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What do if paranoid about girl 2017-09-04 01:06:41 Post No.18688322
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What do if paranoid about girl
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Hey anons,
I have feelings for this girl in the same course as I am - she is pretty, clever and just all round great. Probably one of the best ones I've come across so far.
The issue is, however, she is extremely manipulative. I need to be constantly on my guard if I don't want my knowledge used for her gains. This little game we played for the last month or so.
But she has recently lied big to my friend. If there's a big no-no for me it's direct lying, and she knows this. So now I'm extremely paranoid, and just want to go back to normal when I felt nothing for her.
What fucking do?
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>>18688322
Spend less time with her, after a while you'll be able to move on.
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You grow up to be 18 and then you'll be allowed to post here.
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Why does my ex-gf hate me? 2017-09-04 12:50:38 Post No.18688277
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Why does my ex-gf hate me?
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We were together a year, each others first for everything, and broke up 3 months ago as a lot of negative stuff was happening around us and weighed down on relationship, stress and we both just became distant. But besides that we were perfect, had an amazing connection, spoke about future, she always said I was perfect and I'd be a great dad one day and all this other cute stuff we were always together.
During the first 2 months of break-up we were just arguing on/off, being mean to each other saying horrible things, whenever I would talk to another girl she'd get jealous and start an argument, and after a while I just cut contact couldn't do it anymore, she tried talking to me but I ignored everything. Then she starts telling her friends how I was a horrible boyfriend, all I wanted was sex I'm this and that, which completely untrue I treated her so good and was so caring and she was the same with me. Now she's talking to some guy who no offense to him don't compare to me at all she's never even seen him but she's writing him paragraphs saying she loves him promising him she'll always be there for him (literally the same stuff she said to me). It's been about 2 weeks not contacting at all, some days I really hate her for what's she said but other days I really miss her and realize I love her, I don't know what to do, will she realize this too?
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>>18688277
Dude for fucks sake just move on.
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Welcome to the churn, man.
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>>18688277
You got your shot at fucking her and now the next guy gets his and then the next guy and then the next guy. You cannot get back in queue. One ticket = 1 ride.
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Feeling averse to putting myself out there 2017-09-04 12:17:46 Post No.18688216
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Feeling averse to putting myself out there
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2017-09-04 12:17:46
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Before I go on, please understand that I'm not saying this as a kissless virgin or spaghetti spiller.
How do I stop feeling so damn adverse to putting myself out there when it comes to talking to girls? It used to be so much easier for me. As I've gotten older though, it's just so much harder for me to feel like I even deserve to be trying to meet girls. I don't have a nice job or a degree or a nice car, I'm trying my best in life but it just feels like nobody's gonna bother with me until I become a millionaire.
It's not just that I feel shy or anxious. I can't escape the feeling that I just don't deserve anything but to be alone...like everyone else in a relationship has a secret deal with the Devil or something. I am a pretty lonely person, I can admit. Some days I can laugh at it, but recently it's been hard.
tl; dr: I feel like I don't measure up enough to be in a relationship or even talk to most girls, despite knowing women go for men with almost nothing going for them
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I know the feeling OP.
Its hard to give advice, but I'll try. First you gotta take a good look at yourself. What are your reasons for you feeling this way? Have you betrayed your ethics or sinned in some way that you cannot forgive yourself for?
If not then my advice is to just be positive. Literally tell yourself that you deserve love everyday until it no longer needs to be said and is just an inherit thought.
Now if you have wronged others and thats why you feel you don't deserve anything, then you have to right your wrongs. If you cant do that then you have to really analyze what you did, and find a way to forgive yourself.
Your self loathing comes from a place, and you need to pinpoint that first before you can get over it.
After that, you can heal and work toward a better future.
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>>18688216
>despite knowing women go for men with almost nothing going for them
"Almost" is the key word here.
They may not have much going for them, but they do have high self confidence, high self esteem and charm.
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>>18688684
It's just hard man. I feel like a failure because I didn't graduate college at age 22 like everyone else. It sucks being that weird age where half the people are fucking up and half the people are moving on to careers and shit. Makes it hard to even want to talk to anyone because I don't feel "finished" yet.
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I guess fake it til you make it is real.
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Anyone know what 73o11 means? Girl's profile name on a dating site. She says to message her if you can figure out what it means.
Pic unrelated.
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>>18688178
Maybe it's shittest? Just say you don't care what it means and write her. If it's justr some dumb tinder whore take the risk. There are millions if them out there.
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>>18688301
I already messaged her, actually. Told her I'd get back to her on it.
