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Get a job and move out

>>18502864
Kill your mom's boyfriend and then establish dominance as the alpha male, thus ending the fighting between your mom and sister.

>>18502864
Get a job in summer
>save monry
>end your studies or whatever you are doing
>with your saving and rent a flat with some other guys (or you alone if you preffer.

I'm almost your age and I intend to do that

I'm fully aware that successful romantic relationships need sex - it's just that I really cared about her and I would have appreciated maybe a second chance or some support. Once again though, I can understand things from her point of view. By the way, for context, I am 19 years old. I'm healthy and physically fit. My apologies for neglecting to mention this earlier. Anyway...

So after her and I break up, I begin exploring different possibilities that could have caused the issue - because as you can imagine I was terrified of it happening again. The first thing I decide to address is my phimosis. (Foreksin too tight to retract over the head of my penis.) Because of this, I'd never been able to ejaculate from intercourse before. There was just never really any sensation for me. So, I try some stretching exercises initially, but because I had such a severe case, I eventually opted to get a circumcision. After the operation and after the healing process was complete, I wanted to see if I could finally achieve an orgasm through sex. I didn't have anyone to copulate with at the time, so I decided to simply hire a hooker. Anyway, I meet up with this hooker, we get down to it, and I get a boner, I have sex with her, and for the first time in my life I cum during penetration. (I could finally feel my cock being stimulated.

Fast forward, to the last few months of my life, I meet this girl I really really like, and we're hitting things off, and she asks me if I want to sleep with her. I make up an excuse as to why I can't, (even though I really do, I'm just scared that I won't be able to perform.). In the midst of this dilemma, I decide to consult my ex-girlfriend for some advice. (Please note, this is NOT the girl that broke up with me after I couldn't get it up - this is a different ex-girlfriend.). Anyway, back when I dated my ex-girlfriend, nothing bad ever happened in regards to my dick, and she's just a really lovely and understanding girl. So, I tell her that there's this girl I want to sleep with, but how I'm nervous about not being able to get hard. (This all came as a surprise to her, seeing her and I had such a good sex life in our past relationship.) Anyway, after I pour my heart out to her about how conflicted I am and how much it's all bothering me, she offers to let me practice with her to gain confidence for this girl I like. I tell her I think this would probably be a lot of help, considering I feel comfortable with her. (Legitimately so kind of her, I was absolutely touched that she would be willing to do that for me.)

Anyway, her and I get down to business, and everything goes fine. After we made out, I got a semi, and I did have to get her to blow me for a few seconds to get fully hard, but after that everything went completely smoothly. Despite this, I still just couldn't bring myself to try things with the girl I really liked. I was just absolutely mortified at the thought of me failing again. I just think about how I felt when it happened with my ex-girlfriend (the one that broke up with me over it) and it just kills me inside. I never want to experience that feeling again.

Thanks for reading through my huge monologue, I really appreciate it. Anyway - fast forward to now. My theory on my erections is a mixture of performance anxiety and penile conditioning. I do not think that it is physiological as I wake up with erections and am otherwise young and very healthy. I started masturbating from a very young age, and developed unhealthy habits. For one, I have jerked off typically around three times a day, every day, from the time I was about 14 until just recently. Secondly, I have been watching increasingly deviant porn - obviously because I need to escalate to get the same rush. (Classic addiction pattern of behaviour.) Thirdly, I masturbated without lube all my life, and obviously this doesn't simulate natural sex. Fourth, I aggressively beat up my dick until I cum (death grip). Fifth and final, I never want to wait until I naturally get hard to masturbate, I always rub my dick while it's flaccid in order to get hard so I can jerk off.

I have tried no-fap for about a month, but I ended up lapsing and falling back into my old bad habits. Recently I have quit porn again, and stopped masturbation, but it just seems like a tunnel I will never be able to escape from.

Get a job you fucking bum.

>>18502744
By filling out an application. Fucking McDonald's will get you that

>>18502744
200 bucks in ETH

Yeah, tell her. Then give her your debit/credit cards, you dumb fuck. Spending money on pixels, holy shit.

>>18502724
Tell her, relationship should be about honesty. If she's the right girl, she'll appreciate your honesty and you'll gain her trust. And if she won't aprreciate it... do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone with whom you can't be completely honest, who's not your best friend?

My boyfriend told me about some fucked up shit he was doing when we weren't together and which he did again twice during our relationship (not cheating per se, but similar to what you've done). It was awful, I cried, I was mad, but in the end I understood that he wouldn't tell me if he wasn't feeling guilty about it. And that it takes really decent and honest person to admit to wrongdoing just because it's the right thing to do. So I did forgive him and now we have a great relationship. He knows he can confide in me and I know I am with someone who is capable of admitting his own faults and mistakes.

>>18502724
Well, it could have been worse. If she is the one, she will slap your hard, take away your card and feel like dating IDIOT for few weeks, but should withstand it.

