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As I see it my options are as follows:

>1) Go back to on of her classes and try again.

A little awkward since I already told her I was going elsewhere and it would mean sitting through at least one hour which is a much an exercise in lust-suppression as it is a yoga class. Also, with the number of people there's no guarantee I'll get to see her one on one right away without lingering around desperately. But at least I would get to see her face to face which is probably ideal for this kind of thing.

>2) I had intended on sending her a thank you card for her tutelage, infatuation aside. I could also attach a short letter basically detailing that I would regret disappearing without first asking her out for at least a coffee.

This could be seen as a cop-out but I think I could do it tastefully without any professions of undying love and I think she is the type who may find it endearing.

>3) I could phone her.

But the number is from her website for clients and she has never given it to me personally nor has she mentioned the website so I feel that this is a bit creepy, though that could be overlooked after a few moments of conversation.

>4) Creepier still, I could "accidentally" bump into her at one of the places I know she takes some classes but at least she might buy it as a genuine chance encounter.

There's probably something I haven't considered or a potential refinement to those options. I'm all ears. Personally, I am leaning towards option 2.

>>18487424
>>18487446

Just because you are into her, doesn't mean she is into you. Do you even think she is interested?

>>18487920
She's 37 and I'm 27 so I'm not sure how seriously in her head she has thought of me like that, but I think she certainly likes me enough that she would entertain the possibility of a few dates.

That small age gap and the fact that she must have been approached by guys from classes more than a few times are a couple of knocks on my confidence that have contributed to choking so far.

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Be like Nike and just do it.

>>18487402
>lose weight
>buy gym membership
Everytime. Losing weight is about DIET.

Gym is about ogling gym bunnies and gaining muscles.

>>>/fit/ sticky, counting calories is where the magic is at.
Try swimming instead.

>>18487430
>Losing weight is about DIET.
wrong.
it's about both.
i tried counting calories,
failed with no weight loss even though i should have lost 10 pounds.
i tried swimming,
failed with no weight loss either.
i tried going both at the same time, diet + a little exercise, and i lost the 10 pounds in a month.
the correct answer is doing both.

Jerk off More

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>>18487380

Masturbate more.

Or take pill to kill your libido. Whatever floats your boat.

>>18487380
Wear jock straps

>>18487352
Nope. That shit doesn't seem healthy to a normal person

It depends. My female girlfriend only hangs out with traps so it's a win-win situation for me.

>>18487352

I'd like to know that answer. I don't know if I have any female friends. I have a female former co-worker I get lunch with sometimes. Most females can't respect my boundary for self-disclosure and want to know about my personal life -- I don't like females who get in the middle of my personal life, including my relationships. Although, I sometimes don't know if it's a perk or a detriment to my relationships that I don't have female peer pressure expectations factoring into how I act around guys I date.

>>18487343
How did your parents treat you as a child?
What phrases would the constantly say to you?
Did they listen to you?
How did they make you feel on a daily basis?

>>18487343
Find a hobby or career path that gives you at least some satisfaction from what you do. It'll help you with developing confidence, which will in turn help with your social anxiety.

Or, just keep doing nothing, and continue to receive whatever life hands you on a platter. You might not like it, but you won't have a choice unless you go out and do something with your life. Choosing to do nothing will only lead you to fall victim to circumstance.

>>18487507
This. Also to add to that if you suffer from social anxiety you're just going to have to come off as being weird and awkward for a while before you can have any real success with women. You're like that guy who's never lifted a weight in his life trying to lift 200 pounds on bench. It just won't happen right away, it'll hurt for a while, but if you do it enough you'll be a lot stronger than when you started.

>>18487296
Get a roommate live in a hotel room. Take on some debt to buy a car. Get better job. Save, pay debts. Once payed off save save save. Go to school, take on some debt if needed. Get better job pay off debt. Walah!

In the short term you need to tell your parents what you told us. You're right, if you pay the bills in the house you should be the primary decision maker or, at the very least, you should have full control of the budget. Tell them that all financial decisions must go through you and you will not pay for financial decisions that you don't approve. Tell them that you don't expect to live with them forever and that therefore you will put aside money for your future.

OP you are fucked

>>18487231
People are dicks. Especially at work. Which is why it is always better to not waste any time with anyone and just get on with work. If you are lucky you make a few friends, but they are still coworkers so they will get bad days too.

>>18487231
Did you want any advice?

>>18487231
Awwwwww.

BRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAPPFTPFTPFTFTFTFTFT
teehee, girls do this too you know!

There seems to be some kind of brown substance in my butthole. Am i going to die?

>>18487206
Sounds like a shart.

Did they tell you WHY?

>>18487020
You can unfuck yourself by taking the dildo out of your ass

One time cause I was late one too many times.
Another cause I didn't have the pep.
Another cause I need to finish trade school first.

