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>>18522705
HIPAA (the Federal health care privacy law) applies to DOD but there are many exceptions to HIPAA. If the individual collecting the records is a member of the health care team (usually a corpsman in the Navy) and their job requires access to your record (such as if they are responsible for assembling your record for the physician to review - or entering your information into a computer) they fall under the "healthcare operations" exemption to HIPAA and will have access to your record. In general, anyone involved in providing you health care, including physical exams, will have access to your health records.

here is an article from a retired Air Force JAG with some specific information on HIPAA and DOD.

http://www.americanbar.org/newslett...ine_home/gp_solo_magazine_index/hipaamil.html

Generally they don't check your civilian medical records. They will try to get you to self-confess to any issues.

They will create a new medical record record for you from scratch. I believe you will be blood tested though.

You need to get help, because these things are literally impossible to beat on your own.

>>18522685
How do I go about it strategically so I don't lose my house? Who will take care of my cat? What do I tell my employer?
I'm so worried about anything and everything that could happen while I'm getting treatment.

>>18522681
The highest recovery rates for those with eating disorders are those who get involved with cognitive behavioral therapy. It doesn't require hospitalization. Just find a therapist who specializes in eating disorders. You won't have to miss work or find a cat-sitter. But you must be ready to reshape the way you think. You will have help with the process.

>>18522679
> I can't take a night to myself without him freaking out and sulking
Not your job to baby him

>red flag
red flag!

>If he's cheating
Well you have to define what cheating is in your own book, otherwise he'll just walk all over you while you accept it, because you know flirting and asking for nudes from another girl and getting them as well while already in a relationship... you get my drift right?

>How do I bring it up when he sobers up?
If it's that serious for you,as it seems that it is since you went through all the trouble by posting it on /adv/, just ask him seriously about it. If he dodges the question or accuse you of sleuthing and or cheating on him. Then all of it was just a game to him, he was never serious about the relationship. Then dump him and move on, be glad you only spent 2 months with him rather then say 5 years until you realize who he really is.

>>18522679
I would bring it up the same way you brought it up to us.

If he tries to guilt you for digging through his shit, you can say, "Yeah. That was wrong. But that doesn't dismiss the shit you pulled."

>>18522679
As a dude who has been married for 5 years, and loves the shit out of my wife, I can tell you I still flirt all the time with other chicks, but it's always in person, and never goes any further than that. No number exchanging, no dates, no nudes. Literally just being overly friendly, because doing so seems to cheer people up and make them more friendly, too. Might even give an ego boost.

In my book, there's a big difference between flirting with my dental hygienist while I'm in the office, and getting texts and nudes.

>>18522624
Observe how other people act. Act like that. You can even study movies from boring, mundane shit, like Romantic Comedies.

>>18522624
Stop trying to be cool or impress.
Check out you tube video featuring an interview with a guy called David Goggins.
Basically he spent all his youth trying to be someone else to impress people, eventually learned to be himself and work hard to better himself, ended up doing amazing things.
Basically the message is to stop trying to be cool. Be you. Find what you do like and work in that, find what you do like and use it as a strength

>>18522631
I usually copy how other people act , but thenbi start getting excited and start acting like a huge faggot.

>>18522642
I'll check out the video, but being myself is most likely not the best thing. I'm an attention seeking, hyperactive faggot and I don't know how to turn that into a good thing.

More info: She's from India, maybe even looks underage, but definitely a small body. She's mouthing off shit, and I can hear little snippets of "help" or "my parents are doing this" or something..

Seems like a serious situation if you ask me.

>>18522615
Damn right it is you cunt, this reeks of human trafficking, where should i go for this shit?

>>18522569
alcohol

>>18522574
I have tried that and it seems that I still have them while intoxicated

>>18522569
You desensitize yourself to them. Go out to a coffee shop, order a coffee, and force yourself to sit in the shop for 1 hour. Shit like that.

I don't necessarily care if I make a ton of money or work for big companies. I just want a job coding.

