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It's a form of control, she wants to control you and have you submit to her as well
I know what this is like so if I were you I'd start distancing myself and finding other fish. If you really want her you can play the game she's playing and make her want you instead but that wont work in the long term.
Find someone who wants you as much as you want them

Disagree with the other post, she's probably just repressed and has issues with body image an sexuality.
Does she have orgasms?
Maybe the sex your having is just bad for her and she doesn't want to bother with improving it

>>18499024

Doing this is no small feat but you should back off from seeing her. Girls say shit like that when they're getting too much of you so you're becoming boring and easily obtainable to them.

A girl wants to feel like she is the one lusting,not the one being lusted over and you can achieve that by displaying you're not satisfied and can walk.

>>18499003
There is a stark difference betwen recreational drugs and meds. Depression and anxiety drugs are not making you build tolerance, and are rarely addictive. There is hardly any risk for you to consoder not taking them, especially with such a severe condition, speaking as someone who has been on antideps and such for years.

>>18499011
I know there's a difference, but I just have some weird mental block. I can't explain it, but it's just some fear I have. I don't want to think I need a medication or drug to get through the day. I know it's retarded but I can't help it

I'd like to ask though, how is it initially after first taking them? Do you really feel a difference with your anxiety?

>>18499003

Mate, take the meds. I totally sympathize with not wanting to be reliant on them (I have ADHD and I take stimulants regularly), so use them as a tool to get yourself to an emotionally stable point where you can start to work at the core of your depression and anxiety. If you can afford it, look into Cognitive Behavioral Therapy with a psychiatrist and/or psychologist, because that's where you can really address the root of your condition. If you can't afford that, google an online program called Moodgym - it's an online CBT program that costs $30 for a year and is honestly pretty good.

One thing to know about Lexapro (and SSRIs in general). It takes most people 8 weeks to start noticing an effect, so you have to be consistent in taking them. You can't expect to pop one when you're feeling down and immediately expect to feel better. If you don't notice an effect after 8-10 weeks, talk to your doc and try another class of anti-depressant - don't get discouraged if the Lexapro doesn't work, there are plenty of other options.

That said, if it *does* work, don't stop taking them because you start feeling better. Use your better mood to start improving your life, which in turn will help to alleviate some of the stressors that are exacerbating your depression and anxiety.

>>18498988
There's nothing wrong with you. After break up those are pretty standard feelings. You spend so much time with someone, you get used to that, and now you have to adapt again, like after moving, or switching jobs, or any other change.

It hits hard, but it'll pass soon.

>>18498988
>5 years
youre gonna feel like shit for a while... a long while... a very very long while

>>18499033
What if I regret breaking up?

>6'4", white
>is it possible?

Lmao

>>18498949
somehow yes. I look like a fucking giant compared to others around me. It makes me feel singled out.

>>18498943
>6'4
Just change those gay ass glasses and wear something normal instead of a trash bag for a coat.
Get Tinder and I'm SURE you'll get some game going.

Also, is that OKcupid?

>>18498941
>Neither her nor me have a desire to do so
you sure about that?

dissatisfied women are the most likely to cheat

>>18498947
Dunno, I'm pretty good at satisfying, but she doesn't seem to want it

>>18498941
What's your problem? If you're both happy, be happy.

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>>18498914
wow thanks for being so descriptive op, really makes it easy for us to give you advice about fuckboys and bullshit

what makes one a fuckboy?

>>18498914
Dude shut your whiny ass up. A fuckboi is the female version of the word bitch. It could have so many meanings and definitions that the insult is more in the word itself than the actual meaning. Usually when a chick calls me a fuckboi, it means I'm not doing whatever the fuck she wants in that moment so she berates me. Just like when I call a woman a bitch, same thing.

What do you mean?

>>18498915
I mean how you got to know who they really were, and bonded over your similarities or differences. I feel like a stranger to everyone around me and it has left me with many acquaintances but no friends, I even feel like this with alot of my own family.

>>18498925
You can't really control whether there's that instant spark with someone or not. You either have it with someone, or you don't.

That said, I suspect that your issue lies more in a lack of social skills, rather than there not being that instant connection with someone.

Eating and bulking up is exactly what you have to do. Even if you can't eat big meals it's important to eat throughout the day and to get diversity in your diet (plenty of fruits and veggies -- water is important too).

If you're embarrassed about going to the gym, get some dumbbells and start working out at home. There are plenty of great resources on home exercises that can help you.

