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Humor is important. With humans doomed to work a good chunk of their lives and a large chunk of the rest of the time sleeping, good humor is hard to find/run into and so it really helps quality of life to be able to be clever and come up with jokes/references that make people smile.

Not many people can do that. It's a gift/talent. It's not even as simple as coming up with something objective. It's knowing where you are, who you're talking to, whether the moment is appropriate. I make my wife laugh a lot and this is one of the key elements that draw us to each other. I always tell her about the scene in "who framed Roger Rabbit" where the detective asks Jessica Rabbit what she saw in Roger. She said "He makes me laugh". It was retardedly simple.

You can't buy humor. You're lucky if you run into it and if you find it somewhere you have to take advantage while it's there. Movies are short and TV shows run out, but funny people really just constantly keep coming with funny shit because their personality stays the same.

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I think I learn a lot more from a presentation that's partly funny or otherwise interesting than just full of important things.

>>18698468
Here's one I've got for you: my girlfriend uses humor as a defense mechanism against trauma.

She was sexually abused as a child, but she found when she became able to joke about it (horrible edgy inappropriate jokes, but ones she found genuinely funny all the same) it helped her cope with the trauma. It minimized the damage a little because she could laugh at it. And she's exactly the same today. We've been dealing with a miscarriage in the last month or so. She's still pretty broken up about it, but I know she's on the mend because she made a "be nice to me I'm miscarrying" joke by sheer instinct to one of her colleagues. I thought it was hilarious because I'm kinda fucked up too, but the colleague not so much.

But there you go, that's an important way some people use humor, as therapy.

>>18698434
get the drugs fronted he knows you're good for it.

>>18698434
go on the dole

>>18698469
Dole?

>>18698465
I'd rather not have someone coming for my legs.

Yup, definitely. Taking your medicine always tastes bad, my friend, but you've got to do it if you want to feel better.

if thats what it takes for you specifically to digest meaning from the entirety of your experiences with her, then fuck yes.

is it like that all the time? no. is it like that for every girl? no.

>>18698347
You only have to do that if you're suffering because of the break up.

If it ended on a note you can handle,feel free to keep everything. Then when you get your next girlfriend she'll eventually dig through your shit and ask "who is this"
Then you can play it off cooly while she gets more obsessive over you

OP, you can actually contact any suicide hotline you want if the one you were calling has a long hold period. I worked for a hotline in a small county in CA and we had people calling in from Michigan and Wisconsin and shit and I'd talk to them.

The rate for mental illness is increasing. There is nothing to be ashamed of for seeking help.

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>>18698342
>she must learn how to not rely on me for her happyness,
>i wont ruin other families lives as well
So your happiness depends on others too...

How do I stop hating stupid people?
Is there really a reason why I should stop hating them?
I reject all forms of friendship with them

>>18698279
This too
Also lazy people, and people who won't grow up

>>18698277
You probably just enjoy having someone to look down on. There really isn't any reason for you to move past it since nobody's going to pressure you to change your views, like they might if you had the same attitude towards ethnic minorities or gays. However, you should be aware that, while hating people who you barely know feels great, it's a waste of time and energy. Try and keep it in check.

No problem

>>18698258
She thinks youre ugly and doesnt like you. Stop talking to her.

>>18698258
Either she's one of those chicks who loves to use words like "babe, cutie, hun" etc. because she thinks it makes her unique

Or she's flirting with you.

Ignore the two possibilities of friendly/interested once you're acquainted and treat everything as if she is interested.

If she has a boyfriend, so what, you tried.

You'd be amazed at how much your life changes when you truly stop caring about what others think.

>>18698234
Thanks!

>Gravy

If you want interesting gravy, add a little cinnamon.

If you want exciting gravy, add a little chili powder.

If you want crazy gravy, add a little vinegar.

If you want badass gravy, thicken your meat drippings with puree'd peppers and pizza vegetables instead of flour.

If you want regular gravy, just go on youtube and do what the search results say for regular gravy.