Another thing: If were to get some non-govt startup will i have to worry about sexual harrasement and all that considering the male to female ratio

>>18522562
It's not a bad idea because certifications can help you with your career, if you decided to have a degree later. From experience, I have a CompTIA+ certification which I use to pay off my community college. I'm 22 by the way and got it when I was 18 before my financial aid was taken away. Used my certification to bounce me backup. They are not bad because they show you have skill and experience. I advise that you take fast certification classes as they pay a dollar to 2 bucks more of the minim wage. I get paid $15 an hour to just check up on the wifi. Hospitals and medical companies are a good place to start.

have a kid. you'll long for these days of boredom

>>18522573
>having a kid for amusement purposes

You people make me sick.

>>18522556
>other guys seem like scruffy losers
That's probably a problem with your perception and not actually a problem in the other guys. Care to elaborate on what gives you this impression?

Boku no Pico.

MEGA MILK.

i have. its literally one of the 5 if not top 3 best decisions ive ever made. i had lasik not prk though

i have. its literally one of the 5 if not top 3 best decisions ive ever made. i had lasik not prk though

>>18522539
Not OP but, as a person who sits next to a screen all day and fucked up his vision that way, if I get lasik will my eyesight quickly drop down to what it was pre surgery if I continue to stare at a screen for 4+ hours each day or will it take a couple of years?

>>18522415
I'm 30, lonely and not married.

>>18522415

Lmao, life is way better for me now than it was in high school. I'm 27.

33 here, feel alone too. Not married or kids. Keep myself busy, work out, go where I want to feel some satisfaction. Just got out of a relationship with a girl 9 yrs younger for about 2 yrs, she feel out of love with me so I broke up the relationship. Most of my friends have moved away, as time passes I think it gets harder to make new friends.

How much of a friend of yours is he?

>>18522434
Known him 7 years since high school

>>18522472
The length of time you've known someone isn't the same as how much of a friend someone is.

>>18522359
Based on how you described yourself, there are a few reasons I think could be the answer.

#1
>Since you have watched and masturbated with porn since you were 11, it is very possible that you have grown more attached with the instant gratification it provides, and have a harder time feeling romantic. Google 'YourBrainOnPorn' for more on that possibility.

#2
>You like results, especially solid ones. Focusing on fitness and studies gets you fit and good grades almost assuredly. Watching porn is sure to get you around. People are not nearly as predictable, nor will they guarantee results you may want.

#3
>You are afraid of rejection. You may not even think you do, but it is possible. You don't have to open yourself up to porn in order to feel good. You do have to do that if you are going to be in a relationship with someone, and the thought of getting hurt because you let someone into a more personal circle of your life scares you away from pursuing a relationship, even if it is subconscious.

I hope I have helped you identify the issue you might have

>>18522422
Not OP but you got me at #3, however I'm not scared. I'm just worried that if another relationship goes south for me I might crack. And by crack I mean I may get physically violent cause I'm getting sick and tired of the biases towards women and dating and relationships, I really am, and while I'm not a violent person, I dont want to be pushed into that territory so I stay away from relationships. I'm too fragile to let a bitch suck up my time and effort and completely shred me before ditching me. I'm not the type to just accept that. People are on way too much bullshit these days for me to seriously invest in you.

>>18522456
Same here. I luckily never really got into dating because my life wasn't really stable enough to do so at the time. I have seen my mother try to redeem others she thought she could save, and have almost all of them stab her in the back and use whatever benefits they gained from her to get a quick high before going back to what they were. Best advice I can give you is that if you ever consider getting into a relationship again, do so with someone who is at peace with themselves, at least for the most part. Only problem is that people like that are usually very hard to find, especially if they are single. Good luck my friend, though you probably already knew the advice I had to give.

>>18522350

The real secret that no one will tell you that I also had to learn the hard way is that you had to secure those kinds of jobs during your summers while you were still working. Thats the only way you would have the 1-2 year experience that all firms now look for right out of university. I had the same problem. Did my major in economics and sat on my as trying to find a job after uni for 2 years, and worked as a tutor. After that I found a sketchy ass job finder/helper off craigslist that would lie for me about what I did (financial analysis) and got a starter job. Now Im in that air conditioned office job and all my co-workers and bosses are completely impressed by my work. The other thing I found out during this whole shebang is that recruiters don't know how to hire for shit

What'd you do while you were studying?

>>18522357
Yeah that whole experience thing is like a catch 22, I realized I should have done an internship when I learned everyone wants an experienced employee with a degree

>>18522338
my orgasms are weak af

>>18522338
mine are nonexistent

>>18522806
my sympathies, anon