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>>18507618
What's the actual problem OP? You're not giving any detail there or asking for advice. You sound convinced but that's how bounded rationality works anyway

>>18507766
I'm just so lonely. my only friends are like these 3 people I've known since HS and I never developed the social skills to meet people after + autism. I'm behind in every developmental skill and it's impossible to catch up. my entire life is fucked. I want to meet girls and do fun things but I'm a fucking loser of life

>bf
>I jacked off

Well apparently you're gay, and someone complaining about know about their partners masturbation is gay as fuck, so apparently everything is normal here

>>18507510
if you are sexually unsatisfied then no, it's a failed relationship from the start.

Some people share a mutual attraction and really respect one another but a dull sex life can and will ruin the relationship. This in most cases can be salvaged fairly easily, but he has to make an effort to be less of a prude, and if he cant do that then it's probably not worth it in the long-run.

>>18507537
I am a woman. There isn't a good female equivalent of that phrase.

Yo, if everything turns around a girl for you, well I've got bad news for you.
How about you fix yourself, or even better, accept your mental state. Try working on that first. And guess what, you won't be able to if you keep your mindset like that. That girl is just a reason you've made up so you can blame whatever is not working in your life on.

>>18507495
>Depression
What I've been told is to continue fighting. I've been told that fighting keeps your brain active and staves off even worse depression. The more you keep active, in spite of the feeling of sputtering out, the more likely you are to succeed and find something that lifts your spirits.

That's the canon atm.

>>18507515
I wish it were that easy.

We went outside, like she wanted. At first, it was all fine, I was smiling, not saying too much but still. Then we sat down and I put my hand over her shoulder. She didn't really do much but that's fine, we were with one of her friends so it's whatever. Then some kid, maybe like 5-6 years old came and she teased him. I got somewhat angry. We decided to go to some other place. She held hands with that one friend of hers. This is when my blood really started to boil. I was walking either in front or behind of them, i wasn't smiling, my back was slouched, I was starting to get all of these thoughts in my head. Her friend decided to leave, thinking that she was the problem and that we should be alone. She was partially right, but the biggest problem I had now wasn't that.

I was worried that she didn't like me anymore, that she doesn't love me anymore. I have no idea why I acted this way, recalling these moments it seems as if I was a kid on a tantrum, getting angry because I'm not getting what I want. We sat down, just her and I and I asked her

"Did you lie to me yesterday?"
"No."
There was a pause.
"Are you happy, do you want us to break up?"
"No."
Another pause
"Do you love me"
"Ofcourse"

I was on the verge of breaking, I was tearing up, I felt myself falling apart. But it got 100x worse once I got home.

How could I let myself be controled by my emotions so easily? How could I be so childish? These thoughts have been haunting me for days now. They simply won't go away. I feel destroyed, I feel pathetic, humiliated. I want to be a better person, no, a better man, but I acted so childish and instead of letting my logic guide me I let my emotions guide me, which then ended up breaking me. How do I learn from this? How do I stop making this mistake? Will telling her my feelings help me?

I haven't felt this terrible in a long while, anons.

Anyone? Anyone at all?

She wants you to dump her because she does not want to go through the trouble of it.
Just do it OP, do what she wants.
These types of people are just going to drain you until you have no more love to give and become an empty husk than they will move on.
It is clear by the way she is acting that she is not into you anymore i just do not get why she is bullshitting about it.

Is there any particular reason why it would be too hard to tell him bye and give him some sort of closure?

Yeah, just *gently* press the "Block Contact" button.

I was sad after a breakup, I led him on, he thinks I like him (I did for like a day lol) and wants to meet in person. I want to avoid this. I guess I'm too pussy to let him down formally. Been trying to piss him off and distance myself in hopes he finds someone more interesting to talk to.

I just wanna buy neat shit and make neat opportunities available for the people I love

>>18507394
Explain.

>>18507395
My family, my gf, my friends, just people I care about. I want them to live comfortable but bravery encouraging lives. It's easier to explore and grow if you don't have to worry about other shit, and I want to offer that so I use that as motivation to keep working

Girls, would you care if your man drank only sweet, fancy drinks, considered to be designed for females?

>>18507383
Not at all. That's a weird insecurity to have.

>>18507415
i'm not insecure. Just asking, mostly out of boredom

>>18507334
How old are you anon?

>>18507334
Got a receiving hairline, pale skin and my bmi is like 16 (195cm/56 kg). I look quite ok if I made my hair but photos do creep me out especially at daylight. I've also got strong facial features (as seen on your picture) but not the jawline.

