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My buddy told me that mediation was a placebo, once. I responded that, if all of your reality is experienced through your mind, what difference does that make?

Whether depression is """real""" or not has no bearing on if you're feeling depressed.

Anger isn't tangible, but nobody doubts that it exists.

We are only JUST beginning to understand the complexity of the human mind. Give yourself a break and stop being so hard on yourself. If we were meant to do everything ourselves, we wouldn't have two sexes.

It is real but also in your head and can be overcome with will.
It is very hard to overcome with will however if you are in too deep. You have to force yourself to do the things your meatsack will reject and not want to do.

>>18487778
Will power isn't real.

Depression is real. There is no such thing as "will power". Its a pure myth related to the nature of our self-existence and the concept of "free will".

Depressed person can be diagnosed at medical level. The symptoms are very clear in many cases. Not only is it in the "brain" but the physical body will be completely depressed as well.

There are studies that some depression could be caused by gut bacterias (healthy gut microbial may fix it in some situations).

However the main crux is, dopamine issue. Depressed person cannot process dopamine at normal level, thus their emotional level falls down the chart.

If you're depressed, seek professional help.

>>18487765
I think you need to break it to them at one point. It's up to you to choose, when. Yes, you will make them confused and some of them will probably distance themselves from you, but there is a good Kurt Cobain for this

>"I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not."

>>18487771
>>>18487765 (OP) (You)
>I think you need to break it to them at one point. It's up to you to choose, when. Yes, you will make them confused and some of them will probably distance themselves from you, but there is a good Kurt Cobain for this
>>"I'd rather be hated for who I am, than loved for who I am not."
I'm scared desu.

Tbh*

>>18487694
I'm sort of like this myself...
GET A FUCKING JOB!

>>18487694
Try an inexpensive quartz watch first. If you lose or bust it then no big deal. (Although there's a clock on your cellphone, so why would you need a mono function device?)

OCD sufferer here. Is this new or have you always obsessed over something? How uncomfortable does it make you?

Pic related, I'm at the third picture right now.

>>18487680
If you really want/need a job lower your standards at first.
If you're job oriented and you can't get ahead in the job market then save money and start your own small business.
Even trading online, not stocks but just by buying and selling goods can make a lot of money.

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>>18487680
You sound like me, OP. I also live in a small town with so few young people and many elders, except I do have a job. I am still lonely as fuck, though.

I think what you need (and what I am trying to do for myself) is to CUT the internet use related to procrastination, and use the internet for planning out for a better future. Slowly try to read articles that give advice to peope in your situation and work towards a goal of moving to a bigger city.

I wish I could hug you in real life and tell you it's all going to be OK for you, OP, I really do, but the truth of the matter is that - youth is a precious thing, don't waste it on despair. Don't be too sad on the days you have wasted on nothing, you still have so much ahead of you. Just keep applying to these jobs outside your small town, eventually you will strike gold.

Just don't despair, OP. We will make it, brah. Keep trying, even if it takes forever!

>>18487672
Go to his face and ask him, if he refuses then you won't get it and kick his ass, if you still got papers on that it won't matter if he calls the cops, if he does you'll even most probably get your tv back.
Just get some bear mace and spray it in his face when he says no.

>>18487672
Go to his place and tell him that you need your flat screen back.

>>18488734

this. wait an hour or two to show up if hes not homje. if he pulls anything, pull out your phone, call the non emergency police line right in front of him and watch him squirm.

I've left her drunk in the pub and went home. It was 4 months ago and she never called. I miss her and every day is a struggle for me not to contact her, but at the same time I feel I am too proud to reach for her when she was the one to attack me and never said sorry. What do you think?

>>18487650
You have to learn to let go of the toxic people in your life, OP. Even when you grow up with them, sometimes it's not good for you to hold on to them forever.

I beg you OP to live your life on your own terms. Even if she knows you well and makes all these remarks, she is obviously living her own life and can't relate to you as much as she should as a good friend. Friends don't do that.

Just find new people in your life who understand you intuitively.

>>18487650
If you keep her in your life she will let her bitterness and envy try and poison your marriage. If SHE can't be happy, then she will make sure YOU'RE not happy. Toxic.

>>18487640
>a series of really bad things happen to you nonstop, what can you
Stop looking at yourself a special snowflake, you're just another person and shit happens all the time.
Stop looking at the world as: ME ME ME MY MINE.

You seem to hang around bad places and then you do the victim act. FUCK OFF! I'm a grown man and wouldn't hang around bars.

If you got robbed go to the police if they changed office go to the next regional office and file again, if you have to.

>>18487751
No one goes to the bar expecting to get raped. And it was the first time I went to the bar in a year. I don't hang around bad crowds, I don't do drugs, and I just recently graduated university. My post isn't me saying that I think I'm a special snowflake and that the universe has something against me, I know that's not true. I'm just asking for help on how to not feel hopeless when things do.

And I don't want to play victim either but it's hard not to. It's not like I'm asking to get raped.

>>18487830
>No one goes to the bar expecting to get raped.

