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that's a nice react.

care to elaborate? most threads up atm are pretty bad, so you're welcome to talk to us.

>>18495672
>I bet everything on what I tried to do.

Congrats, you're more alive than most. True failure is to never have made the effort. Try again until you get a little traction, then exploit the shit out of that.

>>18495687
I graduated highschool literally at the top of my class.
I went to college.
Somewhere in there I fucked up and broke down.
I went into reclusion for a few months

I got out. I did good. I went to college again.
I got a degree half-assed like in fucking social sciences.

I graduated top of my class with a useless fucking degree.
No jobs.

So I decided to go military. Because they at least can appreciate the bottom dregs of intelligent people.

I join up a year ago. They say wait a year.
So I do.
I barely scrape by for a year without a job or a future. Or anything at all to live for.

Now they tell me "Sorry, we're full".
I waited 18 months for that fucking message. I gave up everything to hear that.

I'm so done.
Everyone told me I was supposed to be something.
I have a mensa fucking certificate from when I was 13.
Now I can't even get a fucking menial labour job.
All I can see when I sleep is everyone saying "Your'e going to do something special".

>>18495666

Yes you're right. Millennial's experience the same levels of anxiety that psychiatric patients experienced in the 50's. Especially with the rise of Facebook and other social media it makes it so much easier to see what other people are doing and creates the need to fit in. Don't feel like you need to fit in OP. The best advice my Granddad told me a couple days before he passed is. "Step back and look at the bigger picture and the future. Don't follow the pack, Think ahead and plan."

Don't feel alone, feel glad that you're not caught up in the niche of being in such a big group of fake cunts.

>>18495767
Would deleting of social media fix this? I only have facebook and that's about the only serious social media presence I have, and I notice that I'm way happier on days when I dont check it. But I feel people are so used to being connected that if you aren't then people equal it to you being dead.

>>18495767
Thank you anon. I feel like in the past couple of weeks I have had so much self realization about how much anxiety and shit I always felt.
I used to think I understood stuffi
like what you're saying, and I thought it was cliche. But I feel like now I've finally taken a step back and actually read it and it legitimately makes sense. I guess cliches are there for a reason.

Now that I'm finally motivated to improve things, does anyone have any idea how I can hold onto that high moral? I don't want to sink down to where I was again.

>>18495563
Never believe woman's words. She's not interested. Move on. Look at her actions, not words.

>>18495750
You're fucked

Basically she's 100% self centered and you're just a pawn, she's using you to discover herself and gives no fucks about your feelings.

I say you're fucked because looks like you're in love.

You can either soldier through it and try to get her back, or move on.

As it stands rn, she gives no fucks about you and is looking for another dude. Sorry man.

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>>18495750
>>18495754
Well she was sending me pictures of herself wearing one of my shirts around her house last week... and a month before that she was in my bed taking a nap in my arms and giving me cute kisses on the cheek that I was too nervous to try pushing further into making out or having sex... if it wasn't the wall of friendzoning text, I'd think she was definitely still interested.

17/f also said she would take 22/m to court over this if anything was leaked ( doubt she would but dont know for sure)

Uh, yeah. Stop that until 18/f

>>18495544
Just out of curiosity the photos that the 17/f sent were not nude but butt was covered by underwear and was also wearing a top at the time

To make the people you care about, the good-hearted ones that you deem worthy, happy.

I've been through a lot and I've thought long and hard about this. It's the only thing that makes sense to me.

I just wish I knew more such people.

>>18495524
Get more shit, collect more stuff, make people jelly about your life.
Enter into a healthy rivalry with someone on your neighborhood.

>>18495641
This will not make you happy, it will delude you into thinking that but what you'll actually feel isn't genuine happiness, it's more of a mix between greed and pride, do this and sometime down the line you'll realize that it was pointless and stupid.

>>18495515
Ice cream date is borderline trying too hard. Can you think of a more casual thing to do? What are you going to do after the 5 minutes are up and you've both finished your cones?

>>18495526
What are some better/more casual ideas? I'd just thought of that since our town has a good ice cream place downtown.

>>18495526
I was thinking about taking her out to see the new Transformers movie.

>to act like a horny animal and NOT STOP even if she says to or redirects my hand, but to try again in a few minutes, only actually stopping if she FIRMLY resists or tells me off

My question for you is, how, in the heat of passion, did you not just do this instinctually? Were you holding back for any reason?

>stopped me from undoing her pants
Like, with her hand while still kissing you, or with "no, don't do that"?. Those are 2 different things.

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>>18495468
>My question for you is, how, in the heat of passion, did you not just do this instinctually? Were you holding back for any reason?

I heard this last time as well, but yes, I hold back in the way that I don't rape every attractive female that passes me by; I don't want to do something that this person may not like. I suppose it comes from assuming she won't want it, or at least not as much as I do. A fear that it will ruin what I have put effort into thus far. Honestly, while it may seem weird to you, if you browse this board at all you'll notice many males have this problem. It isn't in our nature for us to force ourselves onto others, possibly because I used to have this delusion that if a female liked me and wanted to have sex, she'd say it? I learned recently that it is literally 100 percent on the male, which while I dislike I accept it.

