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What illegal ways are there to get to Japan? I mean if I don't have a passport, or if I have a criminal record that doesn't look good to the japanese authorities?

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This is a very big situation, so I need to simply everything into short sentences.

> I'm a computer science student, bachelor. two years left.
> I owe my dad one month's rent, for car fixing. in total, about three month rent.
> I don't live in a big city, the closest city is 25 min away with car. Everything around me expect that is pretty much green and no life.
> I have no part-time job.
> My grades are awful and I'm missing out on two subjects. bachelor is normally 3 years.
> My car is worth about 8-10 worth of rent.
> I live at campus.
> I hate where I live, but I need to finish my bachelor.
- My dream is to live in a big city, maybe outside Norway, maybe japan or south-korea.

I have economy problems right now. I owe my dad, my grandparents and so on. Should I sell my car before anything more bad happens to it and try to study day, evening and night at campus to achieve my dream of top grades and live in a big city?
Or keep the car, have a part-time job and still try to improve the grades? Any other suggestions?

I'm so worried, depressed and thinking really hard what to do. What should I do from here?
Help me please, thank you very much.

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I turn 20 in a couple of weeks. A group of normies that I have known for years have invited me to a party - the plan is to drive up on my birthday and have a party at his new flat the day after (two of his flat mates have their birthdays then too). There are two issues: my cripling social anxiety and the fact that I don't like some of the normies that are going with us. I get fairly severe panic attacks that include sweating, shaking and loss of speech control. One of the people I am driving up with I have had issues with in the past (my friend has told them to stop, but he generally does nothing during when he is being rude to me and prefers this person to me). Another of my '''friends''' is usually nice to me, but will make jokes at my expense when trying to impress a girl.

I feel like if I just stay home for my birthday, either on my computer or do something with my family I will feel even more depressed - out of my teens and having achieved nothing. Equally, I don't know whether the people I come up with are going to ignore me at the house party or whether I can keep my anxiety from making me look like a complete weirdo.
Help pls

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Hey, in one hand i got this lovely gf who lost her virginity at the same time than me and representing love, affection and support.
And in the other hand there is a world of whores who i am attracted to, representing sexuality, passion and the emotion of the hunt.
I just don wanna choose anything, since both quit me something that i like. But maybe thats just how options work.
I am here just to read more than just what i already heard ( aka FUCK BITCHES BRAWW XDDDD) but if there is nothing more than that i think i can accept my destiny.
Thanks for the read.

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Hey /adv/
this is gonna be rambly so bear with me.

Me and my girlfriend of a year broke up Thursday. I was pretty torn up about it because she said it was because she couldn't do LDR in college (it was a 4 hour drive to go see her). but I told her when we broke up that she can't text me until sunday, but I ended up texting her saturday to give her back her things. She asked me if we could meet up today and I agreed. The last few days have been essentially no contact and we're gonna end up talking today at a neutral spot. What can I say to win her back? I know she loves me and is probably hurt that I didn't even want to talk to her and have been on a few dates already. but I still miss her and want her back.

Pic related. it hurts inside.

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I've been in love with my best friend for years. He's known that for a few months but has toyed with those feelings by kissing me even tho he has a gf. He's told me he has a bit of feelings towards me but I know it doesn't compare his love for his girl. The situation has made me depressed and I don't know how to get over him

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/adv/, recently I've started finding porn pretty distressing. It alters my mindset for the days following the episode also, making me much more socially anxious and generally a weirdo but although it is distressing, it is also enjoyable. In a strange way i enjoy watching it but its effecting my relationships and every aspect of my life. Does anyone else experience this?

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I really want a penpal. How do I do this safely? Should I get a PO Box? Where are good places to get penpals? I'd prefer the person not to be from the US.

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Hi /adv/ just got home from uni for summer and pretty short on cash at the moment. Been matched betting a little bit on the side to try and make some extra dough, but looking for other ways that i might be able to make money on the side while im looking for a part time job for the summer. If you got any good ideas/tips/schemes for making some cash i'd love to hear them.
TIA

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I've been having discomforts in my scrotum the last few weeks. Went to the doctor, described my symptoms, and he said it was nothing bad judging by what I said. It's most likely me worrying about nothing, as I have a bad tendency to do that.

