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any nonobvious caveats i should be aware of re: dating older men 2017-07-02 09:51:55 Post No.18478572
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any nonobvious caveats i should be aware of re: dating older men
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my nice, attractive male friend seems to have feelings for me. he's also 8 years older. he's remarkably not a douchebag, which i appreciate, and seems to genuinely care about me. i know guys are pigs and all want the youngest, hottest piece of ass, etc but this seems like a genuine grey area. what else should i know? i'm in my late 20s so it's harder for him to be a manipulative, abusive creep, or so i'd like to think.
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you should consider yourself lucky that any man still wants you in your late 20's. there's probably something wrong with him
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I want to be a politician in Canada. My political views are very right wing. Now, I don't like either party, but I have more common ground with the Conservative Party. I'm a South Asian Muslim and the problem is that I'm worried that if I try to go for a really high position or even run for PM I'll lose support because of my race and religion.
If I join the Liberals I'd be standing for a party I don't like that disagrees with me on about everything just for money and power (very bad moral example for my kids and it will probably demoralize me), but they'd probably promote me because of some stupid diversity quota or some shit.
Joining any other party sounds retarded. My gut tells me just to go Conservative and still try to get as high as any white person can if not higher. This is what I'll probably do.
What should I do?
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>>18478568
>I want to be a politician
>very bad moral example for my kids and it will probably demoralize me
Pick one.
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>>18478568
Go Conservative, but preferably, go to south Asia and be a south Asian Muslim over there.
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How do you break an addiction to a shit game, especially one your shit at yourself?
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You're
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>>18478503
you can uninstall. tell a friend your problem and get them to push you to do it. or destroy the game disc / data whatever.
ultimately it comes down to your willingness tho
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>>18478503
I have been struggling with this for ten years of my life. I think I am finally through. Video games may have not been the root of my problem initially, but they have ignited so many more problems for me that I have to deal with now.
>>18478554
>ultimately it comes down to your willingness tho
Pretty much this, but I am more determined now than ever because I am at the pivotal moment of my life where if I don't stop and change, I will ruin myself financially. It's never been enough to just KNOW that I will be a useless fuck if I continue my actions, it took a recent trip with 2C-B to take a step back from my life and really think about what would happen to me if I didn't stop.
I don't recommend tripping if you've never done it before, but if you or someone you know is experienced in the matter, maybe give it a shot. Otherwise, you just need pure grit and determination.
>At work there's this cute 16 year old girl who likes me
>The problem is I'm a 25 year old man
>The age of consent is 16 where I live so I wouldn't have any legal problems
>Still the prospect of dating this young girl kind of makes me feel like a pedophile
Pretty sure I'm going to take a pass on her. This is the correct move right /adv?
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>Pretty sure I'm going to take a pass on her. This is the correct move right /adv?
Yup.
The fact that you even for a moment thought you could trust a 16 year old girl not to do something insane and ruin your life in the event of a break up says to me you're a giant idiot.
Not to mention the fact that being in possession of any sexualized images of her, consent or not, is considered child pornography.
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>>18478383
thats smart. i wouldnt blame you for going for it but even when its 'legal' there can still be legal reprecussions. parents can get a lawyer to sue for just about anything and the court isnt going to care if you technically had legal consensual sex.
just the fact that you work at the same place can be seen as you being an 'authority figure' in which case age of consent no longer applies.
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>>18478383
Don't shit where you eat.
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How do I learn another language? I like to thing that my English is alright despite not being my native language, but i've been slowly studying it since I was 9 (through memes and games).
How do i go about learning something else by myself. German in this case
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there are countless resources online. Duolingo, youtube, etc.
no excuses m8
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Countless online resources. It's all irrelevant because the language goes away if you never use it. So unless you plan on reading and writing German daily, do something else.
