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This morning, I somehow stabbed myself in the foot with a kebab skewer. Don't ask me why it was on the floor, I have no idea.

I kind of forced my food onto it sideways, it pierced the skin and jabbed my bone where the red mark is on the photo attached.

It didn't bleed much but now my bone is really sore. It aches and I can barely move my foot because of the pain. If I press on it, it hurts as well.

What could I have done? Is it just a bit of bruising?

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So I been working out with this girl and we went to get dinner the other night.
Talked about random stuff like what's he older we would date, how she wants implants, general good time in my eyes.
She says we should grab dinner again at another place sometime.
Was this a date?
Please spoon feed me. How do I advance this?

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I woke up one day and my ring and pinky finger were numby tingly. That was back in April, haven't been able to feel them at all since, doesn't come and go it's been constant. What do? Should I just cut em off? Plz help

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I have often been told that I posses great empathetic abilities, I am good at caring for others. It's true that I'm sensitive and that I will worry about those I love, that I am considerate enough to get them thoughtful gifts, support them and offer good advice.

However, I have moments in which I can be cold, cruel and manipulative, for no real reason.

Examples;

I have a pet that I take adequate care of. There have been 4 or 5 instances in which I like to scare it, by throwing things at it, chasing it, threatening it, pushing it about. Nothing that would cause long-term damage but enough to make me feel in control.

I sometimes manipulate people just to see how it feels. Not for any kind of gain, in fact when people do things for me I am often overcome with gratitude, even guilt. But sometimes I like to emotionally manipulate, especially people who have romantic feelings for me, I like to play games.

When I was young I think I psychologically abused some of my partners, I would push them to the very edge just to see that I could, after making them dependent on me. One person I had a LDR with called me sociopathic.

I've endured trauma, however I have no problem inventing stories or exaggerating things that happened. I do not do this with people I consider close friends or family, I like to think this is because I don't want to betray them as opposed to fear of being caught out as a liar.

I had very little respect for my parents growing up and their attitude to me was similar. In fact I even stole things from their room, including sex toys, which I now feel ashamed of because I was caught. There was never a conversation about it.

My parents often talk of how I was awful then and I'm lovely now.

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>College student
>Come home for summer
>Parents keep asking if I'm gonna get a job, in a mocking, "you're not going to get one" way
>I've had several jobs before
>Apply to jobs until I get one
>Get the job
>Go to it for a few days
>Quit
>Proved to them that I could get a job but quit because I didn't actually need one
>They're actually really mad
I've never really upset them before and they're pissed. Was I really wrong?

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I'm a 33yr old woman coming out of a 5yr relationship. I met a 35yr old man from Germany and he's said things that I haven't been hearing in my past relationship. I'm falling for him and I told him I want to go slow. He's said that he understands but at the same time he says if I need a place to live he'd give me a room at his house. He was in the military and speaks 5 languages and is learning Arabic. My friends and family are telling me to be careful because he's learning Arabic. They say that there is more to him than he is telling me. I need an unbiased opinion. Any replies would be great

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I'm not a socially awkward virgin or anything, but I tend to chase after the type of women every else chases after. Even though I've only ever dated regular women, I always have that thought in the back of my mind that keeps me from actually getting emotionally invested, like that if I want to actually do that it HAS to be with some Megan fox looking bitch or whatever

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So, one granny told me, that she has more life energy in her 70 years than me, in my 25.
I could say it is bullshit, but it is truth. Everyone is doing something, everyone want to achieve something. But I don't care. I don't need anything.
My life is very very simple - I wake up, browsing internet, sometimes play vidya (I don't even have energy to play it, so usually I watch let's play on youtube), and go to sleep.
Psychologist said to me, that I don't have depression, but I need to stop living in my own shell. But what should I do? I am afraid of real world, and I don't really want anything from it. How should I leave my shell?

