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I grew up Roman Catholic, my mom grew up attending a ukrainian catholic school till eight grade and then attended a regular catholic school for high school, my dad grew up having to attend religion classes till he received his confirmation but was never religious. I had to attended religion classes from kindergarten till I aged out and received my confirmation in eighth grade. I never liked church, my mom hated bringing me bc I would cry and beg not to go. I never got church, always questioned God, never really believed in everything I was thought. I tried to turn to the church a few times growing up because I was depressed and thought the church could 'save me' I guess. I tried to convince myself I believed it all when I really didn't.
Recently I've had urges to say prayers and cross myself when anxious and it's been giving comfort. I don't really understand this because the church always scared me and made me uncomfortable. I still don't believe in what it ultimately teaches so I'm very confused by my emotions towards it.
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The church is something that is your back pocket ace. Let me explain, yes you didn't enjoy going to it and yes you constantly challenged it but for years it was a place you could go. Even though you might not think god is out there, subconsciously you do when you are troubled. When people are in a dark moods, they always revert to god and ask for his forgiveness. Because what is there to lose. Sometimes life is too difficult to not believe in anything so our brain quickly comes up with prayer as a last ditch effort for saving ourselves.
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So SWIM gets a call today from a debt collector, they owe ~$1600 for breaking their lease and not notifying and paying their landlord. The landlord has every legal right per the lease so no wiggling out that way, aside from that the deposit should be able to be put toward that debt right? The reason SWIM moved out of nowhere is because they tried to kill themselves and needed to move back with family immediately. This person has moved around a couple times since then and now has a job and a kind of place to live. SWIM isn't on the lease and the landlord doesn't know that person is there, but they pay rent and utilities on time. This individual with their monthly payments as is cannot honestly afford to pay back this debt. This person also faces a $4000+ hospital bill from the suicide attempt. So now come the questions: what should SWIM give for their current address since they aren't living at this house legally? How does this person mention rent and utilities in their expenses since they're not legally living there? Can this debt be negotiated at all or put off for a while? SWIM doesn't care about their credit score getting hurt, they just want out of this
Also any advice on dealing with debt collectors would be appreciated
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Thank you
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Weird eye contact problem here.
I make good eye contact in conversations without even thinking about it.
The problem is that I'm very unsure what is considered normal in other scenarios.
Example scenarios:
1. Lunchbreak at work (do I take a bite, look at some faces, repeat?)
2. Passing a coworker (look at them and nod?)
3. I often see people staring right at people who are having a conversation while not saying anything (the fuck? is this really OK?)
I don't understand why I have this problem since I'm good socially.
Please help me, this is ruining my life.
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Yes staring at someone while they talk is okay but occasionally look away once in a while.
Regarding your scenarios:
1) Take bite, make sure all the food is in your mouth, chew covering your mouth and then look. No rush, keep it nice and slow.
2) Look at them and nod....yes.
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>be male
>don't get laid until I'm 22
>do pretty bad, because I'm just losing my virginity, luckily with the girl I liked the most in my whole life
>don't ever see that girl again, unluckily
>don't get laid again until a year later
>can't get it up because I'm afraid that I'm gonna do horribly bad again
>do horribly bad again because of that
>never see this other girl again
>don't get laid until three years after that (now)
>I got to be FWB with a girl I kinda dig
>first time we fuck I manage to get off, kinda quickly, I think
>get erections after cumming but lose them as I'm putting on a condom or changing positions
>a week later we fuck again (first time I ever fuck the same girl for a second time), but I cum even quicker than the first time
>can't think of anything besides getting hard because I think I'm afraid I'm gonna ruin it again
>couldn't notice I wasn't even trying to pleasure her anymore, I was just trying keep an erection
>can't keep erections, just like the first time I was with this girl
>eventually can't get erections that night
>now three days have passed since I got a boner for the last time, probably because I feel like shit since then
>can already feel like I ruined everything with this girl when speaking to her
First I felt bad because I didn't get any action. Now I feel bad because I'm always too anxious and stressed to ever get any real satisfaction from sex.
I think it was better when I was still a virgin and didn't feel as bad about myself.
Is there any hope for me? I really don't wanna use viagra.
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you're snowballing performance anxiety. that's all you need to know
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There is absolutely hope for you OP! What you have to do is work on being kinder to yourself and avoiding putting expectations on you for sex. It helps to work on focusing on your own pleasure instead of worrying about how you're doing.
