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Mornin' , /adv/, resubmitting for visibility.I'm gonna apologize for this unstructured mess of a text in advance. Props to you if you make it to the end.
So, I'm a 22 y/o virgin and I want to change that. The ultimate goal would be to somehow get into a meaningful relationship with someone whose company I really enjoy, but since I've never actually tried to initiate contact with women, and I'm scared to death of communicating feelings, or even just interest clearly, that's far off atm.
So I'd rather ask my fellow residents of the local Korean Herpetology Forum (tm) for advice, since it's unlikely I'm gonna be able to follow through on the advice of some hyperthymic normie Tony Robbins-esque blogger.
I'm gonna put some things down that I think I'll have to do to start fucking, and you correct me.
Step 1: Move out of my mom's metaphorical basement

Step 2: Expand my social circle by finding nonsolitary activities that I enjoy. (Hobbies atm include making music on the computer, playing the Saxophone/ Piano, reading and vidya. Also being on the internet too much, even though I hate it)

Step 3: Renounce my stick figure aesthetic. Possibly combine steps 2 and 3 by joining sports team.

Step 4: Find out which type of girl is most likely to be attracted to me. Figure out what the ones that I'm into are into.

Step 4: Subject myself to possible rejection by
either talking to random qts on the street or asking girls in my newly humongous social circle.

Step 5: ???

Step 6: Profit

I'm neither overweight, nor especially ugly. I've got a bad case of resting bitch face though and I've always taken several eons to open up to people. Can provide pics, in case you want to help me up the rest of my overall
A E S T H E T I C S.

Guys pretending to be grills are especially welcome to help. Thanks in advance.

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Okay so I'm thinking of cheating on my husband. We've been married for about a year and half. We dated online for about two years and met during holiday vacations to travel together before we settled. In the begging things were great, that new relationship bliss and when we met the sex was great and often, too often. He moves to the US and our sex life starts slowly decaying. We have sex once every week, if I'm lucky, sometimes he doesn't even go down on me.We usually have sex because he notices that I'm tense and distant. So I feel like he feels obligate to please me. We talked about it, I told him I miss the way he fucked me and how often he did it. He says that atm he is stressed and I have nothing to do with it. We agree that we have to ''try'' harder to communicate our feelings and needs. My self steem is taking a toll. I try to look good for him but it doesn't seem to turn him on. I've been shot down on sex at times and most of the time at night when I'm so horny I end up masturbating to porn videos with him sleeping right next to me. He says that I need to try harder to sexy it up for him. I just feel like my husband doesnt find me attractive. I'm 5'4 tan, petite and fit. I've been told I'm above average. I just truly want someone to fuck me with so much intention and intensity ... And not like a chore. I love him so much but I'm truly growing distant from him. To me sex is integral to a relationship when I orgasm I rebuild that bond of love for him. For his sex isn't that big of a deal.

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I'm starting a relationship with this guy. None of us have been very active sexually speaking, only had a couple of partners each. But I really care about him and I'm getting an STD test done before we do anything.
I asked him to do the same, and he seems reluctant to do it because "he's sure he's completely fine". I told him that, despite always using a condom, you can get an STD for oral sex, which he had no idea about.
He said he doesn't find it necessary but that he'd do it for me.
Later he said he won't do it because he is very busy with work and can't find time for it (and again he finds it silly).
This isn't even about trust, I just want us to be safe. Am I asking for much?

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What is the honest real life fact about being a 27 year old man who has never had a girlfriend, or full on sex, to be able to form a relationship with a semi-regular girl?
No /r9k/ or memeing involved here.

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the people on /x/ are talking about the coming rapture and I've always been very afraid of going to hell, I started as a Jehovah's witness as a kid but the more I got older things started making me question god and this site made me question him even more. I know some of you say have faith but honestly I feel like I'm doomed because I've tried reading praying and repenting but I feel he doesn't listen to my prayers anymore and I know for a fact I'm going to hell but I at least want to try and be religious still so where should I start ?

>inb4 athiest

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Girlfriend of 4 years and I break up for a few weeks, she takes a sick from someone else, we get back together that same week, sure she Was single but I'm upset about it for some reason,wat do

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I've been dealing with foggy brain, memory issues, mood seings and intestinal problems my whole life but just found out that that isn't "normal" or some shit

>be me about 3 hours ago
>go to subway and order tuna sandwich on 9-grain honey oat with spinach, tomato, pickles, mayo and mustard
>fast forward to now
>feel really sweaty but it isn't even hot
>can't think straight
>tired as fuck even though I slept 9 hours last night
>intestines feel a bit uncomfortable, bloated, slight heart burn every now and again
>eyes feel that sour tired feeling

Is this a gluten thing? Wheat allergy? eggs? Maybe I just ate too much?