You shouldn't go to a bar unless you are desperate or a whore, how about that, especially if you don't have solid friends with you and not some vapid whores?
>help
1.Get a job and get away from the social circle that apparently never had any connection with your disaster story.
2.Focus on getting your own place and be independent financially and don't tell people "it wasn't my fault, I'm a good girl" nobody cares in reality, unless they are your parents desu.

And if you go to a place thinking you're not suppose to be raped, think again and get precautions.(watch your drink and... google the rest)
People are very opportunistic and if you hurt about the rape go to some self defense classes, it might boost your confidence.

>>18487639
The absolutely perfect CV would be individually customized for each job, presenting you in ways that best fit that job.

This is usually just a matter of cutting and pasting within a template - e.g., putting your sales experience first for a retail job, your tech knowledge first for a tech job.

It could mean that you interpret each job differently. Let's say one job involved a little customer contact and occasional training of newbies. For one kind of job you'd stress the one in describing the job, for another, the other

If you can't be bothered making a fresh CV for each application (a big mistake) at least have one tech-stressing one, one sales-stressing one, etc..

>>18487639
>If you can't be bothered making a fresh CV for each application
I'm mass spam my CV in the entire country to try and find any work, so I can't make individual CVs for jobs. I've sent in 400 CVs today alone.

I am the best at this!
Close to 100% i get an interview.
But I Also spend a lot of time on every application, I rewrite my CV and Introduction letter for every job.
>currently looking for something better actually.

First of what are your earlier experiences and education?

>>18487634
Be rude... be VERY RUDE.
You'll get good at it just keep practicing.

>>18487638
I try to be rude but here's the problem, SHE CANNOT TAKE A HINT. It's like she knows I don't wanna talk to her but she keeps talking to me! It's so awkward.....

She actually came up and talked to me and I gave her limited answers and didn't even look at her while answering her. Even my manager knew I didn't wanna talk to the girl! Christ.....My anxiety is building up over this crazy bitch....

>>18487681
> VERY RUDE
Spit in her face, step on her shoes, call her a cum gargling bucket cunt fish whore.

Trip her when she's trying to leave and when she falls call her a stumbling bitch whore.

I would even shit on my hand and throw it in her face as my magnum opus.

If she saving herself for marriage? Good luck with that. Consider if it's really worth it.

>>18487627
Dumb her ass, if she doesn't give in than she a lesbo that needs a beard or she'll act up even when you married.
Give her a lesson of human anatomy and physiology, tell her it's natural and if she doesn't want to hear dump her on the spot!
If you don't like a sexless desert life than dump her cunty ass.

>>18487654
No, we've already had sex. She just doesn't want me to be so sexual all the time.

>>18487565
sex

>>18487565
benus in vavooboo

Philosophy
Anime & manga & TV shows & comics & movies
Sports
Actually meet each other

>>18487542
Can you financially just do nothing all day? If so, there is nothing wrong with this OP.

>>18487552
Yeah, I feel you

>>18487542
I'm tired of this shit. Every god damn mother fucker on this board who ask questions like these are so tiring. It has everything to do with you childhood. But everyone is so unaware because it's been their way of seeing things from the beginning. Anon I was literally just like you. Everything was meaningless and I decided my best option was to kill my self at 18 because I believed I didn't have a future. I was 100% sure I had no future. Then I got away from my mother for a year and I realized the whole reason I thought and felt the way I did was 100% what my mother said and did to me throughout my childhood. Now it could be different for you. But this is a fact whatever thoughts you constantly think about. Turn into your actions and emotions. If you think about nothing guess what nothing happens. What do you think successful happy think about?

>>18487541
Post screenshot of your dating profile. Tried others like okcupid and badoo? Tried going to social events you hate? What job? Do you hang out with your coworkers?

Where do you live? Why are you constantly in your basement? Are you fat? 0 confidence?

Try reading this.
>>18483444

And post your dating profile.

>>18487541
Stop questioning your past. If you think about the past you will live in the past. Learn from your past instead of indulging in it. If you don't, 20 years will go by and you'll be doing the same shit. Think about the future.

OP here, photo and text from dating site i will post in hour or so.

Im living in shithole called poland, so there is only one big dating site.

I am car mechanic with my brother.
We have own workshop. No co-oworkers.

Im not really basement type. I am just nerd. I am doing some go outs. For car shows and stuff like that. I am pretty sociable.

About my confidence. I will ratę it 6/10 but i am pretty shy. About weight... 115kg for 191cm (6'2 foots)

About thinking. Nowadays im thinking more about future... But i am not so positive about it.

>>18487521
Seek psychological help

>>18487529
Care to explain?

>>18487521
what a joke

>>18487486
HJ won't be that bad, sit in a dark corner near the back of the theatre, bring a sweatshirt or something to cover the dong if people be lurkin. Blowjob might be kinda suspect.
I fingerbanged my girl for like the entirety of Arrival at my local theatre this past winter.

>>18487499
Thanks man. I've booked seats in the back corner and am just really hoping no one sits close by or in the same row

>>18487502
Yeah, idk should be ai. If you have theatres around you with the reclining seats, that helps. I went to one where they have every 2 seats connected with a removable divider than can change it from 2 reclining seats into a couch. That REALLY helps.