I'd say the most important thing with this is finding a good, understanding partner to do some exploration with. For example, there's an exercise where you and the chick take turns just experimenting with touch without the expectation of sex
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Every interaction I have with a girl goes like this:
>I initiate a conversation with her
>I maybe try to be a little flirty but I'm a little autistic so it's probably vague
>She usually responds somewhat well to the interaction. She can sometimes be aloof but her response is usually decent or at least cordial
>I ask for a number/snapchat and she gives it to me
>I text/snapchat her
>50/50 chance she actually replies
>If she replies we might go back and forth for a little bit but NEVER long
>She inevitably leaves me on read and ignores me
TL;DR: Every girl who's contact info I get basically ghosts me at some point
What the fuck do you think I do wrong? I'm 6'1 and been told I'm very attractive multiple times. I do look a lot older than I am though, which I'm not sure is good or bad.
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Maybe they aren't really interested in having text conversations and would be more interested in you actually asking them out on a date.
Where are you meeting these girls? How many of them have you talked to?
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>>18463029
You come off annoying get just by the way you wrote this. It doesn't even sound like you see the girls you talk to as individuals, but like all that matters is what YOU get out of it. Also,you're probably not as "attractive " as you think,otherwise you'd at least get a girl in real life.
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>>18463114
College/Friends/Parties/etc.
Tons over the last year, dozens
>>18463119
How does any of what I said imply that I don't want to see them as individuals? It's not like I give them phony fill in the blank lines or anything when I talk to them
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Hey guys. So I may be either gay, bi, or just a sexual deviant. I'm 27 married and I fuck around alot. My wife has no idea that I cheat regularly (yes I am scum) we've been together 5 years married for 2. I fuck women and men behind her back. I don't do it because she doesn't put out. We have a very healthy sex life (3-4 times a week multiple times in a sitting) but I still am compelled to fuck anyone with a hole be it male or female..what the fuck is wrong with me and how do I stop being such a piece of shit? Pic kinda related.
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>>18463015
The only way is to get out of your marriage before you make things worse. Monogamy is not for you.
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Have you maybe considered that you have a sex addiction? What you are describing sounds like it. Before it gets worse, you should try talking to a therapist or even your primary care.
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>>18463041
Problem is, I really do love her. I just want to do the shit I never had the chance to do before I got married
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How to get over this one
17yo
I purposely ran away from home because I hated my life, however I was inspired by someone else I'd heard about doing the same thing and thought "fuck that's a really cool thing to do" but the cops found me and told everyone where I was, where as I actually wanted to just sort of dissappear and not want anyone to know where I am.
How do I get over it, like move on and accept the fact that I wasn't properly "missing"
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Hey /adv/ another retarded "relationship" thread
Just want to know if I'm in the wrong on being so pissed right now
So last year I was at my hometown and in December I hooked up with this girl... at the time a "good" friend of mine made me go for it and stuff
So we hooked up and they I moved away, we still kept talking and when I came on holiday we hooked up again but ultimately decide LDR was meh
About a month passes and both my "friend" and this "girl" come and say that they got together
I mean he clearly knew I had feelings and that I would be pissed - he said it so himself, but he didn't want to ask me about it because he probably knew I'd say to lay off
So now I'm feeling like shit, not as much because of the bitch but because a guy I've met and been a good friend for years just gave no fucks for a piece of pussy
So know I really don't know what to even make of this, as I'm going back home for a month in August...
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She is not yours to keep, mainly because you refused to be in a relationship with her (even a LDR one). She wasn't yours and they can get together for that reason.
Your fault, not his.
Your problem, not his.
Find another girl in the place you live in if you want a relationship, don't force that girl to wait for you or to suddenly stop seeing EVERY guy just because of you.
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>>18462964
I didn't refused, we decided together
It's not about being my fault or hers, and not EVERY guy, but one who I've talked about here and knew full well the implications....he said it himself he knew it would piss me off, and did it anyway...I'd say that's a pretty cuntish thing to do for a so called friend...
My problem is not her, but I feel like I can't really make things work with the dude and I'm wondering If that's too much
They say Bro's before hoe's not to be cringy or anything
I do appreciate the input, im just trying to make something out of this
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>>18462978
Well, I can't really approach the whole "bro code" thing because from where I am, we usually don't have such thing. It's either fuck, or get fucked. No waiting around for "a bro". Friends or not.
Sorry I can only address the issue superficially, good luck.
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>close family member's a hoarder
>some of my stuff is with his stuff
>the stuff spills out the door into his yard
how do i help
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I've been going back and forth with this girl for about a year, and just recently things finally seemed to be going good, but then she started acting distant, which is what happened the last time we got closer, she has anxiety and trust issues, so I tried to assure her that she doesn't have anything to worry about, and she seemed all in after that. Yesterday I asked her out for another date, and she said she's "not sure this is going anywhere". I asked her what was bothering her and then the picture happened over Snapchat. Now I don't know what to do.
I don't want to just try to move on... I'm tempted to just sulk and try to distract myself while I hope she messages me again, but I'm also tempted to ask her what's bothering her again, because I'm only just now realizing she never answered.
