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Long story short I'm a few years into university but I've pretty much hit rock bottom.
Did well in the first year, got with a girl for the first time and we went on for nearly two years.
Now it's my third year at Uni, I've been academically at risk once now and I'm right about to fail a couple more courses. Can't fix those courses right now, but I don't have a fucking clue where to go.
I might be able to keep on with University, but it's getting more tenuous at best with that. I want think I'm over the girl, but it sounds like a fucking lie since it's been more than half a year since our messy breakup and I can still end up thinking about her, it or whatever on a daily basis. Everything felt so sorted a while back, and now I'm burning money on University courses I fail and sit in a mental loop about some shitty relationship that was busted from the start but I was too naive to see.
I've got asthma so I probably can't go military like I would have probably wanted to, I have no job experience, I feel I don't have any meaningful relationships because I lie about all this shit and keep it to myself with this being an exception.
How can I move past just wanting to beat myself to pulp each day as I dig myself lower and MAKE something out of this? I'm sick of being like this, I'm sick of the stress from just failing another course, I'm sick of going over a long-gone relationship in excruciating detail every odd hour, and I'm sick of knowing that I'm just letting everyone done behind closed doors.
In other words:
How do I turn myself around from almost-probably dropping out?
What's some kind of backup plan that I can have given I have fuck all to land on?
Any other advice to get dropkicks like my current self into gear.
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> How do I turn myself around from almost-probably dropping out?
By focusing on your studies.
The thing with reputable universities and srs employer-wants-to-hire-you-after-graduating subjects is that you don't pass unless you have very, very little of a life apart from university. You need to almost entirely focus on your studies.
> What's some kind of backup plan that I can have given I have fuck all to land on?
As far as I can tell, you're pretty much forced to try your luck with whatever comes up, like all assetless not particularly educated people, aren't you?
Maybe you can retry and finish university, or maybe you'll see an opportunity elsewhere.
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Mate I'm in the same position as you except even worse. Gf and I are breaking up after 7 years and I'm 23. I did great first year if school but after that my studies fucked up hard. I barely have a 2.4 GPA right now after 4 years plus I'm in a major I hate (mostly because she told me it was a good idea). I am going to change my major and devote 120% to studies until I turn this shit around. 7 year graduation is better than dropout. I work out my anger and depression in the gym. I try to better myself reading about the world and shit. I do get depressed some days and just do nothing but I realize that the only thing worse than that is letting it take over my life and being sad every day. So I get back up the next day and get out there.
Good luck.
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At the time I am in a very complicated relationship. We have been together for almost 3 years. He is 2 years younger than me. Somehow we are really happy. He can be caring an funny and I really like him but then he can get really angry and he is in full rage mode and then he is cussing and calling me names and telling me how useless I am... and those words can hurt so much. And sometimes it even gets physical. He slapped me more than once, sometimes he grabbes me really hard or pushes me away.
But that only happens once a month or so. I don't consider it that harmful it only is.... I wish he would learn to control his anger and I asked him a thousand times to go to thearpy, he already knows that he has problems, but he has no time for a therapy and clearly doesn't want to work on himself.
But after each fight we get things together again and everythings fine. We kiss each other and he apologizes deeply but often doesn't even realize how much he hurt me (physically but mostly verbally)
I really don't know how to cope with this situation. We are engaged now and he wants to marry soon and somehow I have everything in him that I need but that anger problem.
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I've never been the type to fall for someone. Most relationships I've had have been relatively short and I never seem to find a full package relationship (i.e., I've dated people where the sex is good but I don't like the personality, or the personality is good the girl has no prospects).
Last year I met someone who I fell hard for - we both did - long distance. We bonded over sharing our personal shit and realised we had so much in common it was scary. The relationship hit every mark and we both recognised how we'd never had such good sex, or companionship, or just mutual interests. We spent half a year constantly messaging or calling, counting down the days till our visits and making all kinds of plans, until she fell into a depressive spiral with elements of dissociation and said she couldn't carry on. She lives with her parents, quit her job, spends most days secluded, and can barely carry a conversation.
I want to help her feel better and part of me wants us to be able to be together again when she is but I realise it's most likely not going to happen. The long distance makes it easy to not see her but it's been over 2 months since we were last together and I cannot stop thinking about her. I don't want to see anyone else and the thought makes me sick.
How do I stop missing her? How do I get over the feeling she was the one?
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>>18467946
Stop messaging and bang other girls, time will do the rest.
Or help her through her troubles and start hitting on her again and see where it goes
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Thanks bro.
