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>>18524225
Get a router with parental controls or guest pass access and lock yourself out of all internet traffic during the hours of the day you're supposed to be doing shit.

If you're so far gone you start to bypass your own blocks you're beyond saving.

I don't think I want to turn my internet all the way off again. But I don't know that I can control myself with constant access. It's like I can't help but go out and look at stuff online, it's an uncontrollable urge when I'm on the PC (for the record, I also have ADHD, legitimately diagnosed by doctors just a few years ago, so that is a contributing factor). It's like when I know the web browser is there and ready, I just have to go and see what I can find out about. But I want to do other things with my time, like playing games or even cleaning, I just can't pull myself away. It's very frustrating, and I don't know what to do. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

>>18524232
I have tried locks in the past, but it was always done cold turkey. Then I would give up and turn them off after a week of denial.

Maybe time-locked things would work better, we'll see. But at this rate I might just cancel my net again, it'd be better than being stuck in this eternal cycle.

>>18524178
> Is a first date a failure if i don't get a kiss out of it?
Usually, no. But since you have been chatting a while apparently, she might have certain expectations about you in her head and vice versa. Maybe she expects you to kiss her, maybe not. This could have all been avoided if you'd asked her out before becoming her chatbuddy. Chances are very real that the real you won't live up to internet-you, or vice versa. Just a word of caution, I could be wrong about this.

> Is a first date a failure if i don't get a kiss out of it?
Right at the end, look her in the eye before saying goodbye and you should be able to tell if she's keen to kiss or not. Make sure to have some physical contact throughout the date, without being too cheesy.

>By the way, should i keep the date short in the bar and longer in the park? Or is the bar a better/safer place for a date in general?

If it goes really well (obvious mutual attraction), go to the park asap. Otherwise the bar is safer, neutral ground.

>Any advice for a first timer in the world of dating is welcome as well, thank you again.

Your absolute focus should lie on having fun. If you have fun, it'll be easier for her to have fun. The more pressure you put upon yourself, the least likely you'll be to actually enjoy getting to know her.

Also, don't project some ridiculously cool/interesting image of yourself. It's usually very obvious. Try to listen more than you talk.

Hey OP I was almost going to make a very similar thead asking some of these same questions right now. Best of luck with your date!

>>18524196
>Usually, no. But since you have been chatting a while apparently, she might have certain expectations about you in her head and vice versa.
Well yeah, we did chat for a while, but i have been careful to not basically DATE trough chat, only using it for brief and funny conversations, without revealing everything about me or asking everything about her. I've been careful about this, but yeah, i don't know shit about how these things work, so i'll trust you.
>Right at the end, look her in the eye before saying goodbye and you should be able to tell if she's keen to kiss or not.
I know i can't know without having experienced this, but is it possible for me to fuck this up or is it human nature to know if the other person wants to kiss? How can i tell? This is legitimately a good tip though, so thanks man.
>Make sure to have some physical contact throughout the date, without being too cheesy.
Any tips for this? Considered the kind of date i set up, how could i eventually get to light physical contact?
>If it goes really well (obvious mutual attraction), go to the park asap. Otherwise the bar is safer, neutral ground.
Yeah, tought this too, i was also thinking of starting at the bar (for either ice cream or coffee) and depending on how comfortable i feel, to move to the park.
>our absolute focus should lie on having fun
Can do, i guess once i'm in the situation i'll be way calmer than i am right now, as i usually do in other life's fields.
>Also, don't project some ridiculously cool/interesting image of yourself. It's usually very obvious
Pretty sure i never did, the good thing about this is that i've been completely myself, and i like me this way. No over-esteem nor low self-esteem on this
>Try to listen more than you talk.
Pretty good at this.

>>18524164
take his keys. call 911.

>>18524164
BRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAP

>>18524164
Beat his fucking ass. He's drunk, not like he can put up a fight. Fucking whoop him and take his keys. When he finally wakes up, punch him again.

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>>18524155

So she graduated from university, and I am very proud of her, but we have to admit even with all of the work she put it, it was an easier ride for her to get to that point than for me. But still, here I am fighting it out until the end.