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I'm not making excuses, just looking for tips
>eaten shitloads of junk food in the past 3 days (and most previous days in the past two years)
>drank too much coffee and ruined sleep and gym strength
>told myself it'd be the last few days for both of those but my main hobby is drinking coffee in public as I watch qts and feel sad about life - can't bear to give it up
>walked around London during the weekend with nothing to do
>have sugar and caffeine fueled epiphanies every evening about life heuristics, keys to happiness and success, realise they're all bullshit in the morning; move back to wasting time
>literally listened to a roastie next to me on the underground talking about her roastie friend having multiple tinder matches with Chads while travelling; literally recursive roastie stories
>feel tortured seeing so many attractive women everywhere that I know fuck ten Chads a day
>can't bear to sit at home and learn programming / other stuff because I'm missing out on my youth that is worthless due to my non Chaddiness
>walked through Kensington and Chelsea today and saw all those upscale aimed at women stores aimed at gold diggers and trophy wives
>still liked Kensington more than shoreditch which has hippie yoof graffiti everywhere and pretends to be inclusive but rejects all non Chad males and represents the Darwinian brutality of the sexual marketplace and my failed social life
1. I want to stop drinking coffee, stop eating junk food, stop feeling like I have to read all those boring books pseudo intellectuals say I have to read. How?
2. Any good life advice?
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I lift weights too, I don't think coffee has any negative effects.
Just stop eating sugary crap for snacks, and instead eat things like dried meats, fruit, and nuts/granola.
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I threw a dead bird in my garbage yesterday. Thinking that if i sealed a bag tight enough no maggots would get out. Not the case. Now maggots are all over my garbage can (pic related). After the trash is taken out, could a quick cleaning take care of them? Or should I take extra precautions? I'm going to vacation soon so I would like an answer pretty quickly.
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How do I make new friendships with girls without seeming like I want to "get" with them?
For a while in my life I didn't interact with many people and forgot how to make friends. I came back to my old friends after a while and we all got along again, during that same time period I got myself a girlfriend and we've now had a healthy loving relationship 1.5 years. I've made some new male friends ever since but I can't seem to build any friendship with women, for some reason I feel like I'm coming off in a wrong way and can't get past this. I can talk to men, I can talk to women, I can talk to people. But I can't seem to build any friendships with the opposite sex. Help.
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When you talk to women, bring up your girlfriend casually. Most of the time they'll get the message
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Why would you want to be friends with females?
Are you gay?
Men and women can't be real friends. Someone's girlfriend "hanging out with the guys" doesn't count, nor does the extremely effeminate homosexual men who hang around girls.
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>>18478270
good idea, thanks.
>>18478286
i've met cool people that I want to spend time with but can't because of their sex. it's weird and I want to overcome it and just have fun with peeps
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I can't stop spending money on massages, the illegal kind
the taboo allure is contagious and the adrenaline rush is like no other and the people I usually meet are refreshingly honest and enjoyable to talk to.
every time I do I say that was my last time then weeks later I do it again
>just stop doing it
yeah that isn't working.
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continue doing it ;-)
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>>18478151
>yeah that isn't working
then we can't help you. if you dont have the willpower to simply stop you aren't going to have the willpower to do some other thing that will give you the willpower to stop.
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First programming job out of college 2017-07-02 07:12:29 Post No.18478120
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First programming job out of college
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Hi /adv/
I graduated from college a month ago. I'm from Ireland, and I got a degree in software engineering with a 2:1, thats the same as a 3.5GPA in the USA as far as I know. I've covered the usual programming languages Java, MySQL, Javascript, PHP, etc. and I know android development well too. I have no student debt at all, and I'm living with my folks right now. I have nearly a years experience as an intern with a major tech company (which I won't name)
I feel like I have a lot of doors open to me but I am unsure about where to start. I live in a small town and don't have a driver's licence, and there are no jobs at all in my county. Most tech jobs are in Dublin which is the capital and has high rent costs. My problem is that I don't want to just apply for a whole lot of jobs there or elsewhere in the country and taking the first thing that's available, and it ending up not suiting me. I feel like I don't have enough knowledge about what to expect from a full-time job like this, pay, what language is best as a first job etc. Are there any developers here who can chime in with advice for a graduate like me who is just starting out? Sorry this question is vague, I can provide more info if asked
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Yeah. You shouldn't be picky about FT Job #1. I get that you have a year's experience as an intern, but realistically that most likely did not give you enough exposure to the job.
You SHOULD be applying to a lot of jobs. You should NOT be taking the first available thing unless the market is that bad -- chances are you should have at least a two or more offers to consider.
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There should be a website for your country where you can go and look at things like average starting salary and job prospects. See if you can find something like that.
Also talk to the careers office at your university, they often have a ton of information about this sort of thing.
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Take the first half-decent job and then, if it sucks, look for another.
Don't make the mistake of having a large gap in employment because of inaction.
