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>>18533172
>How can I stop feeling lonely but don't really want friends
Well Goldfish are a start but since you don't want friends you are probably not going to feed them.

>>18533172
So, you're female I guess?

You needn't envy others, maybe they envy you for living a life free from all those dramas that come along with socializing? You should really focus on finding a one good friend, even if just on the internet, you don't have to force yourself to be an extrovert if it doesn't suit you.

>>18533225
I guess what I mean to ask is... How can I be happy and not feel social empty without friends?
Is there a way for me to feel fulfilled socially without relying on anyone else? I don't want friends, not even one. I just want to be alone, but I feel melancholy while alone.

Worst of all, I can't be productive when I feel like this, so I can't even distract myself with work or hobbies.

>>18533157
I've worked part time jobs before where there is a lot of strain on my back, and lesson I have learned is that when you try to lift something from the ground, you squat, grab it, and lift yourself up using your feet, as if you were doing the squats. Never bend over to pick something heavy up, it fucks up our spine over a short time.

>>18533157
You need physiotherapy, NSAID+Omeprazol and a couple of weeks working 50% or better just off work

A good back brace helps so long as you don't get bad habits with it, naturally always lift with legs, and do various back/ core exercises. I know working out is likely the last thing you want to do after work but it really does help.

Source: worked in receiving for 4 years.

Talk to a therapist.

well obviously you have some thing where you associate sex with feelings of shame.

what scarred you from being sexually intimate ?

>>18533162
I do have a therapist. I've been in therapy for most of my life even. I'm somehow comfortable with talking about every other aspect of my life, but I just can't bring this up. It scares me. I don't talk to anyone about this shit.

>>18533167
If I knew I would have mentioned it. I have no idea. Sometimes I also just get really weird about being touched, but that has improved greatly. I don't have any memory of anything sexual being associated with shame in my life. One time I got caught looking at porn by my grandpa, but it never got brought up at all. So that was cool of him. Nothing else as far as I know.

They are. Engagement and wedding rings are retarded too, but at least they have tradition on their side.

>>18533144
they are retarded

>>18533144
They're for insecure fucks.

Get a student job and start from there.
I didn't have a job until I was 19 too but I do well and my boss loved me.
Make connections in the right places and you'll have offers waiting for you.

Go flip burgers, unskilled labor means unskilled. They take anyone with a pulse that's halfway dependable. I delivered pizzas and worked a help desk during college. Both sucked, but both paid and you don't need anything more than basic social skills and math to do.

>>18533130
lie on your job application. Everyone I know (people my age working at fastfood places) lie on theirs. Make it believable.

>why does something males usually have to work for but I give right away make me easy
Oh well gee, beats me.

>>18533100
Honestly, not quite the norm but I do think girls are slutty or easy if they've got more than 5 couples under their belt. Not because they're girls, but because I'm not into casual sex. If I was a girl I wouldn't date a guy like that either.

there are less eggs than sperm so if woman fuck than she a whore because pregnant bitch is not good bitch

suicide is always an option
the world needs ditch diggers too

Military.
That's my out
I did the same mistake as you.

The military loves undergrads

>>18533032
The best and most motivated grad of the shittiest school will have more success in life than a deadhead who floated through Harvard.

>>18533020
By doing math

>>18533020
The bottom line for math is following instructions
It's essentially the same as that game toddlers play. You know with the shaped blocks? Star goes in star hole, round goes with round, square with square.

It's exact same.
"Advanced" math is just that.
Find the slots where things go

Basically practicing until it clicks. Take advantage of your resources. You're having an IEP, so you must be in some program that offers extra aid to students with academic struggles. Don't be afraid to ask for help.

My SO has a math learning disability(dyscalculia, similar to dyslexia but with numbers) and I tutor him while he's in college. It's been a real struggle and it's literally the only thing keeping him away from a degree. We just go over material from his class, and if he doesn't understand, I take it a step back to a simpler type of the same problem. Basically math is all crawling before you walk, if you don't understand pre-algebra, you may need to refresh your basic core math and master those skills.

You'll have to take a placement exam and it will put you in the exact right math for you; colleges are smart like that

>>18532961
Math isn't a thing
What a thing is recollection

Remembering formulae is the name of the game
Since you managed to graduate highschool, we must assume that you memorized the entire multiplication table.
Math is no different.
You did it once, you can do it again

Hit the books hard, my friend.

sounds like youre just paranoid but youre also not wrong. people talk shit, i know because i do it too all the time, and im mean too

>>18532963

Yeah I figure it could be paranoia since it mostly happens when Im high/drunk.

Why do you talk shit? do you do it so the person can hear? want to incite a reaction?

>>18533019
i do it because its funny and i can have a laugh with whoever im talking to. its bonding and shit

>>18532938
Miss op have u ever considered suicide? Shotgun to head is quick and painless also messy. Haha kidding. Real advise. Go on tinder and take some poor dudes virginity and let him buy flowers 4 u. Then dump him. That works wonder 4 self esteem

>>18532954
I can't think of anyone but him now. Also tinder is nasty.