>>18507334
Pic or ur a fgt

Probs start by stopping browsing 4chan

Listen to Chapo Trap House.

by talking to normal people.
especially, intelligent normal people.
discuss your ideas with them. Look how they refute your arguments. You'll see the errors in your thinking.

>mosquito
Doubt it, yes, get it check out, it's disgusting, wait 3 weeks first though, don't wanna appear unmanly

>>18507228
ty Doctor anon, it's super gammy, I'm hiding it at work. It doesn't hurt or anything. And it was a mosquito, I killed it.

>>18507266
Good job, fuck mosquitos

>>18507205
you think that the problem is your past and the way you feel about things, but the problem is your behavior obviously

>will any sane man do anything with me
not until you change your behavior

How fit?

I want to stop my current behavior, and I think simply having someone to talk to would help a lot. But anytime I start talking with someone I like, they eventually notice the awful things about me and run for the hills, which makes me relapse harder. I've been in and out of rehab, and have talked to men when I have been clean with a straight head, but heartbreak kills me and I relapse. I know its pathetic. I don't think that my past is the problem and I know its my behavior, I only mentioned my past because it is a main factor as to why I get anxious when talking to good men. I guess I should have left it at " i get anxious when talking to men".

>>18507104
I'm 26 and make the same as you though only 1k left on a loan.

So here's to life not being quite what I expected

>>18507104
stop fucking drinking and gambling

and earn more money

/thread

at least buying alcohol gives you drugs rather than pissing into the wind for no goddamned reason. alcohol is a drug that always borrows happiness from the future to fuel happiness in the present.

basically you a goddamned sukka right now bro

>>18507151
>alcohol is a drug that always borrows happiness from the future to fuel happiness in the present
That's some good stuff

>>18507026

I want you to stop thinking for a whole moment. stop thinking about the downfalls and the pitfalls and the what ifs, and the 'thats not cools' and anything rmeotely negative.

instead of thinking in consequence think right now, what would you like to do? do you want dinner?? do you want a house party? do you want a pub? or do you want lasertag?

>>18507026
I'm 29 and most of my birthdays consist of going to get dinner with some friends and then hanging out at home drinking. You're still young so partying it up is viable and I suggest you do so. Throw parties, go out to bars, etc.

That being said, a good friend wouldn't mind hosting a party at their house. I wouldn't mind it if a friend asked me if I could host it at my house especially if I knew most of the attendees. Have activities planned that everyone can play (drinking games are great for this) or just accept that your party is more of a kickback and less of a "party".

Big public park at night with drinks and cigs (Very recommended) or something of the sort
A club
Pub tour

>>18507010
>history major
>45k debt
Lord help you. Work for a school I guess, most schools are desperate for teachers, which explains why our education system is so shit.

>>18507010
wew dude fell for the history meme

>>18507010
I don't know if it's a possibility in your country, but you could try to work as a tutor.

>>18506981

>whats the most reliable way to lose weight

there are literally only two ways to lose weight outside of surgery.

>Diet
>Exercise

Diet is the most effective but as a general rule, you use both. this is not news to you, you know this, you just dont want to diet and exercise.

get your meals down to 1500 calories a day. then run for about 20 minutes as well

CICO, keto, intermittent fasting

>>18506981
>the commoner
the commoner probably has a few things up on you, namely not being a 4chan boy

>my past rest in piece
stop talking like an anime and use specifics. language is supposed to convey information, not general vibes bro.

>the most reliable way to lose weight
-eat small meals frequently if you are exercising
-eat small snacks frequently *and that's it* if you are inactive

There you go. There are the keys my man. If you want to talk more about your past, please be specific.

Also, I don't want to seem patronizing here, but here's a tip you might need.

Good
>I enjoy watching anime.

Bad
>Anime is superior to western media.

One makes you sound like an enthusiast with special hobbies and the other makes you sound like an undesirable.

You might be thinking
>Losing weight is not as simple as you put it
but yes it is. It definitely is. I'm gonna restate.

If you are exercising: several small meals
If you are not exercising: several small snacks

If you don't eat the goddamned excess calories then the goddamned weight goes away. Eating more frequent meals keeps metabolism high. Two meals a day at 700 cals might not even lead to weight loss, whereas four or five meals a day at 300 cals will almost certainly lead to weight loss in anyone who has heard of going for a walk.