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I have a date with this 8/10 tinder girl tomorrow, but here's the problem. I cancelled the first "meet up" because I felt sick and didn't feel like going out. (Which she kinda understood). However, I can't make the date tomorrow because supposedly my "paycheck is missing" and I will not have money til Thursday. What should I say to her? I'm interested in her, but I literally don't have any money til Thursday. I got no credit card because my parents say I shouldn't open one yet. I'm 19 and she's 19 too btw. What should I do? Call her and tell her my situation and cancel this date again? Man I need some help. :(

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I've been all over the world. I have been to Bazaars in india, climbed mount fuji, been to Himalayan monestary. I am absolutely bored still. It's all just molecules to me. Vast amounts of molecules arranged in different ways. I guess growing up invested in comics and films has Given me unrealistic expectations to life. I go places and expect interesting things to happen. Then when they don't I am disappointed. There are no plots in real life. No main characters or villains. Life is uninteresting to me. How do I get out of this Rut?

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Currently in argument with current gf of 4 months.
We just became sexually active. During sexy time she nudged my head lower and I refused to budge. Later she got mad and said no blowjobs unless I did so. Told her it was fair enough and 1 week later shes now trying to refuse sex which blew up into a huge argument.
Basically told her withholding sex to get what she want is essentially monetizing her vagina. I also told her there is no room for compromise her and that Im never going to do it because I refuse to put my mouth to the spot another man has stuck his dick in. Which she took as me trying to devalue her because shes not a virgin.
The fuck is going on. Can someone explain to me why she cant understand where Im coming from.

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this past week 4 strangers have attempted to enter my home without reason. I live in a fairly isolated rural community yet solicitors of some kind keep walking up my 400+ yard driveway. They don't seem connected but its nonetheless incredibly strange for very many reasons

how do I make my drive way the no go zone rather than my door? Do I actually have to put a wall up for them to climb before I can shoot a warning shot?

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I need neutral perspective and non bias opinion on this situation.

A few weeks ago I ended things with my bf. He was complaining about how I did not make an effort to go see him when he came in town. I was busy and had other things to do desu. He goes on a mini rant about how un wanted he feels and ends it saying we have a difference in sex drive. I told him I feel like he is constantly pressuring me into sex and I don't like it. (Honestly the 4 times we had sex it was terrible) I told him since we only been dating for 3 months I want to take things a bit slower. At the time I felt like our relationship lacked substance. Both of us being broke college students all we really did was watch netflix and go out to eat together during the semester. I told him this, I said we should hang out more and make sure we are right for each other before we worry about sex.

Then this was the responses that made me decide things needed to end. He basically says "if my biological needs are not met I will resent you" . I thought this was a really gross way to respond. I am a lot more concerned about the substance of our relationship and he sounds completely sex obsessed. When I try to bring up the romantic and substance aspect of the relationship he immediately brings it back to sex, even asked me if I was asexual since fucking him wasn't my top priorities at the moment. So I calmly explained "hey I think if we focus on getting to know each other better, spending time together sex will come naturally" his response was "do you want to try and be polyamorous this summer?" so he can go fuck other people....


Thoughts?

I feel good about ending things, but sometimes feel like I overreacted. When ever he senses that his response was not what I want to hear he would always backtrack and try to say what he thinks I want to hear. This is what has me feeling very conflicted. I think his original reply means a lot more than whatever crap he said once he realizes I'm upset.

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what's better for overcoming social anxiety at a party, alcohol or xanax?

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i never had a deep relationship with someone
this is the first time i care for the one i am dating, she lives in another city
she is the kind of girl, that is the weird attractive one, she have nice hobbies
and do awesome stuff.

But she is beautiful and i am not soo much, not ugly but my friends are
a lot more attractive than me, she can have a 10/10 guy why me right?
i just lost my virginity with her and i hate that i love her
dammit i sound soo much like a teenager

BTW sorry for my bad english, 18 years old and my grammar sucks.

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>What do girls/guys think about <an insecurity including, but not limited to: looks, physical traits, personality traits, virginity or otherwise lack of dating experience>
There is no one answer. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Who makes these threads?/I don't see one of these threads/Last thread is on auto sage
Then copy paste this and start your own.