>>18532959
Okay then brothel or bummble. If it helps have a photo of him if u still have one and paste it on a cardboard bag, like those they give a t the convinient store. Put wholes where the eyeholes are and make the virgin guy put the bag on his head. Also call him chad... if that' HIS name of course and make him study engeneering post coitus to help remember the feeling of being with him. Dont let him take the bag off his head

>>18532872
Aight because you lost feelings for her

She honestly probably fucked some dude when she broke up with You then realised it was a mistake


Dude you don't love her anymore. End it

>>18532872

two reasons

1) the honeymoon phase was over anyways, and thats when you realize whether or not something is real or just a crush you had based on the excitement of someone new

2) herb reaking up just two months in changed your feelings because thats what happens when someone breaks up with you.

>>18532872
>>18532899
I think this guy might be right... She may have been in a situation with another guy where she wanted to mess around but felt guilty about having a boyfriend, so she broke it off real fast and had fun, then tried to get back with you later...

Maybe that's not what happened, but I can't think of any other reason a girl would break up with a guy out of nowhere and get back together with him on the same day.

She's either crazy or got some side dick.

>>18532867
tenes 19 años y recien estas entrando a cuarto grado? sos un retardado mental. ni dios te puede ayudar querido.

lmao cuarto semestre, srry

>>18532867
Español no es mi lengua nativa, entonces lo siento si hay errores
También me tardé en formando esos hábitos y estoy en mi último año de la universidad lol -- estudias las matematicas, asi que es posible que los hábitos mios (estudio bio) no van a ayudarte para nada pero aqui son:
>sacando apuntes como outline cuando estas leendo para revisar en el futuro - esto va a ayudarte en identificar topicos importantes cuando los necesitas, sin buscando demasiado
>si estas tomando clases con lecturas, ten un idea de lo que el profesor va a hablar antes de clase. Para mi el primer tiempo que encuentro algo nunca entiendo todo. Esto me ha ayudo sacar mas de cada clase/lectura
>cuando necesitas estudiar pero no quieres hacerlo, hazlo por unos minutos y algo mas divertido por unos minutos (idealmente debe gastar menos tiempo en divertirse que en estudiar -- quizas 5/15 o 15/45 -- pero si estas trabajando estas trabajando)

Who are you OP? How would you describe yourself?

The only way to live is to strive for something. And there are so many things that something can be. Right now it seems you're striving for something to strive for. I don't have an answer for what that might be, but make it simple. Pick something and just absorb yourself in it. If you end up hating it, then that's a step towards finding something better. If you end up loving it, case closed.

Thinking like this, it's just a deconstructive abstraction. Those will always immobilize you. I happen to like to read. But do I really? Do I actually enjoy scanning my eyes across the page, stopping on each word and recalling the associations I have previously made with them? Do I like to spend hours listening to some asshole I'll never meet jerk himself on paper off over ideas he thinks are right and good? When I put it like that, no it fucking sucks. So I just like to read. I could state it a few happier ways too, or I could just keep it simple.

>>18532863
>How would you describe yourself?
I don't know, really. My therapist asked me this recently, and I had no answer. Most people who enjoy what they do for a living can probably describe themselves by their profession. People who dedicate themselves to an interest or a hobby could probably describe themselves like that. If I'm neither of these, then I don't know what that makes me. A loser?

>Thinking like this, it's just a deconstructive abstraction. Those will always immobilize you.
You're probably right. I don't know what I want to do, but I do know I'm not happy where I am now. I've been looking for a new job, one that doesn't make me hate getting up in the morning, but I keep second guessing all my choices. Every time I think "Is this really what I want to do with my life? Is this really the path I want to take my career down? Would taking this job take me further away from doing what I really want? (assuming I can figure out what that is)"

>>18533001
I have similar struggles. It has gotten better for me. However, I still struggle with knowing who I am, and I still often hesitate or second guess myself. Usually getting me into bigger shit than if I had just picked either. I think that's the key for me, just making a choice and learning to live with it. Just picking something to be and being it. It might also be for you.

Buddha said happiness is learning to want what you have, and to not want what you don't have. And I take that as sort of a motto these days. One can learn to love any place in life. For me, a ton of good books helped lead me along the way. There are many places to find inspiration though, and many ways to learn to love who and where you are.

I even find that dumb confidence can improve life. For a while I decided to fake it until I made it. I "ironically" (as a way of tricking my own low self esteem I guess) liked myself, and people responded pretty well to it. Eventually that was just real confidence. Those questions of "is this right for me?" if you spend enough time on them, lead you down the path of "no". Doubt can eat you alive. Maybe just spend a while without it. See how it goes.

If it's totally legal (as in paying for sex and selling sex are legal), you can actually call the cops if she scams you, or at least go to some authority. Fraud is still illegal even though prostitution is legal.

There's a >90% chance she wouldn't rip you off, just it's pretty much a ripoff if she actually does it if you're actually a solid 7.

>>18533123
work 2 jobs and full time study load, don't drink, don't get pleasure from socialising... i literally have zero problem paying for it when all the effort is taken away

>>18533279
2 days pay is kind of a lot for anything you can get for free.