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Just go for it, anon. There will definitely be people in your life who will be wary of the age gap under legitimate concerns (power imbalance, long-term difference in goals...). If you're prepared for that kind of criticism and nothing else is holding you back then why not. Test the waters and tread softly as with all new relationships.

I hope it works out for you.

The whole age thing has never been an issue for me (unless it is something like a 25-yeear old dating a 14-year old or something). If you like him and he likes you and you enjoy each others company, who really cares? What matters is that you are both happy, nothing else.

My dad is like 25 years older than my mom and they've bee very happily married for over 25 years now. My dad is in his 80s and is starting to become more emotional/forgetful in his old age. I think this is the only real conscern worth worrying about when dating an older person. Would you be willing to continue supporting them one they start mentally deteriorating much earlier than you.

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>>18532456

2/4
>> Not sexually active, nor do i delude myself into thinking that i'd be an attractive partner socioeconomically for the quality of woman that i'd find compatible emotionally for my age
>>My libido is at an all time low, haven't had sex in 2 years though i fantasize about it sometimes.
>>I do get aroused but I do not see any purpose in dating a girl when my sexual faculities are compromised, my own inability to meet my past performance standards cause my pride to disregard any relationships as soon as they may begin to sprout. Emotionally it would be nice, but it feels so mentally alien with the culture of mainstream feminism and race traitor dindu fucker.
>>Strange double standard of not wanting to feel inadquate, yet knowing i am currently inadquate that has me in a state of limbo misery.
>>I figure this will probably make me a full blown sadist later on
>>I do want to raise a child, i don't care so much about having to maintain a wife due to the above..Have given up on having real happiness in my life for the mostpart, want to live for the dream of giving my future potential children a chance.

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>>18532462

3/4

>>Fastciotomy Surgery for comaprtment syndrome, chronic in both lower legs in all three compartment (2014) Didnt resolve it

>>25 doctors, 12 specialists over 10 years i have seen including massage, physio, rehab, sports specific, etc etc many many tests and mris later has me in a state of perpetual pain if i do not sucuumb to drug relief.

>>It turns out i am genetically predisposed to having poor circulation. This effected my legs, causing tremors lasting an hour having taking a 5 minute stroll down the block. I have it now in my back, paraspinal, forearms, chest, abs, basically everywhere and i have to take meds.
>>For a few years i would take Naproxen 500mg x 2 ED to 'take the edge off' my muscle tightness from going about my day. Add Tramadol at night 200mg and ADD medication Dexedrine 30mg x 2 ED and you get the picture.
>>I want to settle down already, i understand as i get older this dehibilitation will get worse.

Go on.

Cuck or be cucked. There is no middle ground.

Don't do it.

>>18532421
Don't do it, cops can get away with murder, you can fuck a single woman

>>18532414
He may be a genius but he sounds like an asshole. Ditch him.

He may know a lot but how to treat people is clearly not his forte. It's not difficult to be a decent human being. Apparently he missed out on studying that.

I'm still in uni and I'm sort of facing the same issue. Except I don't give a fuck and am only "friends" with this guy because I honestly feel bad for him.

He's incredibly smart. Aced Orgo I and II with flying colors as a freshman, is currently partaking in research and is doing really well for himself. But he's an arrogant asshole whose self-righteousness pisses everyone out every. single. time. we hang out with him.

I'm ready to cut him off but he's literally suicidal. I feel bad for the kid. Honestly. He was bullied throughout high school but that is no reason to treat people like shit. Using your past and your mental issues as an excuse to be a douchebag is fucked up. No matter how intelligent you are.

Damn, this whole thing is pissing me off. Thanks OP.

>>18532414
Dwell on the harm this relationship has done to you. Consider the effects of your dependency. Losing money in the past is no reason to continue losing money. He's using you; it doesn't seem like he's teaching you anything.

Doing fancy tricks isn't valuable. That is, it IS strictly valuable in our nihilistic society, but it has no worth beyond the trick. He's just a person, and being dependent on such a person does no good for your well being.

Cut contact, make sure you're aware of anything illegal or unsavory he might use against you, move away if you have to.

I want to meet your friend. Where do you live?

>>18532288
>fapping is the same as pissing
>there's nothing else that will fill the void
you're so wrong. bullshit like this is why you waste a lot of your day fapping.

>seeing nude females is a rush for me and I could just lay and bed and watch porn all day
I'm glad something is giving you a rush, and I hope you're using proper technique. You really should have goals in life that are bigger than jerking off, though.

Ever since i stopped sleeping and started gaming and watching fictional political animes i have not paid attention to or acted upon my sexual urges.

>>18532288
> I could be playing a video game and reducing this back log of games I haven't beat. but instead I am thinking about masturbating.

Or you could do something more productive and or fulfilling than playing video games. Try working out, picking up an actual hobby, etc.

Also stop jerking off. My max is something like 11 days. By the eleventh day I almost had no urge.
You're right to an extent. It is a losing game. It's only a matter of time, unless you chop your nuts off. Especially considering how women dress in public, it makes it a whole lot harder to fight those urges.