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>>18502667
It is called
>asking them on dates
Simply locate girl and ask her what is she doing on weekend. Then tag along or invite her for dinner. Dont forget condoms or be teen and pregnant.

Also dont stress the sex much. It is overrated as fuck. As far as your skin color goes, it is clearly advantage to be white.

Ask them on dates. Ir get their phone numbers and text them. The phrase
>netflix and chill
works too. Girls are as horny as you. They are jist conditioned to hide it. (The netflix part means sex btw)

If you ever get into her panties, watch few lesbian porns beforehand. Girls love to cuddle BEFORE AND AFTER the penis in vagina thing. Cuddle the shit out of her and lick her clit. If you make her cum with mouth before you insert, she will want to repeat the experience all the time.

Good luck!

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thanks anon, I really appreciate it! what would you say is a nice idea for a date? I mean Christ I'm only sixteen so I don't make much money and I can't get a job with any shitty qualification skill whatsoever? what else should I do? (also pic related that's me)

>>18502667
Are you tall?
Are you white?
Do you have a face that's at least average?
Are you neurotypical?

If you answer yes to all these questions then go talk to girls and you'll eventually find a gf.

If you don't fit the requirements then don't even bother interacting with them.

why didnt you kick her out when you broke up?

No license to drive, no job, her car was failing smog. Just giving her a home to live in while she gets her shit together.

>>18502605
this
>>18502609
not your fucking problem anymore.

fuck her friends, find new friends. my ex got MY friends who should have known better, to believe a bunch of bullshit and then they all got off stabbing my tires multiple times. fuck them.

I apologise if this is unintelligible. It is too late

Do you really want a girl who has not only been with, but is currently dating, someone twice her age? And on top of that, she's borderline unfaithful. Your dad must think she'd be a good practice girl for you.

Use her only for practice and ditch her.

Traumatized*

Is this bait?

>>18502501
It's a poorly executed bait, I'm afraid

>>18502500
>friends with benefits

Fucking degenerate.

Disgusting pic BTW

>>18502297
It's okay to be afraid. Anyone would be if they'd experienced what you have. It's okay to let yourself feel that fear. Your body and brain are trying to make sure you're safe and protected--they're doing their job. Your job is to let yourself feel the fear but then do it anyways. You have to decide that you want to be the kind of person who doesn't let fear dictate their life

>>18502297
To get over it you just have to do it.

I have anxiety and driving can trigger me. I can do it, but going to fast or people passing me up because I'm not going 20 over the speed limit makes me fucking nervous as hell. I can't drive well at night either because that scares me too. I'm 23. And this is just one of the many things that cause me to have fear and panic. Being passenger also sucks.

Yeah driving sucks at first, see if you can get your family to pay for you to get lessons from a driving school.

kys it's the only solution

What makes you think you're entitled to a good job with a good income if you've put in zero effort into getting it?

>>18502349
Effort ?

im kinda in a similar situation...where my gf told me i'm aloud to have sex with another woman as long as i tell her who it is. I'm kinda worried about actually doing it...we haven't had sex in like months though so im starting to think this might be my only outlet..

>>18502280
Let her pick the girl maybe. Then she can't read into your choice so much

>>18502280
>will this hurt our relationship?

Depends on your relationship. If you two are emotionally secure and trust each other enough to handle that, then you should be fine. If not, I wouldn't risk it.

>where do i get a girl who will do it?

One of her friends, obviously.

I got my first hookup (had sex before, but always in a relationship) few days before I turned 22. I immediately realised that it's not for me and despite my hopes I can't be emotionally satisfied by sex alone. Now I'm back to being sad and tf when no gf stage.

Rather cuddle than hookup

t. 22 going 23

The older the girl the more of a roastie she is

>>18502050
Its hard the first day, libido dips from day 2 to four, start getting fuller erections around day 5. Ive never made it past a week

Well I just had my last fap session for the night so I will give it a go and try to wait a few days. I have a date at the end of the week and wanted to see if that will help my libido or not

It's fine if you've been fapping too much and want to regain some lost energy/drive, but after a bit it just becomes distracting and frustrating. Just do it whenever you are really horny (Not just to pass time or feel good even if you don't really need it).

There's no harm in trying it and seeing how you feel. Personally it makes me feel worse in general.

>>18501938
Feeling should be mutual. No such thing as me getting some in my relationships

>>18501938
Sex assault and sex harassment are both funny.

Kick ur friend in the balls and tell him to cut that shit out.

>>18501938
Forcing you to suck or jerk him is sexual assault.
Deciding to leave if you don't want to is not. Neither is him wanting a solely sexual relationship and if you aren't going to put out deciding it's not worth even talking to you. Is it immature? Probably, but he's not obligated to have anything to do with you for any reason.
He only crosses a line when he physically forces you to touch him in a way you are not consenting to.

Do you know any far-right groups in Poland ? You can start your chances there.

Most of these people are actually sick and dead inside. Why bother associating with these pricks?

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john cena are you sure about that meme