>>18698179
I'm having a similar problem. After many years of bad friendships and experiences, I've come to realize that most of them were somehow caused by me being myself - a shitty person, in real life or on the internet.
Not the "complete asshole who talks shit about people" kind, but the "annoying guy that becomes a bother if you get to know him too much". I do strive to be polite, but I feel like I'm only an okay person to be around in small doses, and that my behavior in general is rather childish and attention-seeking.
I've been trying very hard to build up that "quiet guy" facade, excluding myself from society and politely refusing any invitations to social stuff by people I've been acquainted with recently, to the point where nobody really talks to me anymore when I'm not somewhere we all gotta be for a while (like uni classes). I evade people and don't start conversations for fear of being a bother and never shutting up, because if I get to hang around with someone, I eventually become rather obnoxious; not to the point of being told to fuck off, but somewhere down the road where it's not quite unbearable, but not nice either. It feels even worse because at least being told to be less annoying straight away would give me some closure, but I'm never told anything and the doubt eats away at my self-esteem. Even when I do try to evade attention, I often think I sound like an asshole for not wanting to talk to people. Even so, my deeds and solidarity do make people happy sometimes, but I'm sure my personality never does.
I don't want to be who I am anymore.

You both have some pretty deep seated self esteem issues and should find therapists.

Internet words won't help

Whoah ive been having a similar realization also lately. After recently making a new group of friends i feel i can be offputting sometimes and i can't help it. One drunken night i was told i seemed unapproachable to people that didn't know me well. I dunno im trying to be less assholish but i feel i sometimes get these anxiety fueled dick moments. I guess im just gonna try to be more self aware, it entails some effort but it time to stop being lazy. Also, i have made an effort to at least act like im happy to see people i have no interest in talking to.

If you smoke a lot you can feel a little foggy the next day.

Drink a lot of water, eat right, and exercise

>>18698151
Deffs

#1: It's nobody's problem but that guy. He got a free ride all this time and now he's not getting one anymore.

#2: Looking for PAY is a complete joke in many places; finding work is no problem but money to buy food or pay rent with is a completely different story.

Shit sucks. Just be glad it's none of your shit.

>>18698082
Tell him if he doesn't sort his shit out and start applying for places in he next week then he's out, he'll soon realise how serious you are. If he gets off his ass and does something then problem solved, but if he jeeps being a lazy shit you know what to do. I wouldnt feel bad if you've given him enough chances to fix his situation and he still decides to do nothing. Good luck op.

This is crazy, I just got back from a friends house who's wife has a homeless/lazy brother who just will show up at his house, drink/eat everything like it was his own, then go to sleep around 6 am and wake up around 6 pm.

I basically told her that he is not forced to be homeless, it is by choice. He chooses to be a burden to other people because it is a good deal for him and there are no repercussions. The resources he consumes in their home is things that they bought with their own money, which is just their hard-work transformed into something more usable. He was literally having them work for free so he could be a piece of shit. They had gotten him 3 jobs and he only showed up for one job and only for one day before deciding that it "just wasn't for him". Remember this, it his HIS choice to not work, allow him the freedom to earn what he has put his work toward: homelessness.

Also, why do you think no one else wants to help him? They already learned the hard way.

offer good, well-rounded arguments
if you get an unexpectedly poor grade then confront him for being biased

>>18698068
Very well put, anon

Ever try asking her? Be direct and tell her it is alright if she doesn't want to date you but its hurtful that she is avoiding you.

That will either make it better or worse.

>>18698094
Fuck it why not, not like there's anything to lose anyway. Thanks

Unless you are having money problems do what makes you happy.

>>18697987
There's a hard truth to why autism pays more. You have to put up with a lot more, do more work and potentially put yourself in danger. The kids are also different as well as the learning material.

People can enjoy both for different things, my parents were both teachers and their love of teaching boiled down to the students of that year rather than their position or grade.

Do what you want to do, nothing says you can't do both or flip flop. And there's always a chance that you could be pre-k but have the ed/autism kids that are higher functioning or undiagnosed in your class whenever you're a teacher in public schools.

If you think that something this minor will permanently alter your teeth then just push the tooth back into place with your finger

>>18697973
That what you get for supporting the Genocide of innocent Animals, Murderer!

>>18698026
But without meat my empire will become too weak and conquered. Eating meat keeps us alive.

just get her naked and start feeling around her dont be a pussy

>>18697864
Buy some wine and watch a movie. Shoot close to her. Hand on her leg.. You get the point.

Take a viagra beforehand. Also practice using a condom. Buy a pack and practice putting one on.