Just short term one off's god damn. How do people keep jobs for so long?
I hate being unemployed but, then I grow to hate working too.
I weighed it in my head long enough to know that I hate being out of work even more.

Maybe move to colorado where it's legal and doesn't impact jobs anymore.
Maybe marry a rocky mountain jewess who will pull strings and get you a bank job.
You degenerate goy.

>>18487052
Duly noted

>>18487052
Yeah, come to CO and grow weed, it's fun.

Also monkey whizz fake piss works for pre-employment tests, unless the job involves driving and Dot regulations you probably won't have additional random tests during your employment

It depends on how much your fiancee is willing to stand up to her. Also you sound like the two of you are quite young, which makes me think you're too young to get married and that your future MIL may have some valid reasons to be hesitant.

>>18486942
>>18486970
Yea Op, how old are you and wife to be? If you are both 25+ then what she is doing is fucking stupid. If you are younger than say 20, then you might wanna extend the engagement for a year or two. Also there are plenty of marriages where the in-laws are hated by someone in the marriage.

>>18486970
>>18486970

Thanks for the answers.

We are both 25, she some months older than me. We are at the end of our studies. with 2-3 Semesters left (Regular Study time for that topic in Germany, since it has no bachelor & master differentiation in it yet 12 semesters, though I will need 13).

We both study Lutheran theology and are on the waiting list for the pastoral office of two different German Lutheran state churches, she in Saxony (ELVKS), I in Bavaria (ELKB). Due to the way both churches theology studies are structured we both have to finish our studies in our respective states, wich is why I moved back to Bavaria (-> LDR), but after the final exams she wants to change church to Bavaria.

The thing is we kinda have to marry before we enter Viccarage (kinda pastor in training) after the final exams. If you are married the bavarian state church puts you in training congregations max 50 kilometers apart, if we are not married they could very well put us on the opposite ends of Bavaria. While we accept the LDR till the end of the studies, we don't want that situation to continue in viccarage.

I am quite liberal in my faith in comparison. Her family is a conservative pietist one. That plays a reason as well.

>>18486927
she cheated OP.

my first gf did the same thing and she cheated in another country, started a pattern with her. in fact I went to go pick her up at the airport with her family and instead of being excited to see me she was, idk, not excited lets just put it that way.

it's done.

>>18486934
I don't wanna believe that but I'm about 110% you're right. I felt like confronting her about that because she has been know to do that in the past. We're talking more tomorrow so I believe I'll bring that up and watch her body language and reactions.

continue fucking her while searching for someone else, she's a cunt, try ruin her life.

Haven't ended*

I'm having flash backs. Wtf?

Anyway. What is your post about? I can't make any sense of it. Are you drunk ?

Do you need help?

Are you near a window?

Calm down, have a banana

>>18486850
I am in a bit of a hangover (I'm a weak one, just one drink and a shot)

Anyways, to keep it short.
I want to stop people from humiliating. Sure, they're things which I can improve on so they stop (better hygiene, a punctual sleeping schedule, less mindless psychedelic experimentation, going to gym, better diet, better clothing) but you can only go so far with such things.

Charisma and charm are things I want, but it's too late to cultivate them since I am entering adulthood, and such things are best formed at a young age.

>>18486820
>what you fags think about vaping?
It's for fags.

>will i suffer adverse health effects?
You'll become gay.

>and how expensive is this habit?
Free for wizzards, as you will never again get pussy.

>>18486820
>>18486820 (OP)
>what you fags think about vaping?
Better than smoking, worse than not.

>will i suffer adverse health effects?
Yes, nicotine is still addictive.

>and how expensive is this habit?
Probably cheaper than smoking, more expensive than not.

>>18486820
im hoping so bad to see on the news in the near future. Vaping causes retarded off spring
then when i take my son to school seeing all the little vapetards waddlin around.
But not regular retardation a combination of that and that special shut tsimfuckis has... i mean had. Man I miss that wacky little spazz.

>>18486802
>Why is this such a high requirement?
Believe it or not, it's not. You just gotta not buy into the normal means of dating.
No apps. No sites. None of that bullshit. Those things breed hookups.
Get a job and meet a bitch there. I guarantee that between coworkers, customers, and clients/merchants/whatever, you'll meet a bitch who don't get any. There are *plenty*. I've taken three virginities just myself with this method, and I'm like captain unsocial.

>>18486828
>is against degenacy and sluts
>deflowers three woman making them less likely to be able to be good wifes for their future husbands due to lessened bondage capability

It's like /pol/ going for chinks because muh traditionalism and white woman race mixing with Jamal.

Stop going on /r9k/. You are not going to find your pure virgin waifu. Just find a nice girl you like and have fun.