Any advice from any one who has been in a similar position would be appreciated if there are any lurkers.
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What are some good first date ideas?
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>>18467945
>bar
>restaurant
>parks
>sex dungeon
>Museums depending upon the person
>Local music conventions
>Arcade if you got skill
>drug dens
>Cinema if you both want to see a movie
>?????
>walk and talk
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paint ball
hunting
exploring rundown and dangerous areas
stripclub
walk in the park and coffee
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I find that I become less attracted to girls once I find out they're interested in to me. Like I start wondering if I can do better and start dwelling on all the negatives that would occur if I stayed with them. How do I stop being such a piece of shit?
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realise that you should only pursue girls who are already interested in you. if a girl is not interested in you, there is no point, and she will become disgusted by your continued pursuit.
if you're not enthused by a girl being interested, maybe you aren't actually looking for a partner right now and just prefer to be validated by girls that weren't formerly interested?
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I'm not an expert but for me the grass is always greener on the other side, people always want what they can't have so if you have something you want something else
Its like buying a new corvette and a month later you sell it for a camaro
Or like when you get a promotion at work but you miss your old position more
Or when you were in highschool and all you wanted was to leave and be a free adult but now all you want is to live that simple life again
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Op you actually have terrible self esteem and insecurity. You hate yourself so the second someone likes you, you wonder why they like you and then you think they could do better than you, and you lose interest in them. Get therapy or something
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What should I choose? Been debating it all day now and I'm indecisive...
Watch soccer with dad vs. sports practice
>quality time with father
>our country is playing
vs
>need to prepare for tournaments
>one of the last practice moments before summer break
wwyd?
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>>18467932
Watch sports with daddy and suck his dick :^)
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have your dad come to your practice and tape the game, then you guys can watch it later. Bam I win the thread
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Do you guys sometimes consciously make decisions which are unnecessary and hurtful? I think I have a problem with inflicting on myself mental pain by denying myself things I enjoy. I guess I do it to punish myself but I don't get why I subconsciously feel like I need to be punished since I haven't done anything wrong that would warrant that
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>>18467926
Yup, imma bang my ex.
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Yep. I'm broke as hell and as soon as I get money I "treat myself" in order to keep good morale and then I'm back at being broke as hell again.
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>>18467926
youre probably not being honest about you not doing anything wrong. im the same.
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This is a weirdly specific question, but it was on my exam and i can't fuckin find anything about it on the internet or in the exam book. Does anybody in the world knows a block diagram for medical device of the CF type?
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what would be the traits of anxious-preoccupied girl from outside of relationship?
https://jebkinnison.com/bad-boyfriends-the-book/type-anxious-preoccupied/
clues to look in conversation?
maybe even something physical...?
i want one.
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question is way too broad
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I've recently started dating a qt girl who enjoys anime - she attends the anime club at her college. How should I handle the inevitable beta orbiters? I've already had one man who I've never seen in person add me on Facebook and message me "you'd better treat her right"
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They go away in time. And you learn to deal in general.
My gf is hot and befriends betas so she had orbiters early into our relationship. I wanted to punch everyone of them in the mouth.
Anyways her actual friends stuck around, most of them disappeared forever, and now she gets the occasional basement autist come on too strong suddenly (probably with advice from 4chan) and she just instantly deletes now.
Doesnt even make me mad anymore. Just feel.bad for these dudes. Attractive girl so much as notices them and they think they're in.
Anyway i reiterate. Theyll all go away and by the time the orbiters slow down youll be comfortable enough not to care.
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>19
>six months into premed and I dont really feel for it, want off this ride
Im expecting a 4.0 (or very near) gpa though so I can transfer to pretty much any other bachelor
What should I transfer to? I can swap to pretty much anything and I don't have a particular interest in anything aside from status and potential to make money/career progression.
I'm not too worried if its not fulfilling work anyway since i'll probably start my own business once i accumulate enough wealth to do so.
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I got into S&M porn as a teen. I fapped almost exclusively to S&M fantasies since then. A while ago a news program ran a story about someone being molested and to my horror I got slightly turned on. This really disturbed me. How do I fix my fucked up brain, with getting off the porn being a given?
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I am a woman who gets incredibly turned on when I read news stories of other women getting raped and beaten. this usually leads me to trying to find rape porn for hours and talking to rapists about their rape victims. The porn makes this way worse. I've had to forgo porn because even normal porn leads me to the extreme stuff. I always feel disgusting and guilty after binging rape porn so I realized that I just need to assert self control and not watch porn anymore. And before any of you faggots say that this is proof that women want to be raped I wanted to say that I don't imagine myself as the one being raped but as the rapist. I don't actually think that rape is justifiable or good just like OP feels disgusted about molestation. My sexuality just got fucked up along the way some how.