Friends are people you enjoy spending time with and strive to do so.

>>18532201
>I've been clinically depressed for over a decade and have looong since given up on trying to do anything about it

Then this question is meaningless. Nothing we say will change how you feel about people because you need something to counter the chemical imbalance in your brain.

>>18532234
>Nothing we say will change how you feel
That wasn't the question.

>>18532151
One of those things that shall never be discussed again. That is like admitting that you sniffed your sisters dirty panties after she was done with volleyball practice.

I don't know why he would even admit that. NB4 he was drinking anon

>>18532151
Idk, I am a girl and I've been with my bf for almost 7 years. Used to fantasize and masturbate to the thought of him a few years before we started dating.

I told him and he thought it was cute. Personally, I'd feel flattered because then I'd know he's super into me.

Guess it depends on how you feel about it though.

I can imagine feeling a bit weird about this, especially if he faked not knowing stuff about you that you have now realized he did know all this time. But to me it's not really alarming. It's not uncommon at all to have a good/strong feeling about someone right away, nor is (at least from what internet lets me believe) masturbating to facebook pictures.

>>18532150

Virginity is not a virtue, it doesn't make you or anyone else special.

Do you think a girl that has only had sex once is already "defiled"?

Wanting to date a virgin is fine, accepting no substitutes is stupid. Unless the girl has a history of having stds, cheating, or in general being shitty she's fine to date. Also it takes serious trauma or similar effort to permanently stretch a vagina if that's what concerns you

>>18532156
yes

women should save themselves for marriage. or at least, for someone they are in love with

Why? Because a woman's value decreases the more people she's had sex with. sluts know this, that's why they lie about their history/don't brag about how many they've slept with.

Why? Because a woman's biological imperative is to lock down the best possible mate to raise her offspring. When a woman has sex for the first time, oxytocin is released, which is the bonding hormone that allows women to feel attached to their partner/baby. when a woman gets pump and dumped, she becomes jaded and she feels less oxytocin, thus her ability to pair bond diminishes.

not only that, but recent studies have shown that prior men's DNA actually becomes encased inside women, and accumulates in their brains/spines, and actually gets passed on to their children

there are many scientific reasons for why non-virgin women are less valuable than virgin women.

Not only that, but it's an emotional thing. How can you be happy knowing you will never be her first?

>>18532095

Why do you love her?

>>18532112 Because I'm a fucking retard that can't control their feelings

>>18532117

So she is not special at all? She is like all the other girls?

>>18531992
Wear a condom you faggot.

Plan B is a pill.
Pulling out is a great way to have a baby.

>>18531992
Could always get an abortion if things go wrong

>>18531992
Pulling out works if you do it right, take a plan b after if you're extra paranoid

>>18531926

Don't do it in the middle of the party. Walk to the balcony/roof, or hang around a less traversed area with her and then make a move.

Even if you are cuddling in the couch while hanging and talking with everybody, that's still not the best place to make a move.

>>18531936
it's a very crowded event

>>18531949

Then maybe it's not the best place to do it.

But just for the sake of argument, can't you walk with her to the store and get something? Walk out for some fresh air or a smoke? If you are literally never alone with her, then I don't think she is very into you, mate.

>>18531917
She clearly has some big time abandonment issues. I would try to reconcile with her over the short term, and maybe approach the elephant in the room much later (months, a year).

These things happen. In the future just make sure you're perceptive of her needs (security in this case).

>>18531917
Did you pay for the house?

If so then you have no need to get out.

I think she's overreacting a hell of a lot.
It is inconsiderate yes but jumping right to cheating is a huge fucking leap on her part

>>18531991
I found her making that stretch to show me she doesn't trust me at all. I would never do something like that. We haven't even been married a year yet. It's her house. She said I fucked up our marriage by doing that and will never forgive me. She says really fucking horrible terrible shit to me often. All I said to her was that she had been a decitful mother fucker for what had happened. Which I guess was kind of a misunderstanding. I have so many hurtful memories of things she'd said to me, but this is probably one of the worst. Part of me thinks it was kind of a test to see if I would.

ayy gurl u want sum fucc

I thought I told you to stop whoring yourself online

>>18531847
"Ugly bitch" "a bunch of heart emojis" "Please dont leave me"

>>18531788
What age are both of you? Do you have any other asset (is your home paid off if you have one?) I'm guessing your around age 35-50, in which case 500,000 EUR won't be enough for a retirement most likely. However, you both could consider part time or a staged retirement. 500k EUR would likely be able to support this plan

>>18531797
29 and 30. home is completely paid off. retirement at 30 is kind of sad?

>>18531815
You guys are doing very well for yourselves if your only low 30s with that amount of assets. However, at that age and with that amount of funds, you would probably need more money for an actual retirement. You could both work for 10 more years and then retire? With some contributions from a job, coupled with investment returns, your money should double to 1mil EUR in 10 years.

Soooo....you wanna be the dude in the relationship. Good luck, unless he's a beta twink or some cuck faggot then almost no guy would be cool with you trying to be the one mainly running shit in the relationship.

find a cuck

Find a 5 year old boy.