She received her degree and has no desire to find work in her field. Suddenly a mental illness popped up and she sees a psychologist, but refuses to see a councilor or therapist. She doesn't do shit except sits at home and plays Neopets. She even bought a tablet for drawing in photoshop which she said she was going to use to work on her graphic design, but all she has used the tablet for is drawing neopets and entering contests. Which is fine. I think it is cute that she likes neopets. I think it is a much nicer community than 4chan, and I even play some of the games on there.

But, here I am working in my field already, I haven't even graduated yet, and she has no job. But, somehow, I am the moocher? But what really pisses me off is she said that she will do "housewife duties" when I find a job. And I am away in an office for 6 hours a day, and when I get home she hasn't moved. In fact she doesn't wake up until a couple hours before I get home.

I just don't know how to react to being called a moocher when I'm working my fucking ass off to make my life work, and I personally think I'm doing well.

>TL;DR gf called me a moocher because her family lends us money sometimes, but I'm taking on 2 internships and working in my field while also freelancing. She said she would cook and clean while I work, but so far has not done the things she promised. Argues with me whenever I bring it up. Don't know how to react.

>>18524177
>She said she would cook and clean while I work
Allright so yall living together? Seems like if money is tight in yalls family you guys wouldn't be fucking living together in an apartment. Why she cleaning up for you? She aint your wife and shouldn't be living with ya.

Sounds to me like you gotta break it off. Seems like she takes you for granted. She'll only hinder you. DODGE THE BULLET

And force your mum to be smart with money. Hell, don't give her any and ask directly from your grandparents instead of her.

>>18524126
go to the doctors

>>18524129
any idea whats causing this?

>>18524131
Probably your masturbation techniques. I remember having something like that after a few days I lived on my own for the first time. Was a good time, but I guess I edged too much to increase the pleasure at times. Try nofap to check this hypothesis, go to doc if it's same or worse.

>>18524077
No. But don't set your hopes too high for a response.

>>18524077
if your some what good friends then ya.

>>18524077
it is weird the fact that you haven't asked already

she wants your [spoiler]weed[/spoiler]
give it to her

>>18524107
thats the thing she told me that she didnt knew i was a stoner until i told her and ive seen her at parties where i went high as fuck because i couldnt stand being sober in a party filled with people that i couldnt give a fuck about.

i was legit surprised she didnt knew because if you judge me for the way i dress and my taste in music and the people i hang out with its impossible that she wouldntve thought that i was on something

so i should just ask her to smoke with me, what about that part about her feeling secure because i just met her last year and its not like we were besties back then or now so i dont know if she would turn me down

she did dance with me in a party, when i was talking to my friends she just grabbed me to the dancefloor

Why dont you just ask her?

>>18524068
Yes. I don't think I'll make it to 30 desu senpai.

It's normal if you're not a certain type of person.

>>18524068
Yeah. Honestly, you should be more suprised it didn't happen already. It never really goes away, just gets better for a while

>>18524049
stay in contact maybe ask her out in a week? she may need alittle bit of time but she seems to be into you.

>>18524067
What about the sexual part, do you think there would still be any room for that or are my chances completely gone? Also I appreciate you reading through that novel of text just to help me out.

>>18524049
she doesn't want a relationship and still smarting from the end of one and she likely still has feelings for that guy. She also knows you want more and she needs to cool things off because she only wants sex and entertainment occasionally not a full time guy.

It means it's time to move out of your parent's house, dumbass

>>18523998
^

Stop being an edgelord. If this is legit you're probably a sociopath, in which case, good luck with whatever legal trials you have in the future.

>>18523998
I believe I'm turning into a very volatile human-being, and I don't really care.

Outside of my family others do not matter to me. I chuckle and smile, but I do not see others as anything more than reflections of myself.

A part of me feels like it's time to die, but another part of me feels like it's time to enjoy myself with the lives of others. I just have to calibrate my brain further down the direction it's going.

>>18523818
Dude, you're retarded if she's going to feel any regret, or lose any happiness. She's literally bearing the other dude's kid.