People like OP and I shouldn't watch porn and should avoid news articles because they can be majorly triggering when your brain associates violence with pleasure.
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>>18468232
OP here. Thanks for sharing.
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Anyone here have chronic pain, I herniated 3 disc in my lower back last year.
I've decided I am done living.
I did everything right, watched what I ate, how I lifted, all to get into a car wreck with some drunk driver.
Anyone else have these issues or is it just me?
I used to have hope, now I just don't feel anything anymore, I don't even talk to my mother about it anymore, as I don't feel like she'd miss me when I am gone.k last year
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Im sorry to hear that...have you been getting mental help after the accident? And is there anyone else in your life except for your mom? I dont know how close you are with your mom, but why do you think that she wont care? Does she know that you are suicidal?
And I cant really say that I have chronic pain, except for the head aches. I'm depressed and a bit suicidal too, so I dont really know how to help you except to let you know that you are not alone. But as I mentioned earlier, you should probably try to talk about your suicidal thoughts with someone.
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Ex-Gf of 3 months dumped me and I can't seem to understand the reason she gave me.
Ex-Gf is super religious, goes to church 3-4 times a week (depending on various events) and has had 5 boyfriends in the past. She was also very sexually active and noted that in all of her relationships, she's always jumped into bed with them within a few days of actually dating them. I didn't judge her for this, and honestly, since it was all in the past, I didn't give a shit.
My issue however is that she went cold and low contact for the past 2 weeks, and then told me that she felt really guilty about her lifestyle and wanted to focus more on God and shit.
This makes no sense to me, why exactly does she want to go full monk right now? Anyone else have any experience with this weird shit?
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she's a retarded girl, just move on.
But some insight might be, maybe some one has been putting pressure on her to act like a decent human being for once, so she's trying to change. Or maybe she finally decided to take a look at her life and feels shitty, and is wondering if you're just using her and this is a test to see if you pursue her. Or maybe she just wanted an excuse to break up with you.
Often even if you know the exact depth and detail of the reason some one does or behaves a certain way, even if you call them out on it, often they'll react negatively because you're violating their inner most sanctum, their own consciousness.
If you're still in contact just tell her it's been 3 months and she's already making this relationship difficult, long term doesn't look good and cut contact.
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>>18467783
>she's always jumped into bed with them within a few days of actually dating them
quick in and quick out. sounds like this is a pattern. Tip for all you guys out there. If they fuck you fast it doesn't mean you are special only that the fucks everyone fast and you were next.
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Follow art dreams or chase tech money
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So I've sunk 3 semesters at a top uni (so of course all of high school as well studying up random bull and kissing ass) being a yuppie and studying cs. Shit was depressing as fuck to me so I finally decided take a year off (can still return) to learn how to draw which I've always wanted to do. Now considering art school - actual good design programs with legit grads in industry, specifically Art Center.
My friends in the valley, many who didn't even go to college, are still making serious bank from what sounds like mostly dicking around with whatever cs knowledge they have, much more practical than all the theory/math crap I've been learning in school. Also crypto. Recently talked to a trustworthy bud, didn't go to college, who just randomly signed up for a position at a tech hotshot's new startup, and he's telling me it's actually that easy. Given, he knows his tech shit, it's just way more industry-relevant than uni textbook crap.
So I'm at a crossroads right now - should I even go back to uni and waste 2-3 more years getting a cs degree I might not even need, get a degree at all like English or something just to look smart I guess, transfer to art school for illustration or design (which could well be relevant in tech work), or take coding bootcamp and get money while forgoing uni? I hated coding the first time around, but the thought of just skipping college and getting to the heart of what is actually necessary makes it more appealing.
Tldr:
stay in school (sink money but get degree, depressing work)?
take the shortcut (less money, no degree, still depressing work)?
art school for art (expensive, less jobs, but what I like the most)?
art school for design (semi-compromise)?
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art school for design.
You can get the best out of both worlds. Don't go into something you don't find interesting at all. How will you find energy to be great doing some depressing shit for the rest of your life?
Follow your passion + some common sense.
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What kind of art specifically? How good are ya? Would you share some of your work?
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What do art/design people work as though? Do they make logos and ads for magazines? Do you sell drawings to museums? Pardon my ignorance.
Everyone told me there are almost no job positions for people who study graphic design or art.