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>>18688301
What do you mean shittest, btw?
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I am 26 and got diagnosed with ADHD at the start of the year. I had been taking about 40mg of dexies a day which worked but didn't lead to a good lifestyle. Anyway, now I can't take them because they give me severe anxiety.
I try and do all the right things: I do a shit load of exercise, eat really well, meditate occasionally, and talk openly to my friends and family about these issues.
Despite this, I've really been struggling of late.
Any advice?
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>>18688131
You learn to manage it and discipline yourself.
As somebody who has ADD I tend to forget doing things and get incredibly sidetracked. So I keep a day journal to remind myself what I should be doing and I try to discipline myself to focus on something till its done.
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>>18688131
Exact same issue here. Write everything down you need to do, have rituals checking for what you need. I need help with this too but you can survive with it
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Get some Stattera or try a different stim
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I feel compelled to visit a long time crush again after I felt like they've been treating me like an afterthought online the past year.
Though they may be hesitant at first; they always seem content whenever Im over there. It's like I only matter when Im in the flesh and not text online.
Would it be a good idea to visit them on short notice so that I could get my usual kicks and maybe iron out any issues?
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>Would it be a good idea
Would me telling you that it's not a good idea keep you from going? Because it's not, but I'm guessing you'll go anyway.
My advice: don't nurture crushes. Nurturing a crush has a way of turning your affection away from the person and toward an idealized version of the person. Crushes are tempting to nurture, because they present the illusion that relationships are puzzles that can be sorted out with long-game strategies. "One day my crush will see me the way I see them. I just need more time to figure this out." But crushes make you less likely to have a real relationship with the person you crush on, not more.
As soon as you become interested in a person, act on your interest. Don't employ strategy, don't try to figure out whether they're interested in you, just act on your interest while it's still just interest and not smoldering adoration.
tldr: chronologically, falling for someone belongs after dating that someone, not before.
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>>18687989
If she only thinks about you when your in her presence, then you do the same visa versa, you'll be fine OP. Don't fall for a hoe!
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>tfw got gun powder, porcelain, and blood everywhere from trying to wash my balls in the kitchen sink
Is it all downhill here from, /adv/?
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>>18687818
nah op, you'll be ok
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>working doing roadwork
>we use explosives
>get that shit all over my clothing
>just toss my dirty clothes in my duffle bag
>couple months later
>taking a trip
>in the airport
>remember all that explosives shit got in my duffle bag
>its the one I have with me
>it was never cleaned
>OH SHIT
>pretty sure I fucked myself
>getting ready for men in black suits to take me to a small room and waterboard me
>bag goes through checking with no problems
You will be just fine OP
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>Half of me wants to have a gf and experience love
>The other half of me is content to be alone and wants nothing to do with love or having any emotional attachments
>Half of me hates myself for always ignoring everyone who likes me
>The other half of me feels like it's the right thing to do and that getting involved with anyone is too risky
What the hell am I going to do? I'm trapped in a viscous cycle of self misery right now because I don't know what I want.
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>>18687771
Wtf, why do you have 4 halves?
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Two halves really. I just stated each half's opinion twice.
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>a viscous cycle
>viscous
need your help. Bisexual here, never really had any sexual relationship with a guy. Now all of a sudden my gay friend from uni is asking to fuck. This is just making me nervous because he is taking it really quickly. I mean i would be fine with a bit of oral but he wants to take it straight to raw sex. What im afraid of is ill panic or not like it and either get all confused about myself or ruin the friendship. Any first time advice/stories?
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>bisexual
>never really had a realationship with a guy
>balks at the idea of anal sex
>bisexual
get a grip
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Just tell him you're nervous and want to just start with oral at first and work up to anal. That's what I did, worked out just fine and still fwb
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My FWB said something kind of hurtful? 2017-09-04 06:26:35 Post No.18687707
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My FWB said something kind of hurtful?
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2017-09-04 06:26:35
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F 22 here.
Earlier this year I lost my virginity to a friend of mine (yes, I know I'm a late bloomer). It was kind of an impulsive decision. We were both a little drunk and I was going through a lot of personal issues at the time and seeking comfort. I think I wouldn't have done it had I been a little more emotionally stable but hey, at least it wasn't with a total stranger, right? Anyway, we've been hooking up since then but there have been some bumps in the road. At the beginning he was very tender and understanding of my needs but as time has gone on that seems to have changed. He started acting differently whenever we were in groups, usually by being quiet or otherwise acting like I wasn't there. I figured this was just his way of avoiding suspicion from mutual friends. It bothered me a little but I figured I was just being oversensitive.