>>18498918
I was considering eating a ton more food and doing 5 sets of 10 pushups a day, as well as squats. Something I can do for about an hour every morning and eating 3 massive meals each day. Then going to the gym after a few months of this.

But like I said, is there anything I can do other than working out? My biggest hurdle is eating enough. If I'm out at dinner with family or on a date I can't clear my plate without feeling sick and bloated, sometimes I only eat 2 meals a day. I just don't get hungry and can't eat much.

>>18498926
Improve how well read you are, it should improve your vocabulary and knowledge to make you appear more intelligent. Plus it will give you a lot more to talk to people about, make you appear mature, and give you some ammunition when it comes to arguments in conversation if you can apply your words/knowledge properly.

Honestly, 20k isn't going to get you far

>>18498905
thats why im here

>>18498877
actually 20k can get him some what far, it can buy him a house. Op what type of engineering

>>18498869
she probably had another date that night

>>18498944
Oh and ended up liking him better? Yeah I could see that happening. Sucks, but it's just the nature of the beast I guess

>>18498869
Did you get anything?

>>18498867
>Looking for a way out nor involving a lot of trauma on those around me

such a 'way' doesn't exist.

even if you have only one person who gives a shit about you, you are going to be leaving a burning WHY in their head until the day they themselves die.

the only difference between being found OD after alone, and something else done near public is just the addition of a short term visceral trauma added to it.

Whats going on?

>>18498867
Go to school, work hard for a fews years, get a degree, find a job that makes you feel accomplished, you'll meet this girl that works there, shes cute, take her out on a date, then another, then another and then take her home, marry her, have a kid with her, get promoted and a raise, buy a house, a car, another car, and have another kid, get another raise, find a new job that pays more and could make you feel more accomplished, take your kids to soccer/basketball,baseball practice on the weekends and tournaments, watch them become young respectable adults as you grow old with your wife, see your kids get into college on academic and athletic scholarships, retire, see your grandchildren, write that book that you always wanted to, go to sleep one night and die peacefully in your sleep at the age of 85.

Long story short, I've been bipolar for years. Drugs help the ups and downs but can't afford drugs with jobs that allow drugs and can't do drugs on the ones that pay. Robin Williams was bellowed by millions and he couldn't take it , I'm tired of pretending that I'm not a mental case and the drugs they put me on steal my "soul" for back of a latter word

>>18498853
>not typical teenage shit
Weird, because the rest of your post sounds like you're 18.

>>18498857
Disagree, though this is pretty typical.

Chances are that if SHE wanted to you take her out again, she's probably into you, at least a bit. Unless you are the one who pushed the second date. If so, it's kind of a crap shoot.

It comes down to
1. You find her nice enough to give it one more shot and hope she opens up a bit more. This also let's her know you're trying and not just trying to fuck her.

2. You feel like she's too uptight to open up right away, and if so, are you willing to really wait it out on a girl you're not sure so sure about.

How did the second date go, aside from the lack of physical contact? Was she really timid or was she pretty receptive?
Be honest.

>>18498853
don;t send that text

never send a text like that
and stop going to movies dude, just like, invite yourself over with a bottle of wine and fuck

if she says no, you no she's not into you

The question is: have I been selling myself too short? I think you can find another cutie with twice her brains. Nevertheless, it's a gamble. You got lucky once, can you get lucky again?

>>18498812
Make an effort to try and enjoy the things she does. Women love their hobbies and opinions validated (we all do, but especially them).
I'll give you an example. I like watching pro wrestling and my girlfriend likes Doctor Who. We both agreed to give them a try together, one after another, and we ask questions and give caring about each other's show an honest shot.

Are you sure you're not just complacent? How would you feel if she decides she can find someone that loves her? That said, you make her sound like she's head over heels in love with you. Why don't you shape her to be the kind of girl you want to be?

are you so attention starved in your life that you were a clinger for 15 hours to these two?

>>18498817
What are you talking about? I see two people flirting and I'm just supposed to leave? I'm the one who even invited the guy in the first place, we went on a day trip as a group of friends. This was not a date that me and another friend forced our way into.

>>18498817
this lmao

"b-but they're my friends" is not an excuse to put up with this kind of behavior

>>18498837
so split into smaller groups

>>18498746
bump

>>18498746
Dunno about how deals are enforced in your country, but use that method if they don't pay within reasonable time after you send a final invoice.

>>18498888
usa, and it was a handshake deal