For 2 weeks I had no problems, but now the issues came back. A bit of "general discomfort" and a swelling near the epididymis a little while after mastrubating. He told me that I could comw back if the problems returned, but that a physical check would be neccesary.

This is what's keeping me from going back to the doctor. Honestly I'm a pathetic virgin who gets scared at the thought of anyone seeing my dick.

Should I wait for a little while to see if it goes away? It's only been 2 days since it's back, and it might go away in a few aswell. It doesn't really hurt and it might be related to my biking and mastrubating habits, so I could see how change in that would affect it.

Or should just go, and if so how do I stop being a pussy?

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Computer science or electrical engineering. What should i study? What would be my job prospects in both fileds?.I live in Estonia so I`m in bad luck because we dont have a Sillicon valley here and there is very little manufacturing going on, so I guess i`d better choose something completely different(like healthcare or the army), but I really want to choose either CS or EE. I`m not chosing computer enginering because I think that it offers much less jobs than software development(especially web dev), while with EE i`m thinking that i could come in handy in a variety of places, not to mention I could just start out as a simple electrician with a degree(thus more qualified and more promising career). But i`m scared to take EE because it`s engineering and I`m afraid I will suck at it, because it`s kinda hard right? Also there are little engineering jobs here, but more front end web dev jobs(which I sincerely hate).
So please help decide my future because I do hae to make a decision fast and I dont want to fuck up my life. Thank you!

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TL;DR I paid a contractor 35% upfront and now he's flaking. Found out he's done this to other people as well. I have a decent amount of dox on him, but really just want my money back. Not sure what to do once he officially goes silent.

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Is not knowing what you want to do a sign of a lack of discipline?

I'm 1 year into my job post-uni in a paper pushing fluff job that a monkey could do.

I went to a top 10 Uni for engineering cause immigrant parents, failed for years in the program cause I was immature, was shit at it, and also just fucking hated it, and graduated with a bullshit liberal arts degree so I could at least say I graduated college instead of dropping out of school all together.

Now I want to blow my brains out every day and I still don't know what I want to do with my life. I hate what I'm doing now, the thought of doing what my boss does years from now makes me gag, I'm scared of taking on more debt for grad school (for what I still don't know) and I'll have the chip on my shoulder and shame of failing engineering, disappointing my parents, wasting their money and fucking my future for the rest of my life.

Meanwhile most of the people i associated with seemed to know that they wanted to be software engineers, consultants, bankers, architects or whatever right from birth and are now very successful.

What do?

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Let me tell you about my story because I don't think I'll write one after.
I'm a manlet in his 25, I'm a psychologist, I have a really beautiful girlfriend (no, I'm not exaggerating she's really beautiful) who's a psychologist too, we've been together for seven years now, we plan to get married soon. I have a great job, I'm also a musician, I have a band with my friends and we play every week. I play the guitar, the piano and I make music on my computer. I've met my fav artist and got to party with him. I live in a small town with a lot of greenish landscapes with a beautiful sight. I have a cat, who's an asshole but I love her. I'm going to Europe soon with my girlfriend after getting married, we're going to live over there.
My life is something you can call a happy one. But I have a struggle. There are several times where I can't get fun or happiness, even when everything's okay my mind can't bear everything and I just want to be alone with the thoughts that are destroying me. I can't enjoy anything, I can't think of positive things, I can't smile anymore.
Yesterday I thought about killing myself not because I was sad, or depressed (maybe I was, but clinically I don't fit in the depression diagnosis), is just because I didn't find the point in living anymore, it didn't make sense to me, it doesn't make sense now either.
What's the point of living? There's absolutely no proof that we're going anywhere after death. And when you die, there's only memories left, memories that you'll never think again because you'll be dead. Death ends everything, death gives you rest, and I'm tired.

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I am an Australian graduating soon with a bachelor of science in biochemistry. I have a couple options moving forwards, there is a research group I have done work with that wants me to do a post-grad with them which would come with paid casual work but I have come to the realisation that currently I am only keen on getting as much money as possible as quickly as possible.

What job or career could someone from my position go into if they wanted to earn as much money as possible in 5 years (I will be 30 by then)?
How would I find this out, who would I talk to?
The people I am surrounded by are the kinds of people who do things for passion and telling them I just want a lot of money would be like telling them I want to sell kitten meat to school children.