>Like, with her hand while still kissing you, or with "no, don't do that"?. Those are 2 different things.

The former. The second time she said "Anon..." and moved my hand away while we were doing other things to each other.

Thanks for helping! I appreciate any input, especially from someone with experience.

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Bumping for help.
Here's a tl;dr

Almost at home base, how go from touching to fucking?

>>18495403
If it's tinder you were dumb as fuck not to meet

Plus she's probably retarded for sending emojis and shit over chat before meeting

>>18495414
It was not tinder

>>18495414
Fuck off w the emoji judgment.
Unless it's excessive and she doesn't ever communicate with actual words- it's become too common to judge based on that.

OP if you really like her have a talk about wether you and her are planning to get serious and delete tindr if you are.

She doesn't want to waste her time on a guy if he's looking around for other women/hook-ups.
Seems pretty simple.
Just communicate with her and put all the cards on the table.

Either your a fuckboy or you're looking for an actual relationship.
If it's not working out you can always put the brakes on her and re download the app.

Geez...

>>18495391

yes. hugs are really nice and so are smiles. sounds good, anon.

>she pats
>Is this good?

Nope.

>>18495391
Nothing can be deduced from this.

Adding onto this, I have received a 32 on the Science ACT, and a 26 on the math ACT, so math really isnt my strongsuit.

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Don't sweat it! Computer Science can initially be a very daunting task. If you are interested by CS and medicine consider looking to see if your school offers anything in bioinformatics. This is the use of applying CS to any number of biological endeavors, including but not limited to medicine. Also, I'd like to know what aspects of math you struggle with and what's your most recent class. If you struggle with the more formulaic aspects of trig and calc you shouldn't worry about computer science and bioinformatics. Higher level math and CS math, while more rigorous, is proof based and places more emphasis of understanding logic and practicing coherence. I would like you to talk with your academic advisor about this and get back to me with your thoughts :)

Thank you! That gives me a bit of hope! My thing is, I would like to be a doctor, but would also like computer science. I guess the thing about medicine that is daunting to me is the fact that the path is so rigorous and time consuming, and if I gave up/ didnt further education past premedicine I would be stuck with a job I dont like, it would be doctor or nothing if i went that route. I have never really stepped out of my comfort zone with math, though I have a very strong grasp on statistics and flew through that course

Step away from the screen

https://www.google.com/search?q=man+dies+from+computer+use

>>18495383
I tried but I am working rn, plus when I try to lay down away from electronics I get a bad migrane.

Take a melatonin, start at three, then go to five, then go to 10 if that doesn't work. Don't go above 10mg. Also like anon says, step away from the screen

>>18495351
The landlord, it's their problem to deal with, and they will want to know.

>>18495356
It is a business and this has happened before, an employee was blamed for bringing in cockroaches when he said they were in the kitchen in may.

>>18495359
>It is a business

Unless it's a huge company, the building has a landlord. BUT, if that's how they're gonna treat the person who points out the problem, fuck em.

Is there another business in the same building you could alert to call the landlord?

You need a permission to stop homewrecking? you posted a book by a French author, and the French love their mistresses. Just respect the boundaries I guess.

Fucking find someone else. There's lots of single people. Stop messing up other people's relationship.
>inb4 he's just going to cheat with someone else anyway
Yeah and do you want to be the person who ruined a marriage? And if no one finds out then what? You think he's going to divorce and be with you once he's free? Lmao

>>18495271

>known a guy long enough that he had more than one child during this span of time
>falling in love
>it's been at least 2-3 years if not longer
>he's married
>has kids
>send him long emails so he can jerk off

What do? Stop. You're going to ruin a shit ton of lives - his, yours, his wife's, his kids. So maybe you should stop trying to encourage a committed dude to cheat and damage several people just so you two can have your jollies for about six months before he gets bored, or caught.

What is your job

>>18495261
Basic retail position

>Find field with low barrier to entry
Any blue collar trade, IT (desktop support), truck driver, office admin, etc.
>Attain any basic qualifications needed for entry-level position
>Spam resumes non-stop until you hit and get an offer
>Work your ass off to elevate yourself past entry level

Alternatively, gamble what little money you have on crypto-currencies.

Depends. Are your friendos plebs or do they really care about music? How much do they really love music? Do they like it on a casual level?
If they are casuals or plebs they won't care no matter how great or weird or unique it is, I think.

>>18495224
Just play macintosh plus if they say they don't like it just call them plebs and tell them to wait for the good part

Play The Beatles. Even if you think The Beatles suck, they are lightyears ahead of the shit they probably listen to. Show them some culture. If they don't like the Beatles, fuck them. It's probably too good for them and the best they'll ever hear.
I'm saying the Beatles specifically because they are the most entry level music, the first step, but a lot of people don't listen to anything remotely close to their quality. I know enough people to assume it's safer to say someone I don't know is most likely a turbo pleb that isn't EVEN on The Beatles level of music knowledge.