I mean I just kind of assumed her trust issues were bugging her and she was worried I didn't actually care about her, but not I feel pathetic and stupid for actually sharing my feelings.
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KEK A DOODLE DOO!
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Move on mate. If she'll want you she'll give you a call. Distance yourself from her. These sort of friendships are usually toxic (You like her too much, she doesn't really care about it and uses you as an cumdumpster for her emotions, you see where it leads. You're the only loser in that situation.)
Move on. She might message you while you're moving on, she might not. Win - Win situation.
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>Be me
>Fly through first year of university
>This is easy.jpeg
>Shit 1zt year is worthless and doesn't count for my whole degree.
>Finished classes (modules) over summer
>Hate my course and university in general
>Really want to drop out but have no back up and very little savings.
>I can drop out and owe SFE £30,000 already
OR continue and split 3rd year over two and x2 my debt and owe university £2000 in scholarship
What do?
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>>18462909
Stop being a pussy and finish school.
I don't know why the media makes college out to be the best time of your life. It's quite the opposite, at least in my experience. So if it is not living up to your expectation GET OVER IT.
Pick an easier major if it is too much to handle. I don't believe people are capable of doing anything if they try hard enough. Know your limitations.
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Meeting someone from the internet! Help!
So I've been texting and have FaceTimed with a guy I met online. We live a state away from each other and we thought about where we should meet. I do feel like I know him, but it's smart to meet at a coffee shop instead of a hotel or airbnb right? We were thinking about the movies too, but then we wouldn't have a chance to talk AT ALL. Coffee dates are so awkward and I'm a fembot so :/
ANYWAY, thoughts/suggestions?
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you can go see a movie, you can comment/screw around while watching a movie anyways, it's not strictly just being silent and watching the damn movie, just be silent tho
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I feel guilty because my boyfriend is buying me a lot of things recently.
Little background : 3 years old relationship, both first kiss/everything. We are going to live together in one month and i will start to study law.
His point of view : he is buying me things that I need for school and my well being and he wants to provide me a good life, he tells me that he is not buying things to make me happy but because it is needed
He buyed me a desk (240e), a printer (267e), dental health (3 500 -overtime-) skincare (84e) some cloth, books and he is planning to buy me a mcbook for my studies.
My point of view : We and I dont buy things if its useless. When I was working, I buyed him things and helped him when needed. But I still feel guilty. I think Ive shouldve said no to all of it, I feel bad and he dosent really understand why because he think that its normal. I dont want to abuse his love. I never force him to buy any of it or convince him but at the end I still said yes.
What do you think about it? Will answer questions.
English is horrible, on phone and not my native language.
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>>18462891
Are you feeling guilty because you don't feel like your relationship will last, or you intend to leave him?
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>>18462905
Nope I love him with all my heart and want to build a family with him
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>>18462919
Then know that you'll be able to pay him back so many times over once you get your degree!
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I'm a nerdy compsci student
1) Get a randomly assigned roomate and hope to pick up coolness vibes from them
2) Message fellow compsci student I met at orientation, who's clearly smart and a bit bit shy, like most programmers
What do you say lads, 1 or 2
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>>18462885
2 and then 1 if they don't need a roommate. alternatively look for one on craigslist that way you can learn about the person first.
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>>18462885
You can always make friends with the cool people in your hall. I vote find somebody who studies well and wont fuck up your GPA.
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Been dating a girl for 2 weeks. At some point after last Sunday night when I dropped her off after a date, she decided to ghost me.
I sent 3 texts on Monday at around the same time, nothing clingy and totally unrelated to anything. Usualy she sends a good-morning text, but I figured she was busy and just went to bed.
Day 2 now, no GM text, no replies to yesterday, so I shot her a Facebook message in case something had happened to her or her phone. She's been online multiple times but has not opened my message, so I'm pretty safe to assume ghosting.
We do work at the same place, but the place is large so it's not everyday we run into one another. I'm just really confused as to why and what I should do about it. There was a mutual attraction, everything seemed to be smooth, and to the best of my knowledge I've done nothing to compromise the relationship.
Insight would be appreciated.
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You went 1 text + 1 facebook message over 'normal' and now you're being 'clingy guy who cant take a hint and is creeping me out' to her
Who knows why. Maybe she liked her ex more or she didnt feel a strong connection to you even thogh she had fun. Chill. Move on
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>>18462925
>You went 1 text + 1 facebook message over 'normal' and now you're being 'clingy guy who cant take a hint and is creeping me out' to her
Sending 2 related text messages about something unrelated and then sending a "how was your day text" is not clingy bud, especially when you have been normally exchanging at least 50 messages a day with the person...
>Who knows why.
Exactly. Am I not allowed to be curious as to why to improve myself were to attempt redeem the situation? Given the last 2 weeks behavior between us and the dates we been on prior, this came straight out of left field
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>>18462980
Or*