?
Try condoms or non penetrative sex.

I am on birth control because I love making love with my boyfriend, and I love to please. And I enjoy getting pounded so hard I can't breathe afterward.

Yes I orgasm easily with penetrative sex, I don't get much pleasure when my clit is played with. No I can't get wet "properly".

I am also on birth control because I want to have a baby someday with him, start a family, but not now. I'd love to just use condoms because then I wouldn't harmfully alter my body, but I feel using condoms alone isn't a secure birth control method. Please enlighten me on this.

I mainly just wanted to know if there's anything that can psychologically help me be more in the mood.

Do you really reccomend just getting off all hormonal birth control?

>>18471984
1. Learn how to give people (You).

2. Wtf
>I love making love with my boyfriend
>enjoy getting pounded so hard
>orgasm easily
I see no problem with libido. Why do you think you have bad libido?

>more in mood
I am not sure what do you mean by this? Because you described ideal sex life? Just the wet thing, but that can be solved easily with lubricant.

Why do you think you have 0 libido?

>>18471652

>above average
>no confidence

if you can admit to number 1 you can't really claim to have number 2.

>any advice to boost our confidence

post a picture and see if theres anything to be confident about.

also realize that all the girls are there specifically to find someone which means they will either be REALLY eager and jump on anyone attractive, OR they are going to be uncomfortable that nothing 'magic' happens and reject everyone

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Yeah, forgot to say we both have some form of social anxiety.

I have the lighter one, got it from a toxic relation with a psycho gf, I am going to be ok as long as my friend is.

But I need to cheer him up and coach him before.

I don't think I am THAT attractive to be jumped on, but that's good to know.

Pic of myself

>>18471699
Your not a bad looking guy. Just go and have fun, don't go just for pussy, go to talk and make girls laugh. I make girls laugh all the time, but I never go for pussy. I'm in my 30's, I've had sex a bunch, but never had a girlfriend or serious relationship. Just have fun.

>>18471491
How old are you? I was also depressed when I was 18 and tried to suicide. I think good friends can cure anything tho. Unfortunately I have social anxiety so I also lack the ability to make friends

>>18471491
Speak to your doctor, OP, because you don't have to trust them.
He or she is not your buddy, not a family member, not a boyfriend or girlfriend who fucked you over, and couldn't care less about you or your life. Is that poorly worded? Yes, almost definitely, but here's the point: they have nothing to gain by fucking up your life, and it is literally their job to help you and whoever else however they can.
I'm not bipolar, but I did suffer from severe depression for years before seeking help, and it was a less than fun time.
You might get a prescription for a pill that makes things worse for you - it happens. But not because the doctor who prescribed it hates you and wants you to suffer, but because it was their attempt at helping you and they want you to keep open communications with them so that they can immediately change things and get you on something else to regulate your shit.
With trust issues, you would also probably benefit from talking with a counselor - a psychologist - here and there. Again, someone who has no motivation to hurt you and literally wants to help you because making money by doing what it is that they do is in their best interest. However, the same as a psychiatrist or whatever other doctor who will occasionally prescribe you a bad medicine, you might get a bad counselor who gives you shit advice. But the risk:reward ratio is worth the chance.
You don't have to live like you do, but I know it's difficult for you to imagine anything else. That life is out there, though, and it's worth pursuing. It's inside of you OP, you just have to reach for it: every day is a new opportunity to do so. And damn is that sunrise worth it.

>>18471612
OP here, 18