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My attempt to making a shorter version of describing how I feel, to anyone interested, it's this thread (long version): >>18477945
I can't connect with other people, no matter how hard I try, I just can't relate to them.
And in general, I find most people boring, or straight up annoying.
This may look like it was said by a complete arrogant, but I am not, most of the time at least. I dislike showing off, and I don't like too much attention from people either.
I'm an 18 y.o. virgin. I'm not really concerned about losing my virginity, but more about the fact that I can't really find a girl, who is humble, and dresses accordingly, and at least moderately looking and moderately intelligent. I may be looking in the wrong places, but then again, my social cicle is pretty much confined to my only close friend I suppose, and I am not really looking into expanding it, I find it utterly meaningless.
And so, I suppose I'll never get a chance to show someone how much I want to give, or feel like someones wants me to come to somewhere, or cheer someone by my sole presence. Someone to really value me, to love me, other than my parents. The person who raised me (my parents couldn't look after me most of the time when I was young, because they were working long hours) almost had a stroke the other day, and I didn't feel anything, not even fear that I might not see her again.
I mostly cope with things by myself. My mother told me that my father believes that he has lost contact/his year with me (I can't translate it any better, but what he basically said he didn't say it in a bad way, nevertheless, made me feel like a dissapointment).
To the ones that made it so far, thank you for reading this edgy as shit post of mine.
All I can think after writing this, is this: What's wrong with me? I mean, I am the one who can't develop healty relationships, not the others.
Am I cold at heart?
Please help.
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I was thinking about using a dating app/website. Haven't really had good experiences with Tinder and/or Bumble in the past. Can anyone vouch for a service like Zoosk? Was thinking about possibly subscribing to that.
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I used okcupid and pof and neither are really worth using, but okcupid is far better.
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Evening, /adv/, I'm gonna apologize for this unstructured mess of a text in advance. Props to you if you make it to the end.
So, I'm a 22 y/o virgin and I want to change that. The ultimate goal would be to somehow get into a meaningful relationship with someone whose company I really enjoy, but since I've never actually tried to initiate contact with women, and I'm scared to death of communicating feelings, or even just interest clearly, that's far off atm.
So I'd rather ask my fellow residents of the local Korean Herpetology Forum (tm) for advice, since it's unlikely I'm gonna be able to follow through on the advice of some hyperthymic normie Tony Robbins-esque blogger.
I'm gonna put some things down that I think I'll have to do to start fucking, and you correct me.
Step 1: Move out of my mom's metaphorical basement
Step 2: Expand my social circle by finding nonsolitary activities that I enjoy. (Hobbies atm include making music on the computer, playing the Saxophone/ Piano, reading and vidya. Also being on the internet too much, even though I hate it)
Step 3: Renounce my stick figure aesthetic. Possibly combine steps 2 and 3 by joining sports team.
Step 4: Find out which type of girl is most likely to be attracted to me. Figure out what the ones that I'm into are into.
Step 4: Subject myself to possible rejection by
either talking to random qts on the street or asking girls in my newly humongous social circle.
Step 5: ???
Step 6: Profit
I'm neither overweight, nor especially ugly. I've got a bad case of resting bitch face though and I've always taken several eons to open up to people. Can provide pics, in case you want to help me up the rest of my overall
A E S T H E T I C S.
Guys pretending to be grills are especially welcome to help. Thanks in advance.
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>>18478028
Rape
What's that? You don't have the balls?
Then Kill yourself you fucking loser, you will be a virgin till death
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>>18478094
Charming, I almost forgot which site I was on. Nah, I'll pass, thanks. My life's pretty good without pussy anyway. Also, I'm not a complete lunatic.
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>>18478028
Tinder
swipe swipe swipe
MATCH!
"Coffee tomorow?"
Fuck on date 3.
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How to I get rid on external hemorrhoids?
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no surgery pls
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Push them back in
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How do I forget someone whom I told I love and she told me the same ?
She wants us to remain friends but I just can't
Any tips ? I've been thinking all this week about her without seeing her face once
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yo uare not supposed to forget. otherwise you'd just make the same mistakes again. iimmerse your self in your life. dont leave a dull moment. this will help you focus on her less at the very least
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>>18477964
> forget someone whom I told I love
You don't. You never forget. Sometimes it hurts, but it hurts less when you're balls deep in the next girl's pussy. The key to getting over one is to get laid by the next one.