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Alright guys, I'm 21 and supposed to be working on an undergrad thesis so I can graduate in December. I can't stay focused on my research because it doesn't interest me anymore. School in general doesn't interest me, either. I've been holed up in my parents' house and have been bent to their will of pursuing school instead of a job and independence, and I do see that as the most practical route to take, especially now as I'm about to finish my degree. The problem is it all just seems so empty and I don't feel like I'm doing anything meaningful in my life.

I have decided that I need to finish this degree before I go on, but I'm having so much trouble just focusing on the work associated with it. Any time I sit down to work, I feel like I would rather drink cyanide and then end up either getting drunk or playing videogames for 5 hours. What do I need to do to encourage myself to bite the bullet and better connect myself to my obligations?

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Hi, /adv/, I really need some help rn.
>Live in Juarez, Mexico, i'm 20 Y.O
>Ran away from home 3 months ago (been couchsurfing with "friends" since then)
>Been on SSRI's for 2+ years (Currently Zoloft 150 mg/day, ran out of meds last week)
>Had a soft drug problem, i'm rehab'd now (Only weed, i've done alcohol, Coke, DXM, DPH, LSD, but I have only enjoyed weed). Haven't had a decay in like 1~ Month
>No job, only source of food and lodging is my mother (She gives me $1000 MXN monthly, roughly 55 USD). I do my best to live frugally so this money is enough.
>I want to /trv/ frugally, but I don't really know where to start, and >>>/trv/ is a really slow board, so I decided to come here for advice.

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I feel like my manager is setting me up to get fired and I don't have any evidence other than a feeling that she hates me cause I have to call on her a lot to deal with customers.

So what I'm asking is, has anyone here ever been unjustly fired? How did you handle it? I'm looking for new work at the moment since 1 more write up means I'm out of the job (cashier)

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I'm so tired all the time. My body hurts. I don't reach out to people I know and like to talk. I wish I could just fucking sleep.

I'm supposed to be getting better, I'm on antidepressants, I stopped taking drugs and drinking. Why isn't this working?

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How do I ween myself off antihistamines? I'm quite literally addicted to diphenhydramine (basically Benadryl) and it has completely destroyed my histamine receptors and all that shit so now I itch almost every single night and it's rare that I don't. The itching keeps me awake or wakes me up or only allows me a few hours of sleep before I wake up and then start itching. This leads to me being irritable and unable to focus.

Last time I attempted to stop taking it I suffered some serious withdrawals. I was sick, had a headache, felt like dying, etc. I also need something to fall asleep, and I legitimately enjoyed the drowsy feeling I get whilst on it. It slows my mind down and everything just feels okay. Don't suggest marijuana, please.

Anyone have any advice for this? I really need to cut it. Either weening it or just going cold turkey again. I don't know how to get through the withdrawals though.

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Creativity, gratification, discipline.

I’m what you would call a Jack of all trades and truly a master of none. My problem is I’ve always been a creative person but never disciplined enough. I do one thing for a month, then switch to another, then focus on non-creative stuff (like work), then after a year I go back to the first thing. This way I make progress too slowly to ever be happy enough with the results to share them with anyone. Here’s two examples:

I can draw better than most people but after years with months long breaks it’s nothing to brag about. Almost everything I post to deviantart (yeah I know, but I need the feedback to keep doing stuff) I feel like deleting after a day or two.

I can compose music but I mostly make parts of songs and then keep them forever unfinished. Polishing them would take a lot of time and I probably still wouldn’t share them with anyone if they didn’t feel like professional pieces.

There’s more of these. I’ve tried lots of things. I don’t think it’s a question of finding the right medium. I know that with the right solution I could be really good at something. But creating quality stuff takes too much time/practice to keep me motivated. I’m almost 30 years old and so far nothing has helped.

I realise I probably sound like a pussy that needs to get some discipline and get shit done… but "I’m just gonna be disciplined and get shit done" hasn’t been helpful, so I’m turning to you for advice. Maybe you’ve been there.