>>18523818
don't ever fucking mention it
and forget it

You dodged a bullet. Married and pregnant within one year? Damn

>>18523787
I wouldn't mention if nobody else does. If someone does, admit you fucked up, and promise to never get that drunk again.

Also, never get that drunk again. NEVER lose control of yourself.

>>18523787
Start looking for another place to work.

>>18523787
Why remorse? Why quit? You giant faggot, you're looking at a promotion to her personal assistant soon if you don't fuck this up.

She's the boss for a reason. She's not the typical spineless woman. She runs shit. She knows what she wants and will take it when she wants it.

Her husband is the bitch faggot in this relationship since he was the one that left you two alone in the first place to get you drinks.

Be a man. Don't speak of it outright unless she brings it up, but don't start acting like a bitch faggot yourself. Hold frame, keep things at a professional casual level at work instead of avoiding her. Look her and her husband in the damn eyes. Flirt with her just a bit, and gauge what happens.

be upfront about it.

dont lead people on.

seek girls who are not ready for a relationship either

be Chad

Only approach obvious sluts, it shouldn't be that hard.

She feels secure in the relationship. Women use tools like oral sex to nab a guy, and once they're sure they've got him, they stop using the tools, because why bother? That means she sees you as safe, which means she doesn't consider you above her anymore. You have to introduce some insecurity back into the relationship, as crappy as that sounds. Improve yourself in some way that makes you more of a catch, either physically or financially or mentally, and make sure to check out other women in front of her, so that she knows you're still looking, which triggers her fear of you leaving. If you can make her feel less comfortable, she'll suck your dick like a champ again. But, long term, this will probably happen again. You might have to drop her and find a girl who just loves giving head for the sake of giving head. My girlfriend is like that.

>>18523759
men are such pieces of work.

>>18523767
Great advice my man. It sucks that i have to play mind games in order to get sexual stimulation. Women who enjoy blowing dick after the honemoon phase... exist?

>>18523774
Why do you say that? I wish i could "turn off" this random desire of feeling that my gf enjoys sucking my dick. But i know she does not. And when i remember that, i feel pissed off. Cheated. Like, "wow, i have to live like this from now on?" It hurts. I feel that the only option is to break up. I have talked to her about this, which is probably the worst mistake first hand. I shouldn't have brought it up.

>Weekly rent
what the fuck? lol. I've never heard of rent being due weekly in my life.

Anyway OP, you might be better off starting with buying up preexisting houses to rent out.
My dad's friend does this, he took out a loan, bought his first house that was a real fixer upper, fixed it up and started renting it out.

I think he then takes a mortgage out on the house, the rent from the tenants pays the mortgage bills, and he buys a new property to rent.
After some time, it'll begin to add up. Don't think he does the mortgage anymore, he just has the cash to buy up cheap little 50k broken down houses.

Trick is you have to learn how to be a handy man and fix everything yourself. The more you have to hire other people to do it, the more money you're losing.

Also look into areas surrounding universities. No university in all of the US has a dorm that is cheaper and nicer than any rental. That's why they contractually force you to stay in their dorms for at least 1-2 years in order to go there.
My dad has a rental house in a college town, dropped 60k on a 3br house in need of serious repair. Fixed it up, is renting it out for 1000 a month to college kids. College kids are always looking for cheap housing so tenants are always flowing in and out. When he's done with it, due to the renovations he's put into it, he'll be able to sell it easily for more than the 60k he bought it for. Meaning all of the rent he's making is pure profit.

>>18523749
It's usually for people who are only in the area for a short time, but don't want to live out of a hotel. Railway workers really like weekly rent.

>>18523728
No. You have to maintain the property, as well as pay property taxes. You can do whatever you want in your house, but repairs to electrical, AC, and Plumbing requires a skilled tradesmen, who charge 60 dollars per hour, plus whatever materials are needed. So, say a pipe bursts. You're gonna be out thousands. AC unit breaks? Hundreds at minimum.

You would also have no job to provide insurance, which means you would need to pay for it. Even if you farmed, you'd still need to purchase food.

Sorry.