But lately I've noticed that even when we have sex it's different. I did flip out at him once for coming over and then nonchalantly leaving when I couldn't make him cum. (He was already grabbing his keys and heading out the door while I was scrambling to get my clothes on). Once again, I thought I was overreacting and decided to forgive and forget.
But the other night, as he was driving me home from his place after another drunken hookup, he was complaining that he shouldn't have drank that much, etc. Then, in reference to the sex, he said: "Sober me would've never done this. I really need to stop drinking." Then he changed the subject before I could respond. Not that I knew what to say.
The more I think about that statement the more I feel hurt but I don't want to come off as over dramatic or sensitive.
Do you think I should say something? If I do, should I bring up other things I've felt weren't right? Or am I just being too sensitive?
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Sounds like he's not attracted to you, just drunk and horny.
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He fucks you because you're convenient. He doesn't like you and probably he doesn't like fucking you, but you're easy and you're available.
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You are so fucking sexy
Let me get inside of you
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My girlfriend wants to take. Speedycash loan... how the fuck do I talk her out of it!? It doesn't compute or make since to her that they are worst than loan sharks and financially you never get out from under them! Can you help me b?
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>b
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>>18687702
tell her you'll give her the money instead ??
wow that was hard huh anon, or just break up with her, your credit scores aren't attached in anyway yet
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Does this count as "Cheating" 2017-09-04 06:14:34 Post No.18687684
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Does this count as "Cheating"
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In a few months I'll be proposing to my high school sweatheart after knowing her all my life. I love her as much as one human could love another but last night I think I fucked up.
So we're both openly Bi but we would never act on these urges outside of our minds, but last night I got carried away and ended up dirty talking with a gay friend of mine over Facebook to the point where I made him cum by only using FB messenger texts (no photos). The stuff we were saying to each other was extremely similar sexting with my girlfriend. The whole time I was jerking off too but I was not into it as much as I thought. In fact I never outright said what I was doing, just jerking to his responses (basically half assed sexting). This was essentially my first gay experience with another person, if you could even count that.
Afterwards (and still to this moment) I feel horrible. As if I've cheated on her, like I've lost my sense of integrity and abused her trust. I acted on my curiosity and deeply regret it. I want to tell her but now I'm afraid she won't say yes when I propose to her later this year.
Have I fucked up? Does this count as cheating and should I tell her?
Just some notes: my girlfriend and I see each other and have sex frequently, we have never had a serious fight and are both comfortable with each other's sexuality. I've also told my gay friend how I feel and promised him this was a one off experience. He understands but is not against the idea of more.
TL:DR does sexting (text only) count as cheating?
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Yea fag, u fucked up
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>>18687684
It wouldn't count for me, but hey, girls can be really paranoids so if she doesn't know the guy (so she won't ever know if you don't teller her) don't tell her. In the best scenario she would feel with the right to sext somone else.
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What you did was wrong. Don't tell her and don't ever do it again. Propose and enjoy your life. People make mistakes, use that fact to forgive yourself but don't use it to make what you did okay. Acknowledge that you fucked up, file away how you feel right now and remember it in the future when necessary, and move on.
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Hey guys. I'm saving up for a car & i was wondering if i should lease a car or buy a used one. Work a minimum wage job & need one asap for work because i hate taking the bus. Is it worth leasing or should i just save up for a used one?
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Buy
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>leasing anything
>ever
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It's almost never worth leasing a car, especially if you're not rich. If you lease, you pay slightly less in monthly payments, but end up owning nothing. Buy a decent used car, and know what to look for so you don't get a piece of shit, or end up paying more money than you should.
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>abusive mom
>everyday yelling
>everyday belittling
>everyday reminders that I'll end up like father (who's in prison)
>everyday questions on why she should've had an abortion instead
>now she's mad after finding out I've been using the toilet instead of the bucket
I can't live like this.
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How old are you? Go join the military or go to college
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Bucket?
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Underage? Child services.
Legal adult? Leave her.
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How do you handle yourself when the feeling of misery and helplessness strikes you right through the core?
How do you react when you realize you are not doing what you want with your life and you are unable to make the changes necessary to fix it? Everyone says they love you and how they support you, but they led you into the sad state you are now in.
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I acknowledge that this feeling will come to pass, sleep it off, then try to do something productive the next day since that feeling almost always creeps up on me during the wee hours of the night.
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Generaly when I'm on /adv actually.